You may experience:

🔥 Fearfulness

🔥 Trust issues

🔥 Feel stuck

🔥 Chronic health issues

🔥 Nightmares and more!

Trigger warning! I dive into what someone can look like in a relationship.

They may:

Shame you

Belittle you

Blame shift

Play the victim and more...

Here is the Abandonment episode- Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: Abandonment Wounds https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/episodes/Abandonment-Wounds-e2df59o

Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: Setting healthy Boundaries in any relationship https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/episodes/Setting-healthy-Boundaries-in-any-relationship-e2bqui6

Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: Affirmations for you! https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/episodes/Affirmations-for-you-e29dbt2

I am still floating on cloud 9 after this beautiful and empowering ceremony. I had kicked around an idea of saying goodbye to my lady parts that's scheduled next month. I shared the idea with Charmaine @faceofhopeandbeauty and I asked if she knew of something or maybe @sabine_voegtli may have an idea to make this memorable. I was seriously thinking I would do something in my backyard but Charmaine took this dream and brought it to reality in a way that was beyond my expectations! Sabine was generous to incorporate a #cacaoceremony and her sunroom that is absolutely dreamy! It was the perfect setting! She also lent her sultry haunting voice to a powerful song that I will share separately. The circle was complete with Brianne Coleman who brought us a moment of grounding our emotions back in with love. The divine energy that I received from these powerhouses was overwhelming that I have been able to keep this feeling even 2 days later. There are so many blessings from this special time that I will always cherish! I had thought of this chapter as an ending but it is another phase that I will now step into with ease.

I know many can't wait to get rid of their parts. I was emotional as I tapped into how much this beautiful organ has been through. She has experienced sexual traumas. Loss of children by my own hand or as an act of God. She has supported and given life to 4 beautiful children. She known healthy pleasure and had lovers that gave her what she needed sometimes without strings.😉 She has carried scars and kept going strong. It was something more than being a vessel when I started to think of it. I am forever grateful to Charmaine for her creativity and love for making me feel the miracle of my womanhood. I encourage anyone that has wanted to do something special such as this! It was beautiful!

Here's where you can find these fabulous ladies I mentioned:

Charmaine- https://www.instagram.com/faceofhopeandbeauty?igsh=ZGNjOWZkYTE3MQ==

Sabine- https://www.instagram.com/sabine_voegtli?igsh=ZGNjOWZkYTE3MQ==

Brianne- https://www.instagram.com/briannecoleman?igsh=ZGNjOWZkYTE3MQ==

Learning how to budget- Starting over can be hard when it comes to finances. Even if you aren't a single Momma! Planning for the future is important.

Learn what resources are available to you! Is there grants or programs for electricity? Food stamps? Housing?

Can you go back to school to learn a new career or brush up on skills so you can advance in your current career?

Maybe you want to take steps to leave an abuser and aren't sure what to do first. Did you know I did a Vision Board "BEFORE" I left my ex? I envisioned our lives without him! I learned what paperwork I could file on my own without the need of an attorney. I couldn't afford one at the time and was Pro Se for about 75% of my divorce.

Goals can be something you start anytime. Start taking action by visualizing the outcome of your dreams and goals. Put into motion what you need to do to begin. Is it phone calls? Research? Reading a book? Whatever this looks for you just start.

What are abandonment wounds and how can you begin to heal them? You could start by sharing with a trusted friend. Remind yourself that, this is not your fault. Practice self-care, create boundaries and more. Do you recognize this as a pattern in your life?

This episode today is about Self care for survivors as well as those that have loved ones in toxic situations.

This looks like:

Reminding yourself that your feelings are valid.

Giving yourself time to breathe.

Finding the healing modality that works for you and more on today's episode.

Well, this is a bonus episode. After a long conversation with Miss Alex and her way to work we were talking and a memory was triggered for me. I'm sharing that and a lot more in today's episode. Thanks for listening.

These are things you can look out for:

⛈️ Gaslighting

⛈️ Someone that's projecting

⛈️ Making you feel guilting

⛈️ Playing the victim and more.

Have you experienced any of these?

Many Survivors find their circle doesn't quite understand what they are going through. It can be an emotional rollercoaster and lonely time. In today's episode I'm sharing thoughts that women would like others to know about trauma, grief, toxic relationships. Tune in for more!