Honestly Better Mental Fitness

How to Empty Your Bag of StonesA step-by-step walk through the Mental Clearing Process

You've felt the weight. You've seen what it costs. Now here's what to do about it.

In this episode, Travis walks through the Mental Clearing Process step by step and not just the what, but the why behind each step. Why you have to feel it before you can release it. Why letting go isn't erasing. Why your mind holds on to things in the first place. And what it feels like when you finally clear something that has been sitting in your bag of stones for years or decades.

This episode includes Travis's own 5-day story of doing this work, and one of the most memorable metaphors in the series: a poisonous snake in your kitchen and what that has to do with forgiveness.

What You'll Learn:

• Step 1: How to create the mental and physical safety needed to go deep
• Step 2: How to recall a trigger and why specificity matters
• Step 3: How to acknowledge blame, one person at a time, starting with the most energy
• Step 4: How to allow emotions fully and why this has to be a body experience, not just a head one
• Step 5: How to reframe, finding what's real, what's good, and what you were meant to learn
• Step 6: What forgiveness actually means and what it doesn't
• Step 7: Start over, repeat the process for each person or event until there's no energy left around it
• Why your brain holds on (the snake story) and how to know when you're done

I'm Fine and Other Lies We Tell OurselvesThe difference between genuine peace and the story we tell to survive

When someone asks how you're doing and you say "I'm fine"...are you? Or are you just out of hope that anything will change?

In this episode, Travis draws a hard line between apathy and true acceptance, the two states that look similar from the outside but couldn't be more different on the inside. He explains why numbness isn't peace, why anger is actually healthier than apathy, and why the moment you blame someone else for how you feel, you've handed them all your power.

This is the episode that makes you realize you might be carrying more than you think and that the weight you've been calling "just how I am" is actually something you can put down.

What You'll Learn:

• The difference between apathy and true acceptance and why most people are stuck in apathy without knowing it
• Why anger actually contains more hope than numbness
• What it really means to own your emotions and what you give up when you don't
• Why being triggered is always your responsibility, not the other person's
• The gap between who you want to be and who you are and why it exists

Why Your Brain Is Running Out of Battery The hidden cost of everything you've been pushing down

Most people assume they're tired, distracted, or just wired a certain way. What if the real reason is something else entirely and it's something invisible, accumulating quietly in the background of your mind?

In this episode, Mike and Travis introduce the Mental Clearing Process: what it is, why almost everyone needs it, and why so few people know it exists. Using real stories, neuroscience, and a metaphor that will stick with you, they explain how unresolved experiences silently drain your mental energy and what it looks like when you finally start to clear them out.

What You'll Learn:

• Why anxiety, depression, and stress are actually misdirected energy and what to do about it
• How your brain is like a flooded hard drive running out of RAM
• Why the things you pushed down years ago are still costing you energy today
• What it feels like when triggers become curiosity instead of hijacks
• Why this process works for everyday frustrations and life-changing events alike

My experience with Travis was so effective, he became the on-call mental fitness coach for my entire family. Our family dynamic went through such a positive and dramatic transformation that I knew the tribe at L&H Industrial needed him.

We initially hired Travis to meet with each employee one-on-one for five sessions. However, we underestimated the power of an entire team of mentally fit gearheads. The results were so phenomenal that we extended Travis' reach to the employees' spouses and children...

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

L&H Industrial at lnh.net

Distractions surround us. Even alone in a quiet room, most of us have the ding of a notification occasionally. The average person checks their phone every twelve minutes and looks at it approximately one hundred fifty times every day. Add meetings, e-mails, task-switching, thinking about the argument you had an hour ago, and boredom, and you can begin to see how easily we lose valuable time for productivity.

Fortunately, late in the last century, psychologists and scientists began looking at high-performing individuals to find out how they achieved at such a consistent rate. Scientists discovered that while we can process between twenty and four hundred bits of information per second with our conscious mind, our subconscious mind is capable of processing more than four billion bits in the same time frame...

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

L&H Industrial at lnh.net

After you identify and begin to work in your natural strengths, you'll have more clarity regarding where you want to be in one, five, or ten years. You'll be able to lay out a plan to use those strengths to reach your goal, and because you know yourself, you'll understand what drives you to reach that target. It's what we call our mission, vision, and values.

When you know and love yourself, the things you believe are most important in your life consistently float to the top. Few ever consider their individual core values. We tend to grab hold of the values of people or organizations around us. However, if we examine the statements we resonate with, we can begin to identify our own. Even without writing them down or formally stating them, the more intimately we know ourselves, the more we see these uncompromising standards we carry deep within us...

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

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Beautiful things begin to happen when you start to know yourself and love yourself. Our change in mindset increases our ability to be the person we were meant to be. It gives us the power to choose the things we want to do and don't want to do. Subconsciously, we would often prefer to allow someone else to make the decision for us. That way, if things go awry, we can blame the circumstance or another person.

It's sad the number of people who spend years trying to mimic their parents or mentors. High school seniors choose universities based on their friends' acceptance letters. Without a mind transformation, young adults declare a college major according to the anticipated salary. Nearly fifty percent of students enter college undeclared, and seventy-five percent change their major at least once in their four- or five-year adventure...

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

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I have good news and bad news.

The bad news is our lives are exactly what we've set them up to be. People push back when I say that. Most who live in misery tell me, “I certainly wouldn't have set up this life.” Unfortunately, it's a truth we can't escape.

But the good news is by accepting this reality, you have the capability to change it. You're not too old, and you're not too young. It doesn't matter what your bank account says or what job you're currently working. American philosopher and psychologist William James said, “If you can change your mind, you can change your life.” Embracing the fact you get to choose whether you live in misery or joy has more potential and power than you can imagine, and the transformation begins when you believe in your ability to choose...

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

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The moment I heard Mike Wandler speak in a Strategic Coach® workshop, I said to myself, “I want to get to know more about this guy and his business.”

First off, I was deeply impressed with his value proposition statement, “We design, manufacture, and maintain the biggest machines on the earth.” Secondly, I was also impressed with the way he viewed productivity, team management, and energy efficiency. With a closer look, I discovered he was doing something unique and different, because his results were unique and different...'

—Dr. Kary Oberbrunner, CEO of Igniting Souls, Wall Street Journal and USA Today Bestselling Author

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Know Thyself, Love Thyself by Mike Wandler

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Ever feel like you're just going through the motions? Like you're checking things off your to-do list. Yeah, being productive and all that, but still something's missing. 

That feeling of deep satisfaction, like you're busy, but not truly fulfilled. Yeah, I think we've all been there.

Totally, and that's exactly what we're diving into today with Mike Wandler's book Know Thyself, Love Thyself...

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