Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher

How Do I Communicate with My Wife When Everything I Say Seems to Make Things Worse Part 5 – Why the "Needs List" Is Killing Your Marriage


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Why do we keep having the same arguments even when we try to "meet each other’s needs"?
Why does it feel like my wife wants more from me than I have to give—and I’m the one being blamed?

In Part 5 of this powerful series, we expose one of the most destructive myths in modern relationships: the “needs-fulfillment” mindset. When both partners are cold, empty, and emotionally drained, handing each other lists of unmet needs only leads to conflict, disappointment, and emotional burnout.

Instead, Maurice introduces a radical shift: The Marriage Investment Model—a consecration-based approach inspired by early pioneers. This episode walks you through how to become a contracted contributor in your marriage—someone who gives even when their own tank is low, and builds a foundation that creates long-term healing and trust.

Learn:

  • Why emotional coldness is often a two-way famine, not a one-way failure

  • How to stop relying on your spouse to "fix" your emotional depletion

  • What to do when both of you are exhausted and feel like giving up

  • The secret to building emotional wealth in your marriage—one deposit at a time

If you're tired of fighting over who's hurting more and are ready to build something that lasts, this episode is your blueprint.

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