Honey

What happens when a long-time Sarah Paulson fan meets a woman who looks just like Sarah Paulson on OKCupid? They fall deeply in love, that’s what! Jess and Elena are engaged, and they fight about the religious upbringing of the baby they’re never going to have, Jessica’s oversharing about stuff she bought and loves, and… money. Jess has always been thrifty, and Elena is now out of debt, and addressing their own issues with money has helped both of them grow in this relationship. Visit Honey on Facebook to see lots of cute stuff, including Jess’s Sarah Paulson doppelganger picture and their engagement video!

Craig and Dahlya are exes! They met on Bumble, dated for ten months and broke up about four months ago. They didn’t really fight, but they did break up, and we find out exactly why. Julia was so excited to talk to exes but it actually makes her brain short-circuit because she’s so used to talking to couples who are in it to win it. How does the knowledge that a relationship is going to end affect how you deal with its problems? We also talk about when one person in the relationship is feeling successful and happy and the other person... is not. It's hard!

Nick and Muriel are MARRIED PEOPLE! They’ve known each other since they were just small street artists in Seattle! They’ve known each other for over half of their lives. We talk a lot about how their relationship has changed. Muriel is historically a caretaker, and a crisis in her family led her to realize she needed to stop doing that. She and Nick describe how they continue to navigate this change in their relationship.

Jordan and Kylee met acting in a production of Beauty and the Beast at Utah's Pickleville Playhouse, and now they are engaged!!! Their disagreement is pretty dramatic - Kylee thinks Jordan should tell his family that he is no longer a practicing Mormon, Jordan thinks it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. Kylee has 13 siblings, Brady Bunch style, and Jordan is from a smaller family (listen to hear how he handles it when his sister accuses him of thinking her unborn baby doesn't have a soul!). These two are such a perfect, complementary pair and a great case study of handling conflict when dealing with each other's families. The tumblr we mention that showcases absurd theater publicity photos: https://prisdifficult.tumblr.com/

David and Becca are MARRIED PEOPLE who got engaged after dating for only one month. I can’t resist asking them about this craziness so we hear a lot about how they’re so smitten with each other (sorry). Their big fight is about the board game Epic Spell Wars. Becca corrects David about a rule and alleges that he blows up at her. David alleges that this "blow up" was obviously joking mock anger. We get a witness to weigh in! Additionally, Becca is a great organizer and sometimes can cause tension by throwing away something of David's, but he always comes to realize he didn't need it anyway. Lastly, please check out David's podcast, Growing Up.

"What makes a healthy relationship? Two healthy people that come together as independent people and then evolve as partners.” Justin and Isley are two Long Island badasses who have been married for 45 years! Their arguments have changed in many ways – Isley is now retired, the kids are grown up, and their arguing has evolved the way they have evolved as people. Justin is a therapist so we get a lot of real solid actual advice instead of the ramblings of some crazy single chick! We talk about the five stages of marriage (hint: if you get to stage four, you’re gonna go the distance), and the importance of working on your relationship by working on yourself. Justin and Isley are Rachel's parents! Check out their episode to see how Rachel and Matt are similar and different from Justin and Isley.

Kim and Ben are engaged! This episode is bookended by the story of their elaborate proposal (on stage at the Fonda, where Kim works as a bartender!). Kim is a brassy New York broad and Ben is literally a champion debater, so they know what they’re talking about here. Kim is fully able to ice someone out if she’s mad at them, and Ben won’t let her do it. A lot of fights come from the fact that Kim is an optimistic, fearless, and possibly magically lucky person…?? And Ben is the opposite. So their different worldviews cause some conflict – we really dig into a fight about handling raw chicken. They both agree that the most important part of a fight is the communication afterwards – they do NOT agree about who is a more dangerous driver. So for the first time ever on Honey, we call in a witness to settle the thing.

Ashley and Mike are MARRIED PEOPLE!!! They have been together for 11 1/2 years! Mike gives this brilliant description of fighting: “When you’re emotionally opposed in whatever way, when you want different things and you either can’t communicate it properly or your interests are so conflicted that it spills into other things.” Ashley doesn’t like to communicate and Mike LOVES IT! Their common fight stems from Ashley being annoyed, Mike not knowing why, and him pestering her about it. This is because Mike was raised by all women and therefore he loves feelings and he loves chatting -- Ashley not so much. Their other fight is a SEX FIGHT! Learn all about how Ashley wants to have sex more than Mike does and the drama it creates (just kidding it doesn’t really create drama). We also talk about Matt and Naomi’s episode (Very Fast and Very Appropriate) check it out!!! The three of us also spend a significant amount of time fixing WHAT’S WRONG WITH THE INTERNET.

Pete and Jen are married people! They’ve been together for 17 years. They grew up 10 minutes away from each other in Massachusetts. How great! They can go home and see both of their families at the same time! Guess again! They both come from very tight loving families and they fight over them when they go home to Boston. Also find out why you should run far far away from someone who says loyalty is important to them. For the first time ever (I think?), the guests give ME advice about a fight (a political one, buckle your seatbelt). We also talk about the difference between not trusting someone and wanting to protect your relationship.

Allison and Jimmy are AN UTTER DELIGHT. They have been together for about two years, but it is unclear because while they were initially dating, Allison fully just DISAPPEARED. I believe the term the kids use is “ghosting.” Jimmy was undeterred, though, and continued to message Allison for months with no response. It all worked out for them, but guys, I cannot emphasize this enough -- DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME. We also discuss the logistics of supporting your partner in a conflict with someone else, touch briefly on vegetarian vs. carnivore, and learn that Jimmy and Allison’s grandma text each other regularly (for God’s sake).