I spend a lot of time with people. I have the tremendous privilege of learning a great deal from researchers, but also from the people in my life both adults and children.

So often we're trying to be productive, or be a good parent, and we don't allow uncertainty. But sometimes uncertainty is where growth and achievement lie.

When we give kids the space to grow, they have the opportunity to rise up and flourish. This space is highly beneficial for them, and the same can be said for us.

I invite you to take what I'm sharing with you this week as a window of possibility for your own life. Put aside those doubts you may be casting and give yourself the mental and emotional space to grow.

In this episode, I'm sharing an example of what is possible when we have the mental, emotional, and physical space to try something that may be outside of what we practice. Hear about a time where I did not know what a child would be capable of and what happened when they had the space to grow. Discover the importance of committing to the best-case scenario and giving ourselves space to achieve.

Your voice matters! Make sure you subscribe to the show and leave a review in Apple Podcasts. Tell me what you love and why you’re here and maybe you’ll hear a shoutout to YOU in a future episode!

LISTEN HERE

The post Space to achieve appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Do you find yourself working really hard? Do you believe your effort is only valuable if it's hard? The world we're living in has lots of obstacles, and life is hard. It can be relentless, and for those of us who are or have been perfectionists, it can feel even harder.

The truth is, life is full of different flavors and we must accept and acknowledge them all in order to enjoy this one precious life we have.

As you experience these hard things in your life, there will be things that you can control and things you have no control over. But what if it could be easy?

My invitation to you is to acknowledge it all. This is life. The next time you find yourself doing hard things, check in with yourself and ask yourself questions. Ask yourself, does it need to be hard? What if it could be easy?

Listen in this week as I'm encouraging you to consider what you can make easy so you have the energy, resilience, and wherewithal to get through the hard. Hear why just because you can do hard things, doesn't mean you have to, and the importance of knowing when to work on the things you need to overcome and when you can allow things to be easy.

Your voice matters! Make sure you subscribe to the show and leave a review in Apple Podcasts. Tell me what you love and why you’re here and maybe you’ll hear a shoutout to YOU in a future episode!

LISTEN HERE

The post What if it could be easy? appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

How do you want to live your life? What do you want life to look like? How can you do it in your way?

I believe there are many ways to live life. There are many journeys for all of us to take. And we can learn from other people to see what is possible for ourselves.

It's not about comparing ourselves to others, but opening up our eyes and seeing what is possible. These windows of possibility can inspire us, motivate us, and help us create the changes we want in our lives.

Windows of possibility help us see what is possible for ourselves. When you can ask other people and get insights into their lives, you open your mind to what could be possible for you. 

In this episode, I'm sharing the power of windows of possibility and how opening up to them can create a huge change in your life. I'm sharing some experiences of this in my own life and encouraging you to open up to windows of possibility in yours.

Your voice matters! Make sure you subscribe to the show and leave a review in Apple Podcasts. Tell me what you love and why you’re here and maybe you’ll hear a shoutout to YOU in a future episode!

LISTEN HERE

The post Windows of possibility appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

What are you waiting for? So often, we know what we want, but we tell ourselves, Someday, but not right now.

Whether it's traveling, buying something you truly want, or even just switching off from the world and spending time with family or friends, what are you waiting for?

I recorded this on the week of my 50th birthday, and while I've known for a while that I don't want a big bash, deciding what I did want wasn't easy.

But this work is also about the small things that are part of your day-to-day, everything from using fancy soap to taking time off work. It's time to stop waiting for someday, so listen in to find out how to embrace this idea.

On today's show, I'm sharing how to see the specific areas you're holding back in your life, what you want to take action on, and why simply making decisions about what's important to you is the most amazing catalyst for taking extraordinary care of yourself.

Your voice matters! Make sure you subscribe to the show and leave a review in Apple Podcasts. Tell me what you love and why you’re here and maybe you’ll hear a shoutout to YOU in a future episode!

LISTEN HERE

The post Stop waiting for someday appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Everybody has different ingredients for what lights them up and feels good. We also have a lot of cultural programming about what's allowed.

10 years ago I didn't know how to ask for what I wanted for myself. I could do it for others, but not for myself, and it was due to my own lack of worthiness. But as I reach 50, I have finally reached a place where I have learned to ask for what I want. 

We don't ask for what we want because we think it's not important. We think we're not important, and we are so afraid of vulnerability that we don't allow ourselves to have space for joy.

How many of us ask for things we want for those we love, but won't do the same for ourselves? My invitation for you is to consider where you aren't asking for what you want and where you aren't taking up space in your own life. Instead of not allowing yourself to expect much, commit to the best-case scenario and manage risk. Allow yourself to dream.

In this episode, I'm sharing my journey of figuring out how to celebrate my birthday, and why you are innately worthy exactly as you are. I'm showing you how to stop playing small, start taking up space in your own life, and start asking for what you want.

LISTEN HERE

The post Disappointment keeps us small appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Summer is here for many of us, and I can already hear what's in the back of so many women's heads: What will I wear?

There is a lot of cultural programming as well as systems in place that were created to make us think a specific way about ourselves and our bodies. We fall into the trap of listening to these outside opinions of what other people tell us we should be and look like, instead of what we think about those things.

We have the diet industry that tells us how we're supposed to eat. We have a society that tells us how we are supposed to look. But what about what we want? What about what we think?

It is time to stop being a taker of our bodies and become a giver instead. Being a giver to our bodies is about listening to ourselves and having the self-awareness of what is our voice versus the cultural programming we have received for so long. My invitation to you is to stop adhering to cultural and societal programming, stop beating yourself up, and start to be a giver to your body.

In this episode, I'm sharing what it looks like to be a taker of our bodies, and some examples of how to be a giver instead. I'm sharing some ways you can give to your bodies and take exquisite care of yourself, and how to ignore the cultural programming and prioritize what feels good for you.

LISTEN HERE

The post Being a taker of our bodies appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

I am turning 50 next month, and I'm pretty excited about it. When I used to think about 50, it meant old. But what it really means now as I almost reach it is so different.

As I enter my 50th year, there is one priority that I am focusing on: myself.

When it comes to birthdays, there are cultural and societal expectations of what you should and shouldn't do, as well as tons of judgments surrounding them. But my birthday is a gift to me, and I am treating it as such for my 50th year around the sun.

Thinking about birthdays, I invite you to consider, what is possible for you? What do you want from your day, from your experience? What do you truly desire and what can you do to get it?

In this episode, I'm sharing what I've learned over recent years and some of the changes I’m making in my life as I turn 50. Hear how I have started to become the woman who is taking extraordinary care of herself, how I stopped buying into societal expectations, and why you should stop waiting to be found and start owning what you want in your life.

LISTEN HERE

The post Turning 50 appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Years ago, it became apparent that lots of parents in the swimming community were concerned about their children being burned out. I didn't really understand it much, so I decided to ask an expert for their opinion.

I attended an event where I came across a thought leader in the swimming world, so I raised these concerns and asked for his thoughts on the topic. And his response surprised me.

He told me that burnout didn't exist. I listened to this leader, and I agreed with him. I believed this for a while, and I even did a podcast episode about it. But my friend, I was wrong. Burnout is real.

I invite you to challenge your current views of burnout, what you think it means and what it actually is. Do you allow for replenishment for others and not for yourself? Do you take care of yourself the way you should?

In this episode, I'm sharing my learnings over the years and a new way to look at burnout. I'm exploring what you can do to replenish yourself before you get to burnout, and where to start when it comes to taking care of yourself to avoid burnout.

LISTEN HERE

The post I was wrong, burnout is for real appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Do you ever feel overwhelmed? When we feel overwhelmed, we end up doing too much, taking more on than we should, and hurting ourselves in the process.

Overwhelm is when we feel an extreme level of stress and emotional or cognitive intensity to the point of feeling unable to function. And often we don't even realize we’re in it until it’s too late.

I recently ended up on a trip to urgent care and it made me realize that being stressed and overwhelmed is not the time to be taking on more stuff. When we are overwhelmed, it is time to stop.

So many of us experience overwhelm and end up over-functioning as a result, but this can cause us more harm. I invite you to get to know when you are feeling overwhelmed, learn how to stop trying to push through, and take a moment to pause, calm yourself and establish what you need.

In this episode, hear what overwhelm is, and how it may show up for you in your life. I'm sharing my biggest lesson on overwhelm and how I learned what to do when feeling overwhelmed. If you feel like you're not coping, you need to listen to this episode.

LISTEN HERE

The post What to do when you feel overwhelmed appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Do you worry about what other people think of you? Do you let other people's judgments hold you back from doing what you want? Are you afraid to speak up because of what others will think?

We spend so much time concerned about what other people think and we think it is protecting us. We believe that if we can control what other people think, we can then control what we think of ourselves. But it's not the case

People are going to judge you and you cannot control that. But you can control your opinion, so what do you believe about yourself? It's time to let go of other people's judgments.

My invitation for you is to know who your people are and who they aren't and make sure you are not letting other people's judgments hold you back and keep you playing small. When you notice you are wrapped up in other people's judgments and starting to play small, check-in with yourself. 

In this episode, hear the reasons we focus on other people's judgments, and why trying to get other people to change the way they see you doesn't work. I'm showing you how to stop playing small and how to use other people's judgment to create opportunities in your life.

LISTEN HERE

The post Other people's judgments appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.