Hot Dry Noodles 热干面的碎碎念

其实出柜这件事在我脑子里存在了很多年，但是出于种种原因，我一直没有找到合适的时间和方法去和我妈出柜。

直到这一次，因为工作的事情，塞翁失马，焉知非福，新旧工作衔接之际多出来了大段空白的时间。所以我想趁着这个时候把我妈带到德国来好好带她玩一玩，看一看。当然，其中完全没有办法避免的一环就是要向我妈出柜。因为这个完全隐藏不了，我也没有想过要去隐藏。

有点残忍的是，我在我妈落地德国的第一晚就给了她双重暴击：我不仅仅是同志，而且还对她隐婚多年。

在时差，旅途的疲惫，听到消息之后的愤怒，失望，矛盾，迷惘和担忧，各种情绪同时涌上她的心头，也从此开始了至少两周不间断的情绪反复。我甚至已经做好了临时改签送她回去的准备（她也一直嚷嚷着要回去），结果就在这时候，事情出现了转机。

我记得我妈在我向她出柜的那时候，她说的最多的就是“我不接受！”，但是这件事情其实无关与她是否“接受”，因为不管她接不接受，她都不能改变这个已成的既定的事实。
现在回头来看，其实在她刚刚落地德国就向她出柜是一个相对正确且保险的选择，因为“长痛不如短痛”，后面还有时间和机会来做damage control.

总体来说，在亲眼见到我和我Partner的生活状态之后，我妈可能也觉得没有太多需要担心的事情了，即使她内心可能还是有个疙瘩，but what can I do? I have to live my life after all.

但是现在能有这个结果，已经是相当不错的结局了。从这个角度来看，我还是很幸福的。且爱，且珍惜。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Digit Funk - DiMedia7
• Bluesy Hip Hop Loop - SergeQuadrado
• Guitar Afro Beat - AEXBEATS
• Afrobeat reggaeton afro type beat
• Afro jazz ((FREE)) Afro Beat - AEXBEATS
• Vibe - Good Vibes - Folk_Tales
• Happy Kitchen Jazz Upbeat Acoustic Cafe Lifestyle Background - LensPulse
• Chill Hip Hop RnB (Podcast Background) - 30 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Relaxed Trip (Jungle Chill Drum And Bass) - 30 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Pride - Happy Pride Month - HitsLab

有将近半年没有更新了，这期间发生了很多事，尤其是工作上的事。

没想到我们2024年9月的第21集居然可以出续集！真可谓是人外有人，坑外有坑，一坑还比一坑深。

晶姐遭遇了裁员潮，而我本人也第一次经历了德国的Aufhebungsvertrag(解约协议)，其实就是公司在没有办法走正常程序辞退我的情况下变相要我走人。在这一集里，我们各自回顾了过去这半年各自的经历，以及和公司还有上司的各种斗智斗勇，到现在各自顺利跳槽的种种细节。无论如何，到最后, Ende gut, alles gut! 只要结果是好的就行。

我们都为自己的成长感到惊喜，开心以及十分的欣慰。

人在江湖，身不由己。且行且珍惜。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Let's Groove (Funk Soul Upbeat Intro) - Villatic_Music

• Alarm - 8footdino_on_scratch

• Bluesy Hip Hop Loop - SergeQuadrado

• Latin Tropical Loop - SergeQuadrado

• Spring Easter Day Music - andriig

• Spring Vlog - prettyjohn1

前两个月在工作上和生活中经历了不同程度的不愉快瞬间，导致触发了我脑子里对于我是否正在经历一场“人际关系”的危机？

还好，最近通过真诚和平等的对话，让我逐渐打开心结，也让我意识到，以事物和人的本身的面貌去接受他们，并且对之产生相对应的期待值，或许对我本身来说是一件更容易，让自己压力更小，也相对更轻松的事。

由此，晶姐和我进行了一场深度的和彼此的对话，让我俩都受益匪浅。

既然“所有问题都涉及人际关系“（Alfred Adler - “Alle meine Gedanken und Sorgen sind die Gedanken und Sorgen von Beziehungen”），那么，愿我们最终都拥有被讨厌的勇气。共勉。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Wistful Beginnings - AudioBay_BGM
• Latin Jazz - Brazilian Background - ENDING - zec53
• In Jazz Short - moodmode
• Blooming Harmony (15s) - Universifield
• Autumn Acoustic Guitar Music - HitsLab

时光飞逝，岁月如梭。

三年前的今天，我由于感到某种existential crisis而觉得整个人非常空虚无助，然后我在没有任何规划的情况下开始了这档播客。三年之后，这档播客虽然是佛系更新，但是仍然在继续存在着，不得不说这也是一种坚持。

这次请来了播客创建的元老嘉宾Nelli一起来回顾这三年的过往，以及我俩过去两三年的经历和感受。我们两个都是纯纯的文科生，但是现在都在IT行业工作，不得不说真的是很奇妙的经历。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Midnight Thoughts (Lo-fi Hip Hop)_30sec - Grand_Project
• Chill Cat (Relaxing LoFi Hip Hop) - 15 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Jazzy Memories (Cool 90s Chill Hip Hop) - 30 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Call Me Bossa 30 Seconds - ominique_GARNIER

我们在这一集中一起来聊了一些我们各自那些尴尬的瞬间，然后我们意外地发现，我们对于“尴尬”的理解都不甚相同，之后由此更是引发了一轮深奥的讨论。

非常欢乐的一集，谢谢大家的分享！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• LoFi Acoustic Guitar with HipHop Beat 0133 - TuesdayNight
• Lofi girl - lofi hiphop beats - lofidreams99
• SMOOTH VIBE MUSIC LOOP ALTERNATE - saintsamael (Freesound)
• A few moments later - sofiamorgado1 (Freesound)
• Happy Jazz with Friends - Novifi
• Crow - CrimeInc (Freesound)
• IHAVENOIDEA - StudioOneBeatMakers (Freesound)

Video featured in this episode:

• How to Pronounce Versace? (CORRECTLY) Italian Pronunciation (Gianni & Donatella) - https://youtu.be/s_KlEYWkWnw?feature=shared

By the time I've finished editing and publishing this episode, Carolyn has been on her 4-month world cruise trip for almost 3 months already.

She was my English teacher in an after-school program for half a year, when I was in high school back in the day.

Almost 2 decades have passed, and I'm still amazed by the fact that we're still in touch and have met multiple times in both China and Germany (hope we get to meet in Australia soon in the near future!)

I thought I had known a lot, or at least enough, about her, until she proved me wrong this time. I discovered so many things I didn't know about her!

She's a world traveler, she's a truck driver, and she is my friends. <3

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Afro Blue Five 003 - freesound_community
• SAMPLE | guitar intro jazz melody | Dmin 140bpm - attic13
• GENTLE OCEAN WAVES #3 - MIGHTUSER
• Bleep Censorship Sound (WAV) - freesound_community
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Aesthetic Boomopera - Podcast LoFi Lounge intro Music (15s) Seconds - Lidérc
• Relaxed Meditative Acoustic Solo Guitar - 15 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Sneaky Feet - geoffharvey

We've known Christian and Mei for quite a few years so far, and in summer 2024, they finally had their wedding in China after a few postponements.

This is our first episode in German, and Christian shares with us his experience of being a foreigner in China, why he decided to learn Chinese and go to China among all choices available in the first place, and what he thinks of some stereotypes about China, Chinese people, and Chinese food in general.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Breaking News Intro - Humanoide_Media
• Lofi Guitar JAZZ - u_n7v1z5vo08
• Easygoing (15sec) - Loksii
• Podcast Intro Logo - lsMusic

其实已经计划了好久要录这一期节目，这次终于得以实现！

Levi是我上一家公司的前同事。在德国待了12年之后，她在2023年底只身一人去了加拿大魁北克，在当地体验了一年左右的不同人生和经历。今天这一集，晶姐，Levi还有我三个人一起来听她的经历，所感和所想。

大家聊的真的很开心，而且东北同胞真的是太能聊了，气氛贼棒！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Soft Jazz Piano Music - Clavier-Music
• Who Are You - MondayHopes
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Are You Sleeping Jazz B - Music_For_Videos
• Paris Montmartre - Jean-Paul-V
• French Accordion Acoustic Guitar Paris Waltz - Denis-Pavlov-Music

在这一集里，晶姐和我共同回顾并分享了我们这些年各自在德国职场上所经历的得与失，以及我们各自学习到的教训和个人收获。

希望我们的分享能够帮助到曾经或者现在正在经历低谷的朋友们。

赠人玫瑰，手留余香。

祝我们大家都有美好的未来！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Podcast Jazz Waltz Cozy Relaxing Vibes - Denis-Pavlov-Music
• Short Acoustic Guitar Prelude - Intro - Ending for Film and Video - JuliusH
• Short Warm Piano Prelude - Intro - Ending for Film and Video - JuliusH
• Soulful Modern Jazz - Sunsides
• fat chillin - LazyChillZone

We travelled to the north of Germany this past weekend to visit Nelli, during which we spontaneously talked about our personal experiences of integration in Germany as individuals.

And we also spontaneously decided to watch the new movie "Inside Out 2", which resonated with us and unexpectedly brought us to tears, especially considering Paul and I didn't even watch the first one.

In the end, we concluded that it's crucial to stay true to yourself and also allow yourself to feel all your emotions. In the end, you're each one of your emotions, and you're all of your emotions.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Afro Blue Five 004 - Pixabay
• Happy Tune - Pixabay
• SMOOTH VIBE MUSIC LOOP ALTERNATE - Pixabay
• Walk Down Sesame Street Acoustic Gtr Loop 91bpm - kamhunt
• 90's R&B Guitar Loop - kamhunt
• alalaika-esque - Pixabay