September 22, 2025

Hotter Midlife Sex With Karen Bigman

44 minutes

Sex after 50 doesn’t have to mean slowing down — it can mean leveling up. On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Karen Bigman, a Certified Sex Educator and Sex & Dating Coach who hosts Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. Karen isn’t afraid to talk about what really goes on in the bedroom. With humor and zero shame, she helps women in midlife ditch outdated scripts, embrace their desires, and create hotter, more connected relationships — no matter their age.

They talk about all the things we wish someone had told us sooner: what changes during menopause, how to redefine intimacy, what dating looks like after divorce, and why pleasure and connection don’t come with an expiration date. Sonia asks Karen the tough (and often taboo) questions: How do you rebuild sexual confidence after a breakup? What role do hormones play in libido? How do you navigate kinks, red flags, and sober dating in midlife?

They'll give real-world insights on topics like hormone replacement therapy, the role of testosterone in women’s sexual health, how to reset after a painful sexual experience, and the importance of communication when it comes to intimacy. Karen also shares practical advice on using lube, understanding your body, exploring non-sexual intimacy, and setting healthy expectations in relationships and dating.

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Time-Stamped Highlights

[00:01:00] Karen’s journey from divorce coach to launching Taboo to Truth

[00:02:30] The book club moment that sparked her mission to break sexual taboos

[00:03:20] Why an old flame’s comment about “women your age” lit a fire under her

[00:04:00] Struggling with orgasm and the surprising role of testosterone

[00:05:00] The doctor’s appointment — and the vibrator — that changed her life

[00:06:00] Finding inclusivity and growth in the Sexual Health Alliance community

[00:07:20] How a lingerie photo shoot helped her feel more comfortable in her body

[00:08:30] The importance of rejecting the outdated “I’m done with sex” script

[00:09:40] Hormone replacement therapy — benefits and misconceptions

[00:11:00] Body acceptance, aging, and wearing bikinis anyway

[00:12:30] Non-sexual intimacy and rebuilding after divorce

[00:14:00] What menopause really does to your vulva and clitoris

[00:15:30] The realities of dating in your 40s, 50s, and 60s

[00:17:30] Red flags to watch for when reentering the dating scene

[00:18:20] Dating sober vs. dating with “beer goggles”

[00:20:00] How to talk about STIs, sobriety, and other “taboo” disclosures

[00:23:00] Why communication about sex and money is non-negotiable

[00:26:00] Decoding kink, fantasies, and consent in midlife dating

[00:32:00] Resetting after painful or disappointing sexual experiences

[00:36:00] How to stop falling into “duty sex” patterns

[00:41:00] Why sexual incompatibility might mean relationship incompatibility

[00:42:00] Karen’s next taboo to explore: sex parties

Karen’s Links

Instagram: @taboototruth

YouTube: @taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman on LinkedIn

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