Are you tired of finding yourself in toxic relationships, Dear Listener? Wondering how to break the cycle and find someone who truly complements you? Then this episode is tailor-made for you! Join us as we introduce a practical 5-step process that you can use to finally find healthy, lasting love.

We begin with an overview of the four keys to avoiding toxic relationships, then delve into the crucial practice of mindfully assessing compatibility. Learn how to conduct compatibility experiments that quickly clarify your relationship's health. Jessica and Josh share personal anecdotes and practical tips to illustrate how fear-based dating practices lead to high-conflict relationships and what you can do instead.

By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with a five-step process that is invaluable in avoiding toxic relationships and mindfully evaluating your potential partners. From clarifying your relationship vision to assessing the data collected from compatibility experiments, you’ll gain the tools to create a loving, secure partnership.

Key Takeaways

00:00 - Intro

01:45 - How do I stop getting into toxic relationships?

05:58 - Mindfully assessing compatibility

13:19 - Fear-based dating vs. mindfully assessing compatibility

24:26 - The five steps to mindfully assessing compatibility

Resources and links

For full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcast

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People by Lindsay C. Gibson

Ep. 2 - What to Look for in a Long-Term Partner

What to Look for in Partner free guide

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman Ph.D., Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D., Doug Abrams,  and Rachel Carlton Abrams M.D.

Ep. 12 - Dating While Healing From Trauma

Ep. 4 - How pacing can help you find love that lasts

Big Talk and Heart-Opening Questions: Conversation Tips for Shy Introverts Who Can’t Seem to Find an LTR

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