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What if the fastest way to lead your home better isn’t another productivity hack, but the courage to slow down, feel uncomfortable, and ask for help? We sit with performance coach and Scratch Golfers Mindset host, Paul Salter, to unpack how a former perfectionist and firstborn “golden child” rewired his beliefs to become a more patient, present dad while co‑parenting his one‑year‑old son.

Paul takes us inside the real tradeoffs: surrendering control, choosing kindness over being “nice,” and learning to apologize well. He shares the simple, powerful rituals that build identity and safety at home—daily affirmations, a handwritten letter for each birthday, and modeling ownership when he misses the mark. We dig into hypnosis as a practical mindset tool, not a party trick: accessing the subconscious to unlearn scarcity, detach self‑worth from results, and install habits that support presence. The same patterns that show up on the golf course—fear of judgment, score obsession, tension under pressure—mirror how we show up at work and with our kids. Paul shows how to translate a calm pre‑shot routine into a pre‑meeting breath and how belief, not bravado, drives consistency on and off the course.

Along the way, we explore repairing sibling relationships, redefining masculinity through emotional availability, and navigating co‑parenting disagreements with patience and respect. You’ll leave with three anchors for home leadership: give your child a better emotional experience than you had, demonstrate kindness with firm boundaries, and treat your child as a teacher who reveals where you still grip too tight. If you’ve ever felt pulled between crushing goals and being fully present at the dinner table, this conversation offers a clear, compassionate path forward.

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