This episode features special guest Jordan Costen-Sumpter. Jordan is the Founder and Chairman of SafeSpaceNova an organization which is dedicated to  providing youth ages 14 to 18 that identify as LGBTQ+ a safe, supportive, and accepting environment. In this interview, Jordan speaks candidly about his experiences with bullying in school because of his sexuality and how he became resilient after attempting suicide at the age of 14. Jordan speaks about how parents, teachers, and schools can create supportive environments for the LGBTQ+ community. 

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On this episode Mariah & Lizz continue their conversation about implicit bias in schools. This episode is packed with tangible ways that as a teacher, administrator, or a school we can work to effectively decrease bias. We also share personal stories of how we have experienced implicit bias. We understand that this is a journey and will continue this conversation. Let us know how you are working to decrease bias in your school by emailing us at [email protected] or sending us a message on IG @howcometheydidntpodcast. 

Dr. Lizz Dexer-Mazza is not only co-host of our podcast she is an accomplished author, psychologist, business owner, mother, and wife. Currently, DBT STEPS-A has been implemented in hundreds of schools around the world, reaching thousands of children. On this episode, Mariah interviews Lizz about why she was attracted to psychology, how she started her practice, mistakes she made along her journey, and her overall mission as a psychologist. Lizz also talks about how she wrote the book and barriers she overcame to have DBT STEPS-A implemented in hundreds of schools.  She discusses the skills she uses to balance a successful private practice, consulting business, children, and marriage.  Listen to this informative, motivating, and honest conversation. 

Please listen to Episode 3: "What is SEL?" to learn more about DBT STEPS-A.

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On this episode we talk about the topic we learned about in school and barely touch on as professionals: burnout. We share the signs to notice burnout before it becomes unmanageable. We also discuss limit setting and other ways to decrease burnout. In addition we share recommendations on how organizations can become a place that decreases burnout (not add to it) Listen to this informative episode to hear some tips and tangible ways to decrease the likelihood of burnout.

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On this episode, we discuss implicit bias in the school system. We interview special guest, Sigourney Edwards, mother and DC resident, who revealed her journey to find a school for her son that encompassed high educational standards, emotional well-being, and employed role models that looked like him. Sigourney speaks candidly about her and her son's experience as a black child in a predominately white environment. We examine the resource gap between schools and how that disproportionately affects students of color. We explain ways to decrease implicit bias in school by raising  self-awareness, acknowledgement, and addressing bias explicitly. In addition, we converse about how implicit bias can impact people within the same culture or community. This is a complex topic and we will have further episodes dedicated to implicit bias.

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On this show we discuss positive reinforcement and why it works. This episode breaks down step by step how teachers & parents can implement positive reinforcement in their classrooms and at home. Lizz defines reinforcement, punishment and what increases the likelihood of the behavior occurring. Mariah shares a personal story on how she transformed her SEL from chaos to a cohesive enjoyable class for her and her students. If you feel yourself being the "stop" police at home, at your job, or you are trying decrease a certain behavior this episode is especially for you. Check out the show "100 Humans" episode on Netflix Episode 5. Also, read "Don't Shoot the Dog" written by Karen Pryor.

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All around the country, everything from weddings, funerals, vacations, activities, etc. have been postponed or cancelled. The thought of the school and work environment as we once knew has changed. On this episode, we break down step by step how to effectively speak with your students or children about their feelings regarding the cancellations. We also provide tips on how to implement creative, safe alternatives to these activities, when possible. We also discuss the meaning and depth of radical acceptance and how that can help shift our minds to accepting change.  

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Today's show is about the buzzword SEL (socio emotional learning). This episode will feature special guest Dr. Jim Mazza who will explain SEL and how it is used across grade levels, and why this curriculum is absolutely necessary in schools. Mariah will discuss she is applying DBT STEPS A in her current role and how she has used creativity to overcome barriers and increase staff buy in. Lizz will discuss how she has effectively implemented DBT STEPS A in hundreds of schools around the country.

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On this show Lizz & Mariah discuss what the school plans are for returning back to school. What is the biggest worry/concern for the fall and returning to school? How to engage students you have never physically met and what does a hybrid schedule mean for therapy. We also discuss strategies on how to get comfortable with Covid-19 and best practices for teletherapy. We also discuss how to buid a genuine connection while using teletherapy.

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Today you will learn about the host Lizz & Mariah and what "how come they didn't teach me this in school?" podcast is all about.

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