honey talks with katya nova (@nurturingnovas)

I’m 40 weeks pregnant with our 3rd baby, Aluna, and I have the incredible honour of sitting down with Emilee & Yolande of Free Birth Society. 

The truth, as we’re about to find out, is that women’s bodies are brilliantly made, our babies are wise, birth is inherently safe, and, in Yolande’s words, birth is not a laborious trial from which we need deliverance, but a glorious, normal, biologically & psychologically important initiation into motherhood.

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Discussed in this episode:

- interventions you might not have considered

- what is mammalian / spontaneous / physiological / “free” birth?

- why protecting the hormonal blueprint is so important?

- cultural myths we’ve absorbed

- why birthing in power stories are important

- Yolande’s birth story teaser

- pain and ecstasy in birth

- what about fear?

- why we birth the way we live

Mentioned in this episode:

- Sarah Buckley

- Michel Odent

- Sovereign Birth

- Yolande’s book: “Wild Pregnancy, Free Birth: A Guide to Manifesting Your Ecstatic Homebirth” (out early 2020)

Amber experienced her first spiritual awakening at 7 when her mother died. She shares how her childhood lessons shaped her relationship to pain and to Spirit. Also, how (without even intending to do so), she inspired thousands of women to find power and pleasure in birth with her appearance in two documentaries. Now a mama to two boys, ages 14 and 9, she shares conscious parenting secrets to empower us all.

connect with Amber: http://www.amberhartnell.com/

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Discussed in the episode:

- Amber’s spiritual awakening at 7 when her mother died

- learning to transcend pain as a child

- what is spiral & continual expansion during birth

- how to cultivate capacity to be with strong sensation

- ecstatic vs orgasmic

- how to build a birth field

- how to create a meaningful ritual with children

- raising boys to be sensually aware men

- Amber’s “Embodied Resonance” attunement sessions

Mentioned in the episode:

- “Birth as We Know it” documentary

- “Orgasmic Birth” documentary

- Birthing from Within book

Emilee of Freebirth Society helps Katya unpack some of the reasons for having a completely Wild Pregnancy. They discuss what it means to be a Wild Woman, share menarche stories, and laugh over stories of moon time sex, breastmilk lattes, and Emilee’s #1 tip for having an orgasmic birth.

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discussed in this episode: 

- how to take up your wildness

- our menarche stories

- walking through rites of passage

- sex during moon time

- breastmilk lattes

- my wild pregnancy

- visions of Taino ancestors

- how to call on your guides

- orgasmic birth

- podcast episode Witchy Wellness #24

Season 3 opens with an intimate, brutally honest wife-husband conversation about navigating this 3rd pregnancy with two small kids, our sex life, porn confessions, our vasectomy conflict, how we’re preparing for the arrival of this baby, and how we’re hoping to face the challenges of a pretty sad sex life.

Books mentioned in the episode:

"Sex at Dawn" by Cacilda Jetha & Christopher Ryan

"Untrue" by Wednesday Martin

"The Truth" by Neil Strauss

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Never in a million years did I think I’d be talking to a male OBGYN about Burning Man, empowerment, patriarchy, and the spiritual side of birth and death?! 

For obvious reasons, I’m extra primed to talk about birth right now, but even if pregnancy and birth are not on your radar, I encourage you to stick around, because these conversations are so important and interesting and contraversial and entertaining!

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Discussed in the Episode:

- what funny shoes have to do with heavy things

- on witnessing birth and witnessing death

- Nathan’s experiences with hospice & palliative care

- why we’re the only species who doubt our ability to give birth

- obgyn residency: so what do you expect?

- why empowerment is key

- what is birthing in captivity

- Nathan’s story of witnessing a home birth

- what it’s like to be an OBGYN’s wife

- why birth control is the most patriarchal, destructive ‘tool’

- on loving Burning Man

Mentioned in the Episode:

- “Why We Don’t Move on from Grief” TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it

- Michel Oden

- Holotropic Breathwork

- Freebirth Society podcast

- Nathan on Indie Birth podcast

CONNECT WITH NATHAN ON IG: 

https://www.instagram.com/beyondthemd/

https://www.nathanrileymd.com/

This punk rock feminist, Angela Gallo, is a visionary, a poet, and a trailblazer who creates spaces where womxn can step into their fullest power.

She is a fierce motivational speaker who trains extraordinary Doulas and she’s not shy about her mission to change the world. Find out how to live from pleasure, how to say yes even when you’re uncomfortable, how to become the most epic, non-fragmented version of yourself, and so much more.

Discussed in episode:

- how can we be the ‘non-fragmented’ woman?

- the whole fkn package or nothing at all

- living from pleasure

- why pleasure (and self-pleasure) is so important

- using a crystal wand!

- the Vortex project & being seen

- saying yes when you’re uncomfortable

- why pregnancy can be the most creative, transformative time of your life

- the magic of when bodies come together

- how orgasm relates to thriving, not surviving

- why we will never find freedom on a conveyor belt

- on healing the Mother Wound

- being called to do deep soul work

- on bodily autonomy

- sensual birth

Books Presale

“the masks we wear: the obliteration of martyrdom, misogyny and motherhood as you know it”

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Upcoming Events

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Radical Resurgence Bali Retreat

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Dynamo Doula Online Training Program

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Facebook @TheAngelaGallo

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Are you an Empowered Lover? Gem take-aways: asking for what you want instead of complaining, how and why we need to rewire our nervous system together with our partner, how to fire up desire, how our cyclical nature affects sexual chemistry, the one thing that often at the heart of intense conflicts … and especially for the women listening, please stay till the end, as Achintya closes with some really powerful wisdom that might be a bit shocking for some of you, but is really, really worth hearing!

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Discussed in this episode:

- are you sure you know how to receive?

- instead of complaining - ask for what you want

- the one thing that’s often at the heart of intense conflicts

- how & why we need to rewire our nervous system together with our partners

- how to fire up desire

- how sexual cycles affect sexual chemistry

- why does our sexual energy decrease?

- who is a priestess?

- why we don’t even need to try

- how to reclaim our power through our womb blood

Mentioned in this episode:

-  Empowered Loving Couples Course (begins may 9 2019)

https://shemsheartwell.com/empoweredlovingcourse/

- Goddess Rising Mystery School https://www.goddessrising.org/

- Hendricks Institute https://hendricks.com/

Achintya Devi @goddess_rising https://www.instagram.com/goddess_rising/

Seems Heartwell @shemsheart https://www.instagram.com/shemsheart/

Liz Koch is an international educator, author with almost 45 years of experience specializing in the primal psoas. Among her most celebrated books are Mother, Maiden, Crone: Our Pleasure Playlist and her latest book Stalking Wild Psoas: Embodying Your Core Intelligence.

Precious wisdom about full body orgasms, why there are no ‘spinal column,’ ‘vaginal wall,’ or ‘pelvic floor;’ the magic of constructive rest, why you can’t poke the caterpillar, why and how to get our tail and tongue to ‘talk to each other,’ how to hydrate our connective tissue to stay lush and orgasmic, a special message for pregnant women, and our men. And so. much. more.

$25 off Liz Koch's course (mention Honey Talks):

https://coreawareness.com/events/remote-psoas-course-summer-2019/

Discussed in this episode:

- what core integrity has to do with sexual expression, full body orgasm (and relating to all life)

- what & where is our psoas?

- landing in our bones to connect to Mother Earth

- juicy core of our being, about showing up as “you”

- on having a full body orgasm

- on orgasmic communion with yourself / your partner

- altered states in birth?

- why you can’t poke the caterpillar

- how to hydrate the psoas (and why it’s so important)

- how and why we should be hydrating our connective tissue

- why there are no ‘spinal column,’ ‘vaginal wall,’ or ‘pelvic floor’

- getting our tail and tongue to ‘talk to each other’

- what is a ‘frigid’ woman?

- what is kinaesthetic awareness?

- on helping our children trust themselves

- body as object vs body as expression

- the magic of constructive rest

- what is the fetal curl?

- why we have to become resilient, not ‘strong’

- message to pregnant women!

- how to stay orgasmic and lush into your seventies

- how women show stress differently than men

- what are men seeking in sexual union?

- the psoas in men

Mentioned in this episode:

- “Women Who Run With the Wolves”

- Ana Verwaal: Womb to World http://www.fromwombtoworld.com/

- Emily Conrad: Continuum

- video: “Hydrating Movements for Spinal Midline and Psoas - Using a Deflated Ball   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_hBN01iEBU

- Deric Stockton: Fluid Movement

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connect with Liz: 

https://coreawareness.com/

Soshy was born into a world where from the age of 3 she was to be covered from the neck down. The first time she broke the rules she was in her teens, by buying a pair of blue jeans and listening to non-Jewish music. Disowned by her mother at 17, Soshy went through some seriously dark times, struggling with diets, binge eating, body image issues, depression, and low self-esteem.

We become fast friends, as we bare our souls about it all: confessions of secret binging behaviours in our youth, sex after motherhood, food and pleasure, what to do when we’re feeling gross, intuitive eating, loving yourself at every size, and how diet culture is effing us up, causing us to feel like we are never good enough!

CONNECT WITH SOSHY:

@bodyposimommy

https://www.embodynutrition.com/

Discussed in the episode:

- growing up in Hasidic Jewish Brooklyn … getting molested at 15, disowned & homeless at 17

- first time binge-eating … and no language for what was happening

- trying the first diet

- intuitive eating & love yourself at every size

- diet & identity

- Katya’s personal story of eating disorder

- ‘disordered eating’ vs. eating disorder

- why willpower doesn’t work?

- how sugar can be medicinal

- food and pleasure

- healing through sensual, mindful, sacred, ancestral Ayurvedic practices

- Hershey’s chocolate ritual

- if you’ve wanted to start growing food

- praying with food

- what to do when you’re feeling gross

- why we need to expand the definition of sex

- sex after motherhood

- how to look in the mirror

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Mentioned in the episode:

- Mark David, Psychology of Eating

- Sapiens

- Sex at Dawn

- Miranda & cake in “Sex and the City” scene

- Maya Tiwari “Path of Practice”

- Odesza “Across The Room” Yung Heat Rendition

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She grew up in the Canadian Rockies and spent a decade teaching yoga, tantra, and dance. Blaire is now a coach and educator specializing in embodiment, sensuality, and women's sexual health. She is living in dreamy Playa del Carmen, Mexico with her husband.

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Discussed in this episode:

- what is somatic experiencing?

- where to start with our trauma

- yoga & sexuality

- tantric school in India & living on a tantric island

- why knowing yourself spiritually and sexually are equally important

- how brokenness can be powerful motivation

- what sexual energy can create

- when your life force is freed up

- the most important practice to start with

- how to tell our partner what we want / like

- two main types of orgasms to understand

- what’s “edging”?

- self-pleasure or self-care

- what affects our lubrication

- unshaming pleasure

- you can’t shame away shame

- feminine rising on the planet

Mentioned in this episode:

- Peter Levine

- Agama Yoga, Rishikesh

- Language of Sensation

- “9 1/2 weeks” fridge scene :) 

- Blaire's Spotify playlist

CONNECT WITH BLAIRE: 

WEBSITE: https://blaire-lindsay.com/

IG: @blairelindsay