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We've been sold a version of wellness that says if we just "self-care" enough, the overwhelm will vanish. But for many of us, the reality is a cycle of delay and guilt. We're staring at the things we need to do—the career moves, the big life pivots—and we're completely frozen. We call it "procrastination" or "being lazy," but as a nurse, I see it differently.

In this episode, we're exposing why the traditional wellness trap isn't working. When you are in a Protection Response, a bubble bath isn't the cure. Your amygdala has flagged your goals as a threat, and your body has shut down to keep you safe.

We're moving past the "lazy" label and into the science of The Freeze. I'm sharing how I use a clinical approach to "The Triage" to bypass that resistance. It's about learning how to move toward your most intimidating goals while staying grounded—transitioning from a state of "scramble" into a state of No Zero Days.

If you scroll through social media, you'll see a war of words. Men saying they're done; women saying they've had enough. It's loud, it's bitter, and it feels like a race to see who can care the least. Most call this "giving up," but there's another truth: We are leveling up.

In this episode of How I Unfucked My Life, Christine DeGrazia challenges the idea that the "good ones" have disappeared. The reality is far more empowering. Once you begin to honor your self-respect and protect your peace, your "standard of entry" changes. You aren't seeing a shortage of people; you're seeing a shortage of people who are worthy of the masterpiece you've already started building.

Christine shares her journey from the "post-divorce scramble"—operating from a place of perceived need—to the realization that her own competence is a reliable foundation.

This episode is for you if:

• You're tired of settling for a life that feels smaller than you are.

• You've been treating your life like a "waiting room" for a partner.

• You're ready to move from "Will they like me?" to "Do they earn a place in the peace I've built?"

Stop waiting for a "missing half." You are already whole. It's time to stop looking for someone to complete the picture and start finding those who respect the world you've already created.

Remember: You are the architect of a world that is already complete

We often mistake "stability" for safety, but as a Registered Nurse, I've seen that the most dangerous infections are the ones we choose to live with. In this episode, we explore the high cost of the "Slow Death"—the jobs, relationships, and habits that leak our life force away while we wait for a "better time" to change.

There is a profound difference between the pain that kills you and the pain that saves you. Ripping the Band-Aid off is terrifying; it's cold, it stings, and it leaves a void. But that void is the only place where true healing begins. Join me as I share my clinical approach to surviving the "Short, Sharp Pain" of transition and why your 75 summers are too precious to spend on a life that doesn't want you back.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why we perform CPR on "dead" situations in the name of stability.

• The psychological "infection" of toxic environments.

• The 48-Hour Silence: How to hear your own truth.

• Why self-trust is the ultimate reward for enduring discomfort.

"You cannot hate yourself into a version of yourself that you love."

It's Monday morning, you're spiraling, and the "Greatest Hits" of your inner critic are playing on a loop. We've all been there. In this episode, I'm getting honest about a morning where my own systems failed and my brain went straight for the jugular.

We've been sold a lie that self-criticism is the same thing as accountability—that if we aren't "hard" on ourselves, we'll lose our edge. But guilt is a low-grade fuel that leaves nothing but soot behind.

Today, we are standing up to the noise and choosing "The Shift." I'm breaking down:

• The Identity Label vs. The Executive Adjustment: Why your brain needs data, not insults.

• The Belief Audit: How to put your negative self-talk on trial and find the evidence of your wins.

• Bridge Statements: How to move from "I'm a disaster" to a neutral, functional truth.

You can't be the CEO of your life if you're too busy being the critic of your soul. It's time to stop the self-flagellation, take the mic back from those inherited scripts, and start the adjustment.

We've been sold a lie: the "Happily Ever After." We're told that if we just work hard enough, we'll eventually reach a plateau where the marriage is fixed, the recovery is "done," and the work stops. But that "finish line" is a psychological trap. It makes you feel like you're failing just because you're still tired.

In this episode, I'm stripping away the myth of being "fixed." As a nurse and someone who's been in the trenches of mental resilience, I'm showing you why you aren't failing because you're still working—you're failing because you think you're supposed to be done.

Today we discuss:

• The Infinite Game: Why the goal isn't to win, but to keep playing.

• The Daily Tax: Why peace and sobriety are "daily subscriptions," not one-time purchases.

• The Neurosensory Reset: How to shift from a "scarcity" mindset to becoming the architect of your own journey.

If you're looking for the moment you're "done," I have news that might hurt: It doesn't exist. There is only "doing." Stop being a victim of the grind and start becoming the master of it.

If you've ever been wide awake at 3 A.M. with your mind spinning through bills, responsibilities, what-ifs, regrets, and every worst-case scenario your brain can invent — this episode is for you.

This is the anxiety that doesn't care how tired you are. The kind that wakes you up out of a dead sleep. The kind you can't reason with… because your brain is convinced something is wrong.

In this episode, we're talking about what really fuels the 3 A.M. anxiety loop — the need for control, the fear of uncertainty, and the nervous system that refuses to shut down — even when there's nothing you can actually do in that moment.

You'll learn four practical things you can do when anxiety hits, including how to:

• Stop the mental spiral before it snowballs

• get out of your head and back into your body

• separate real problems from fear-based thinking

• and calm your nervous system without pretending everything is fine

No clichés. No "just relax." No toxic positivity.

Just real tools for real anxiety.

Because letting go of what you can't control isn't easy — and it doesn't happen overnight — but you can learn to loosen its grip one breath, one choice, and one 3 A.M. moment at a time.

Why does it feel like life is flying by — and you're still behind? In this episode, I break down why time doesn't actually disappear… it gets stolen.

When worth isn't felt internally, it gets outsourced — and a packed calendar becomes the replacement. We stay busy to feel valuable, productive to feel enough, and exhausted trying to keep up. The problem? That constant urgency keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode, making life feel faster, heavier, and harder to enjoy.

This episode isn't about productivity hacks or squeezing more into your day. It's about understanding how stress, pressure, and the need to prove yourself distort your sense of time — and how calming your system is the only real way to get it back.

If you've ever said:

• "I don't have enough time."

• "Life is flying by."

• "I'm always busy but something is missing."

This conversation will hit home.

Because adding time to your life doesn't come from doing more — It comes from finally slowing down enough to actually live it.

In this episode, we're talking about the one thing that drives people crazier than anything else: the constant obsession with why. Why did they do this? Why did this happen? Why wasn't I enough? Here's the truth — the why doesn't matter. You'll never find the answer that makes the pain make sense. What will change your life is asking one question: What now?

I'm sharing the real stories from my own life — growing up with an abusive mother, relationships that broke me open, moments I begged for answers — and how I finally realized the why was never going to save me. This episode is your permission slip to stop digging for explanations and start building your future.

If you're ready to stop replaying your past and finally move forward, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I'm breaking down how to start changing your life without burning it down — because yes, I burned mine down, but you don't have to. Most people want change, but they get overwhelmed because they think it has to be a giant, dramatic overhaul. It doesn't. Today I'm walking you through five simple, powerful shifts that start rewiring your mind, your habits, and your sense of control… without blowing up your job, your relationships, or your entire world.

If you've been craving a better life but don't know where to start, this episode will show you how to take small, honest steps that add up to real change. No chaos. No explosions. Just the truth, the mindset behind it, and the real reasons these steps WORK.

There comes a point where you've cried the tears, carried the weight, and kept showing up long after your soul begged you to stop. That's when you find out what real strength is made of.

In this episode, Christine strips away the fake positivity and talks about the truth no one likes to admit — sometimes you don't have another round in you. But that doesn't mean you're done. It means it's time to rebuild differently.

You'll learn how to find your footing when life knocks you flat, how to breathe when everything in you wants to quit, and how to rise again — not as the person who broke, but as the one who refused to stay down.

Because even when you're out of fight, you're never out of purpose.