When you think about money, what comes up for you? Excitement, fear, anxiety? We all have different stories, feelings, and situations when it comes to money. If we can understand and unpack those stories, we can change them and write our own brave new endings.

Karen Walrond is a leadership coach, speaker, author, and photographer. She is the author of several books including The Beauty of Different: Observations of a Confident Misfit, and the upcoming book The Lightmaker's Manifesto. 

Karen joined me for a time as a guest co-host on How She Really Does It. In this episode, which originally aired in 2016, we talk about money. We'll discuss my and Karen's different feelings around money. One of us fears it and one of us loves it!

We'll also talk about the beauty in the mess and how to find the silver linings of a difficult money situation. Listen in to learn more about how to change your story about money, how panic is an effective ignitor, and tools you can use to create wealth.

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I have a special episode for you all today. It's the first episode in my Brave Women series all about showcasing women whose bravery gives us a window into what's possible. I want you to hear the episodes in this series and feel inspired to be courageous, and comforted in knowing you are not alone.

My interview today will leave you feeling both inspired and comforted. My friend, Roberta Savage, is a civil rights attorney who specializes in advocating for students with disabilities. She represents students and their families to ensure the student receives the services they need in school. 

This career requires a ton of courage from Roberta. As she says, it's not uncommon for her to walk into a room and know that no one likes her. She faces that situation and others fearlessly because she believes in her clients' rights to educational services. 

Psst… I have a new Dare to Lead program that’s based on Brené Brown’s research. We start November 5th.

Bravery doesn't always look like standing up for the right thing in the face of a public school board. During the pandemic, we've all had to channel bravery to get through this. Never discount your courage, friends. 

Listen in to today's interview with Roberta to learn what bravery and courage look like in her life and how it can inspire more in yours. You will discover what fuels Roberta's courage, how she mitigates risk, and why it's important to let your family be who they are. Whether you're a parent of a child with a disability or a listener seeking inspiration, this episode will leave you feeling fueled for courage.

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You are already a leader, even if you don't think that you are. You may not be in a classic leadership role in your job. You may not think of your role in your family as a leadership role. However, we all have arenas in our lives where we are leaders.

Despite this, so many people struggle with owning being a leader in their lives. Things that get in our way include imposter syndrome, fear of the critics, and a belief that we are supposed to make everybody happy. 

Executive coach Michele Woodward joined me in this 2016 episode to discuss all things leadership. We talk about what makes an effective leader, how to recognize arenas in your life where you are a leader, what gets in the way of owning your leadership potential, and more.

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We are in some challenging times right now, my friends. There's political issues, racism issues, economic realities, and so much more compounded into our lives. It's never been so important to learn self-regulation and how to move through your emotions.

One of the ways to do this is through self-care. And, before you shut down the idea with thoughts like self-care is frivolous or I don't have time for that, I want you to check in with yourself. How depleted are you, and are you pouring from an empty jug?

Personally, self-care has been a lifesaver during the last few months. It allows me to fuel my mind and body so I can continue to show up for my people, my Aqua Monsters, and for these shows. It allows me to be resilient.

Psst… I have a new Dare to Lead program that’s based on Brené Brown’s research. We start November 5th.

Self-care looks different for everyone. What works for you might not work for me. But what matters is that we're willing to explore and experiment with different forms of self-care. Because when you do find something that works for you, it's life-changing.

Listen in today as I share why self-care isn't frivolous or just for the privileged, it's fundamental. There are plenty of obstacles to getting the self-care we had before Covid, but it's not impossible. Give yourself permission to experiment and create your own self-care menu. I'm sharing some of my favorite forms of self-care, how I've adapted them during the pandemic, and how you can go from depleted to restored today.

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This episode's guest believes that the way we live is an exact reflection of our deepest held beliefs about ourselves. This includes our relationships with food, money, and love. 

Geneen Roth is the New York Times best selling author of When Food is Love, This Messy Magnificent Life, and more. She joined me in this 2010 interview to talk about the concepts in her book Women Food and God.

What Geneen means when she says that your body reflects your beliefs is that the beliefs we hold in our mind affect our feelings, which in turn affect our actions. Included in this are the beliefs that we have about the amount of joy, abundance, pain, and scarcity that we think we have in our lives.

When our beliefs cause actions that we don't want, the antidote is to dig deep and change the beliefs themselves. When you change your beliefs it can result in positive feelings and positive actions.

Listen in to this episode and learn how to make change happen on the unseen level. You can change your perspective about your life and your relationship to yourself, and as a consequence of that, your relationship to food.

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When you look back at past hardships, can you see how they prepared you for the obstacles you're facing today? Although we can't usually see it in the moment, difficult times prepare you for your future self and give you the lessons you need to grow.

My guest today is an expert on taking lessons from difficult situations to create a spark in the dark. She uses hardship to learn more about herself, her emotions, and how to be compassionate. These lessons, in turn, help her become a better leader.

I'm talking with my friend and leadership coach, Joanna Chmura, about the power of listening to your inner wisdom and having the courage to act on it. We are all culturally programmed to beat the crap out of ourselves and to self-sabotage. In Joanna's work, she explores what happens when we embrace vulnerability, awareness, and courage.

Psst… I have a new Dare to Lead program that’s based on Brené Brown’s research. We start November 5th. Apply now!

Our inner wisdom is constantly sending us data in the form of emotions. When we analyze that inner data, we become more aware of what's going on inside. This brings us more freedom than we could ever imagine. And that freedom allows us to be more compassionate leaders.

In today's episode, Joanna and I discuss how Covid has impacted us and the ways this pandemic has led us to become more compassionate, curious, and confident. We explore the power of leadership when the mind and heart are combined. From the importance of developing compassion to making space for crying and action, we cover it all. If you're ready to tune into your inner wisdom and become a true role model for your people, friends, this episode is for you.

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Are you feeling overwhelmed? Like you're trying to do it all? We have taken on more things this year than we ever could have imagined. In this episode, which originally aired six years ago, you'll find out how award-winning journalist Brigid Schulte finds the time even with overwhelm knocking at her door.

Brigid brilliantly researched, analyzed and offered up a hilarious personal confessional about the time-crunch of our modern busy lives in her book, Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time.

In this interview, Brigid and I discuss the topic of overwhelm from a few different angles. We'll look at the expectations that today's society and culture has around productivity and management of your life. 

We'll also discuss it from a woman's perspective. Over the last 60 years, there have been huge changes in how women view (and have been conditioned to view) leisure time, motherhood, work, and productivity. 

Lastly, we'll talk about the reality of overwhelming responsibilities and how to realistically make tweaks and changes so that you can live a more meaningful life and be more deliberate about how to choose to spend your time.

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14 years ago today, I started this show and began an amazing journey of self-discovery, growth, and service. And, 14 years ago today, I felt like a loser. I had no hope and I believed this was as good as it was going to get. 

Well, I was so wrong. This show has brought me so many lessons and so much guidance. It showed me these windows of possibility that I was then able to show all of you, and we learned about what's really possible together.

Every guest that comes on brings their own journeys and insights that I have felt so grateful to receive. From Brené Brown to Simon Sinek, each one has brought nuggets of wisdom for you and me to absorb and I am so grateful for that.

Psst… I have a new Dare to Lead program that’s based on Brené’s research. We start November 5th. Apply now!

And, of course, one of the things I am most grateful for is all of you. You've come back, week after week, and allowed me to be in your ears sharing my journey and insights. You've allowed me to be of service, and you've all been of service to me. So, thank you.

In today's episode, I'm going to share 14 things I've learned in the 14 years of this show. There have been so many aha moments, so many episodes that you all told me you were touched and inspired by. I'm going to share how these 14 years brought me back to myself over and over again, how I learned to trust my inner wisdom, and how I learned that there is no right way to live this messy, brilliant life. It has been an honor and a privilege to be in your ears each week, so thank you.

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Have you ever talked and talked to try to resolve an issue in a relationship? Did you feel exhausted and unheard? My guest in this episode is an expert at disrupting these tiring patterns.

Couples therapist Nancy Dreyfus created a revolutionary practice that helps real people hold the power to express what they wish they could say to the person they love. Nancy is my guest in this 2013 episode and is the author of Talk to Me: Like I'm Someone You Love and has created flashcards of the same name.

Nancy wrote this book and created these cards after a particularly difficult therapy session with clients who's arguments reminded her of her parents. While the wife in this couple was yelling, Nancy wrote, talk to me like I'm someone you love, on an envelope and handed it to the husband. He simply held it up to his wife and reading it stopped her in her tracks. They walked out of that session as friends. 

On that day Nancy understood the meaning and dignity of those words. She began exploring the value of written messages. She went from sending prompts written on paper home with her clients to publishing a book and card deck. The cards include phrases like, This feels awful. Can we start again and really listen to each other?, and I realize I'm overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?

These communication strategies are all about pattern interruptions. Listen in to learn more about the different communication issues that people face in all types of relationships, how to communicate better, and how to balance speaking and listening so all parties in the relationship can be heard.

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Many of you tuned in to last week's episode and really liked the concept of having relationships that rise up to meet you. But I also know some of you were having challenges with this concept so I'm going to dive deeper into it today.

Having a relationship that rises up to meet you does not mean you have a script or rules for others to follow. It doesn't mean you have ultimatums for how they need to act or else they're out of your circle. 

In general, scripts aren't useful in relationships. I know this because I have been a lifelong scriptwriter and used to feel very justified in how I expected people to act without actually letting them in on the script. 

Instead, I invite you to think about the ingredients you want in your relationships. As Karen Marie Moning says, who and what we surround ourselves with is who and what we become. Who do you want to become and who do you want in your circle?

On today's show, I'm showing you why it's much better to have an ingredient list than scripts for your relationships. As you cultivate relationships that rise up to meet you, be aware of what you actually value and what you will no longer tolerate. I'm sharing my ingredient list, my experience with writing scripts, and how you can get clear on what you want from your relationships too.

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