How  do I tell my girlfriend I want to clean her apartment without insulting  her?

I love her, but my girlfriend’s apartment is absolutely filthy and  messy. She’s super self-conscious about it but I’ve told her I don’t  judge her for it and I don’t mind coming over. I’m not sure why she  hasn’t cleaned it yet but I think she gets really overwhelmed about  cleaning her place up so I don’t press her about it. 

Well I wasn’t lying about not minding coming over, but the more time I  spend there the more I want to clean the place up. I’m the type of  person to clean/mop/vacuum my own apartment regularly and definitely  prefer to spend my time in a clean and tidy environment. So much in fact  that I would be willing to spend a weekend and deep clean the shit out  of her place. 

How do I offer her this in a way that seems helpful and  not judgmental or insulting? 

I’m sure she would appreciate me helping  her with this, but I’m just worried about hurting her feelings by trying  to take matters into my own hands.

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