Ever wondered why online dating is so exhausting? If dating apps are making you depressed, join us for today’s episode. You’ll learn why nearly 80% of people report feeling emotionally fatigued when dating online and gain actionable strategies for how to avoid online dating burnout. We’ll also share key mindsets that will enable you to weather the ups and downs of dating so that you can find lasting love.

Our guest today is Laia Pedreño Mateu, dating coach, psychotherapist, and resident Shame Slayer at the Relationship Center. In addition to helping trauma survivors and highly sensitive people overcome anxiety, Laia’s obsessed with science fiction, group therapy, and singing 80s tunes to her golden doodle, Lucy.

Key Takeaways

00:00 - Intro

03:00 - What is dating burnout?

06:17 - Why is online dating so exhausting?

16:50 - What do we do about it?

30:34 - Why is mindset important in online dating?

39:50 - What mindsets help prevent dating burnout?

Resources and links

For full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcast

Emotional Fatigue and Burnout in Online Dating – Data Study

‘A Decade of Fruitless Searching’: The Toll of Dating App Burnout - NY Times

Platonic by Marisa Franco

The Acceptance Prophecy: How You Control Who Likes You

Do You Believe in Relationship Magic? by David J Bredehoft Ph.D.

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA

Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts by Annie Duke

Ep. 2 - What to look for in a long-term partner

Ep. 4 - How pacing can help you find love that lasts

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