Do you ever feel like you're behind in life or the life that you dream of living is just out of your reach? If so, this episode on the personal reality check is for you. It's time to move past those feelings and take massive action to live the life of your dreams. Are you finding evidence to justify why you haven’t done something? This episode will help you move past that. 

What if you spent 365 days focused on solely making your dream a reality? This is what we’re going to do in The Dangerous Woman Mastermind The Year of You. You and nine other women will spend an entire year focusing on your biggest goals, along with deep level coaching, support, and massive amounts of action and accountability. We start in January and registration to join the group is open now.

Episode Highlights: 

• [02:47] One of my recent thoughts is that I should be further along than I am right now. I fell into victim mode and fought for excuses. 
• [04:03] We find evidence to justify why we haven’t done something. It would be more efficient to look at what is possible.
• [05:35] Where in your life are you fighting for your reasons why not? Who has the answers to your problems if you don't have them?
• [06:22] Why couldn't I have a multimillion-dollar business? Because I've never done it before and I don't know how. 
• [06:46] Ask yourself why you can't have the thing that you're dreaming about. Then answer yourself.
• [07:51] Ask yourself who you've been in your business and your life.
• [09:40] I've been showing up for my clients 110% and fighting for their dreams. I haven't been showing up consistently for me as much.
• [10:09] Not showing up will stop you from achieving your dream.
• [11:51] Who do you need to be in order to reach your goal? This is where you level up your self-image.
• [13:21] You get to decide you are no longer going to tolerate just dreaming about achieving your goals.

Links and Resources:

• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

There is a sneaky underlying thing that could be causing you to self-sabotage, and you might not even be aware of it. It’s an insidious thing that often goes on in our minds without our realizing it. I will bring awareness to this issue and tell you how you can recognize and change these thoughts from stalling your progress and goals.

I noticed myself being critical of my past self and some of my mistakes and poor decisions. I even caught myself being critical of myself and asking what was wrong with you. Why would you do that? Using negative language about our pasts can halt our future growth. We need to love and embrace ourselves where we are and celebrate our forward momentum. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:05] I'm proud of the woman I am now and the woman I'm becoming. The woman I was in the past, not so much.
• [04:09] Too many dangerous women are pushing away the parts of their story that aren't pretty or packaged up with a nice bow around them.
• [04:36] You can't grow from your past lessons if you try to bury them. If you avoid looking back, you put yourself in jeopardy of repeating the same things.
• [05:25] How is it fair to hold shame and guilt against yourself for someone that you used to be?
• [06:01] Think about all of the parts of you and your story and let go of the parts that don't serve you. As a leader, it's your job to let them go in the kindest way.
• [07:45] Now you're looking at the past version of yourself with love and gratitude. 
• [09:04] Think about if you accept the past version of yourself for who she was and have gratitude for where you are now. You've done the work to level up as you go to each level.
• [10:13] Take inventory of your thoughts about who you were in the past. If you have feelings of shame, guilt, or self-loathing make a decision about how long you want to sit with that. It's time to forgive yourself and move on.
• [11:14] Let it go with compassion and love.
• [12:19] Doing this work will absolutely set you up for a life beyond your wildest dreams.
• [12:36] This is the kind of work that we'll be doing in the year of The Dangerous Woman Mastermind.
• [13:19] Say "Yes" to becoming the woman you were meant to be. Schedule a call and we'll talk about it.

Links and Resources:

• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• Hot Seat Coaching
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Maria Berglund is the Founder & Executive Director of In Kind Boxes, a nonprofit that Maria started to help new mothers in need. She noticed a huge lack of support and resources for new moms, especially those without many resources. She decided to do something about it and started a nonprofit that donates postpartum gift boxes to new mothers. 

Her organization has helped more than 1200 families in need since November 2019. They now help families across the country with the help of local partners. Maria shares why giving back is so important for her. We learn about the courage that can be found when you have a purpose bigger than yourself. She also shares her “secret, not so secret” plans and dreams for her organization. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [02:37] Maria's work is focused on postpartum support and helping moms feel like they are not alone in their motherhood journey. Her work provides new moms with essentials for themselves and their babies. 
• [03:11] She was raised by a single mom, and understands what it's like to need help.
• [05:00] The Finnish community provides boxes with baby essentials when a mom leaves the hospital. Maria wanted something similar in the US. 
• [07:45] Maria shares her obstacles when starting In Kind Boxes. 
• [09:37] She blocked out her inner negative dialogue and followed her passion and pushed her way through. 
• [11:31] It's okay to be driven and passionate. You can be a mom and still be passionate about things outside of motherhood.
• [12:37] Maria's been on Good Morning America and in the national spotlight. It was scary, but she kept her mind on her purpose of getting more eyes on her website and helping more people.
• [13:38] Maria is happy to bring a smile to someone's face through her work.
• [14:39] The first donation was in November of 2019. Maria has been doing this for three years. 
• [15:01] Maria shares a story of taking gift boxes to the Ronald McDonald House in Portland and how moving it was when a family came up and thanked her.
• [18:05] Maria shares her big dreams and plans for future support and a center. 
• [19:41] At first, they were packing boxes at home. Now they have a warehouse. 
• [20:57] It's okay to let yourself do that thing that lights you up. Get out of your own way and believe in yourself.

Links and Resources:

• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• In Kind Boxes
• In Kind Boxes Instagram
• Maria Berglund LinkedIn
• Embracing Your Villain Era

It’s time to embrace your villain era. Embrace those positive things that conditioning or society has frowned on that makes you your most dangerous self. Society can look down on ambition, career or business success, and even financially successful women. 

There are seven steps to get the most out of your life. Today, I’m talking about the one that can help you tear down limiting beliefs that may be preventing you from living the life you want and deserve. 

I also want to remind you to sign up for my Live Masterclass. I’m going to be teaching a class called The Biggest Reason Positive Changes And Habits Don't Stick And What To Do To Finally Break Free Of The Start/Stop Cycle. I'll be giving you the system to implement positive habits to make changes in a way that sticks. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:15] If you're over 25, you've probably figured out the big secret that happily-ever-after is a bill of goods that we were sold as children.
• [04:29] It's acceptable for us to work outside of the home, but it's not acceptable to be ambitious and have a high-profile career. We're taught to temper our dreams and our desires.
• [05:05] We're also taught that if we become successful in a dangerous way, we shouldn't tell other people about it.
• [06:15] Seven areas of focus you can't ignore if you want to be a dangerous woman. We are going to talk about one of those.
• [06:27] If you're going to be the most dangerous version of yourself you must address your self-talk. The words that you say to yourself when you mess up or feel that you're feeling somehow.
• [07:11] If you talk to yourself in a way that's mean or derogatory, you're going to hurt yourself during the entire journey.
• [07:33] We spend more time talking to ourselves through our thoughts and sometimes out loud than we do with any other human beings.
• [07:42] Our words and thoughts running through our brains are extremely important. We can also speak to ourselves in a way that blocks our ability to see the changes we need to make. Our words could be our blind spot.
• [08:49] When you master your self-talk you become dangerous and create results that blow your mind.
• [09:21] Become an observer of your own mind and catch the things you say to yourself. How do they make you feel? Do you shrink or hold that? Does your head get big? Do you stop seeing your own shortcomings?
• [10:32] Observe and notice, so you can begin the process of unwinding and changing the language.

Links and Resources:

• Sign Up For The Live Masterclass!
• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

I frequently hear clients talk about how they're tired of having to be the bigger person. The one that always concedes, forgives, or initiates a reconciliation. It feels exhausting. Can you relate to this? Do you find yourself being the bigger person to keep the peace?

If so, this episode is for you. This week we're talking about what to do when you're tired of feeling like you're always the one having to be the bigger person in your relationships. 

I also want to remind you to sign up for my Live Masterclass. I’m going to be teaching a class called The Biggest Reason Positive Changes And Habits Don't Stick And What To Do To Finally Break Free Of The Start/Stop Cycle. I'll be giving you the system to implement positive habits to make changes in a way that sticks. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [02:45] The exhaustion you may be feeling can come from having to constantly withhold your feelings and emotions.
• It will feel heavy if you're trying to keep the peace, ignoring your feelings.
• [03:31] You're working overtime to distract yourself from those thoughts, not to feel the feelings. This happens when you're not solid in setting boundaries and expectations in relationships.
• [04:19] When you don't healthily express your feelings, it will not work in the long run. Sometimes we fear what's going to happen if we allow our feelings to come up to the surface.
• [04:54] You can define who you are and be that person everywhere you go.
• [05:29] This is an invitation to establish that you are a woman who sets boundaries and expresses and feels all of her feelings.
• [06:04] When you stop trying to fight the reality of what is and allow it to be, you align your feelings and actions.
• [06:40] Being the bigger person is more about you and who you want to be. It has nothing to do with the other person.
• [07:31] To stop bigger person fatigue, stop telling yourself that you are the bigger person.
• [08:38] It isn't easy to set and maintain a standard. We want to argue our points and prove that we're always right. You won't experience the peace you want operating that way.
• [09:45] It's not easy, but I promise you that when you do this work, it's worth it. You're going to be so proud of who you have become.

Links and Resources:

• Sign Up For The Live Masterclass!
• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Do you feel like you're at a place where you're just existing? Are you ready to start living your life to the fullest? If so, you'll love this episode because I'm going to tell you the five keys to happiness. When you focus on and hone these five things, you'll stop feeling like you're treading water and start living a life beyond your wildest dreams.

You listeners have heard me talk about living a life you love and creating a purposeful life. If you've listened to this and thought it wasn't possible or possible for you, I would like you to lean into this episode. If you've ever thought that living the best life possible was for other people and not you, I'd like for you to reconsider that today! This episode is about focusing intentionally on the five keys to happiness. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [02:04] Your life will change if you focus on the five keys to happiness with intention. We are going to spend the rest of the year diving into these keys.
• [03:22] The first key to happiness is peace. I'm talking about an inner peace of mind regardless of the circumstances that you are in.
• [04:07] True peace comes from being in alignment with yourself and who God created you to be.
• [04:37] The second key to happiness is good health both physically and mentally. We often put our health on the back burner. Imagine how productive you could be if you were in the best shape of your life. What if you felt resilient in every way and had boundless amounts of energy?
• [06:09] Key number three is having genuine loving relationships. Healthy, fulfilling and mutually beneficial relationships with other people is a major key to living a life that you love.
• [07:07] Key number four is financial freedom. Being able to have the money that you need to live the life that you choose is an essential part of life. We don't have peace of mind when we're worrying about money.
• [08:05] The final key to happiness is having a clear purpose in life. This is doing what you were put on this Earth to do. These are the things that you're doing that make you feel like you have a clear impact on the world.
• [08:30] True happiness comes when you are knowing and believing that your life stands for something. There's a sense of fulfillment and purpose with this knowledge.
• [09:05] This is an overview. For the rest of the year, we're going to look at how thought and action can help us create the life we want to live in these areas.

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• The year of the Dangerous Woman Mastermind
• 2 Reasons You're Not Winning
• Owning your Money with Belinda Rosenblum
• Sign Up For The Live Class!

Goals are hard. It's almost October, and the holiday season is coming. Maybe you haven't quite accomplished what you were hoping for, but there's always next year. After reflecting on 2022, perhaps you are ready to give up for the rest of the year and focus on starting over in 2023. Not so fast! It's time for some tough love. 

If you are in an end-of-the-year rut, this episode will help you see why you aren't winning, find a way to start winning and finish the year off right. Your brain may tell you it's time to take the easy way out and start fresh again next year. Dangerous women don't give up. I will tell you why you have these feelings and how to overcome them and finish this year strong!

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:26] Dangerous women don't go with the status quo and the norm. We aren't giving up and starting again next year. We aren't quitting before the finish line.
• [03:50] This year we aren't quitting, we aren't taking a break, we aren't waiting for next year.
• [04:03] We're going to go all in! We're hitting the gas pedal when it comes to working towards our goals at the end of this year. We don't hustle. We consistently walk down our goal.
• [04:40] The reason your brain is offering you a break until next year is that number one your focus is off and number two you don't have accountability. 
• [05:18] Take this as a moment to reflect and gain awareness as to where you are.
• [05:48] Let's celebrate others and adopt an I'm next mentality. If you feel anger or jealousy allow it, but don't stay there.
• [06:54] The fight with reality. You aren't further along. You worked as much as you did and this is where you are.
• [07:31] Think about actions you take from jealousy or disappointment or any other negative emotions.
• [08:27] It's time to work towards your goals in a healthy way.
• [09:26] When you find yourself comparing, look at the thoughts and examine them then make a decision about how long you're going to let yourself be ruled by those emotions.
• [10:06] Accountability is when you tell the whole story. The whole dream that terrifies you. Not having strong accountability can be detrimental. This means someone who will actually hold you accountable.
• [11:50] If investing in accountability scares you, that means you should do it. When you're paying someone to hold your feet to the fire, you are more likely to follow through.
• [12:29] Your coach will hold your vision up for you even when you're scared. They'll fight for you so that you won't quit.
• [13:29] Accountability when you are ready for it is an absolute game-changer.
• [15:00] Don't be afraid to invest money and time into this process. What is more valuable than your growth, peace, and mind?
• [15:59] Some of you are ready for the next step of having someone hold you accountable.
• [16:25] I'm hosting a free virtual class in October. Leave a review and send me a message, and I'll send you an invitation.
• [16:54] I'm also announcing a game-changing program for a small group of women who are serious about hitting their goals in career, health, relationships, and money. If you are interested in one of the spots, send me a DM or sign up on the waitlist.
• [17:45] I'm also expanding my one-on-one coaching.

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Waitlist
• Revenge Goals

I’m so excited about today’s show. I am talking to a fantastic and amazing guest. You know I’ve been talking a lot about mindset. This episode is about leveling-up your money mindset and ending those limiting beliefs that hold so many of us back when it comes to what we are worth and what we charge. Being a dangerous woman and living the life that you love includes dealing with and understanding money. This means discovering and getting rid of our money mindset blocks. Linda Rosenblum is a CPA and profit strategist. 

She helps busy coaches and experts sustainably scale their revenue and profits by up-leveling their financial systems and strategies and stepping into the CEO role with her signature Cash Flow CEO Accelerator course. She is also a coach and the author of Self-Worth To Net Worth: 12 Keys To Creating Wealth Inside And Out, a book about creating wealth inside and out. Whether you're an entrepreneur or climbing the corporate ladder, Belinda can help. There’s so much goodness in this podcast that I want you guys to listen to this episode from beginning to end and take notes! Then we can discuss how we can all be dangerous wealthy women.

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:35] Money is a tool to help us achieve the things that we want. We need to welcome money, not treat it like a burden.
• [06:10] Even if our conscious efforts are trying to do something different, oftentimes our unconscious efforts will create the same thing. This is frequently true with money.
• [06:42] Belinda shares how she was overwhelmed with money responsibility when she was 28. It turns out if you avoid bills, they just keep coming. 
• [07:11] She worked on her mindset and her tactics and strategy. She needed a system to deal with her finances and avoid overwhelm.
• [07:50] The more that we feel we can own our money, the less we are owned by it.
• [08:57] She figured things out and became a self-made millionaire at 33 years old. She then had a midlife crisis at 35 years old.
• [09:30] After a sabbatical, she started her business Own Your Money.
• [09:42] In 2019, she pivoted to help small business owners more.
• [11:38] Her book is Self-Worth To Net Worth: 12 Keys To Creating Wealth Inside And Out. She really wanted to understand why money is so hard for everyone. 
• [13:10] If we have a belief about something, we want to be right. Our brains will keep finding reasons to keep doing what we believe. We aren't taking money at face value as a means of exchange.
• [14:11] Money is a way to achieve our goals. It doesn't have to have so much emotion and self-worth on it.
• [15:04] Money gives us choices and options. 
• [17:07] We need to prioritize profit, not just revenue. When people pay they pay attention.
• [19:45] We think we're doing people a favor by under charging, but they won't see our worth with low prices. Charging higher prices will make your customers show up differently. 
• [20:43] We layer our limited beliefs onto money. Belinda teaches to find the space where you can be more black and white around your numbers and remove the emotion.
• [21:07] Put your business revenue and accounting profit on paper. 
• [27:59] We need to become aware of our limiting beliefs around money. Most of the time, we make poor decisions about money because we don't have the facts.
• [31:28] We need to separate our own worthiness from how our business or bank account is doing.
• [32:04] We need to decide what we need to earn and what we're willing to ask for. No one else is going to step up for us.
• [35:18] Step into being a dangerous woman who can be safe with money.
• [38:23] A part of our money entanglement is thinking that we have to work harder to make money. What if we believe that the less we work the more we make? Do the right things as opposed to all of the things.
• [40:01] A solopreneur will be the overworked employee in their business until they learn to become the CEO.
• [41:21] Cash Flow Ceo Accelerator is a 4-month program for female experts and coaches to scale their revenue and profits by upleveling their financial foundation,  systems, strategies and role as CEO.
• [43:40] People who want to make a big impact need the coach, community, and team that goes along with that. 
• [44:14] The program is for people who are on track to 100K. It's for experts and coaches. 

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Own Your Money
• Belinda Rosenblum Instagram
• Belinda Rosenblum LinkedIn
• Belinda Rosenblum Twitter
• Own Your Money Affiliate Sign-Up
• Pay Yourself Calculator
• Cash Flow CEO Accelerator
• Self-Worth To Net Worth: 12 Keys To Creating Wealth Inside And Out

You've done your homework. Now it's finally time to put some momentum towards making your goals happen while being loving and kind to yourself every step of the way. We are ready to talk about action. It's easy to get impatient with the whole process and want to jump straight from desire to action without doing all of the pesky mindset work. 

Trust me, you are going about this the right way, and you will be so happy. How many times have you decided to do something really big? You created a plan and had all the steps meticulously laid out and put on your calendar. Then sometime around day five or even day three, something happens, and you start to lose steam. 

You get discouraged that things aren't happening quickly enough. The problem isn't with you or your plan. The issue is the thoughts that you took with you on your journey. You're holding on to those hidden sneaky beliefs, unaware of their impact on your progress. This episode helps you overcome those thoughts and take real action. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:09] In the last two weeks, you've done the job of uncovering the thoughts that may be holding you back. Your forever homework is managing these thoughts with kindness, love, and patience for yourself.
• [03:32] Over time, those old thoughts popping up in your head will happen less and less and the impact will be less. The process is to allow it, feel it, and then think of something that better serves you.
• [04:14] Let's move into action. The dreaded "I don't know how to do it". Your brain is going to inundate you with success's arch enemy, uncertainty. 
• [04:47] Where there isn't clarity, there's fear. The brain wants no part of that.
• [04:56] You need to know how to overcome these "I don't know" thoughts by forcing your brain to push past them.
• [05:11] I always figure things out. Add this to your manifesto. 
• [06:41] When you're achieving a bigger goal, sometimes things are going to feel uncomfortable. You just need to accept that.
• [08:57] You should be at the point where you have answers and something to stand on. You should at least have step one. So much is revealed to you in the process that step one is all you need to get going.
• [09:39] Figure out two things: 1. What is your ultimate goal? 2. What is your next step? Give yourself a time when you are going to do it. Create milestones and targets. Check in with yourself every day.
• [11:02] On a scale of 1 to 10, where are you at with your goal happening?
• [12:16] You also need to know when it's time to legitimately take a break.
• [13:55] At the end of each week, evaluate three things. 1. What worked? 2. What didn't work? 3. What will you do differently next week?
• [14:41] If you really want to get fancy, find an accountability partner who is also working towards the same goal.
• [15:36] Keep the big picture in the forefront of your mind, so that you can choose the next steps that align with your overarching goal. 

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Accidental Beliefs
• From Good Girl to Dangerous Woman

It's time to untangle that self-concept of being a good girl and how it could be holding you back from doing and being who you are called to be. Last week in episode 35, I gave you some homework we will use for this episode. If you haven't listened to that episode, go back and do so. 

We're going to talk about how the good girl mentality is likely stopping you from having the life you dream of. We're going to talk about how to uncover hidden dreams, so you can start taking the first steps towards creating the life you want to live. A life that feels fulfilling and purposeful. A life that you really love. 

You might feel a little exposed if you did your homework last episode. You might feel like you're seeing yourself for the first time. You've challenged some of those long-standing beliefs about yourself, and now you have a new vision for yourself. We need to solidify your new vision. You spent years building those old thoughts and beliefs, and we don't want those beliefs creeping back in and holding you back. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [03:22] Part of upgrading and elevating your self-concept includes the undoing of the cultural indoctrination of the good girl.
• [03:45] I'm writing a book that will probably have the same name as this podcast. One of the things that I discuss is this concept of society's good girl. I'm going to read an excerpt from my intro.
• [05:07] Think about the dream for your life that you wrote out in your homework. Did you think about how you would be viewed by society, family, and friends? Does your role and position as a woman prevent you from achieving your dream?
• [07:13] Are you people pleasing, pushing down your dreams, and creating boundaries? Treading water is expending effort to maintain one's status, but doesn't make much progress towards a goal. 
• [08:02] It's time to unravel that societal programming that tells us our dreams are only partially possible.
• [08:25] Look at your dreams and see where the good girl in you is holding you back.
• [10:40] Look at these thoughts that are holding you back. See them and know that they are optional.
• [11:03] What would you do if you were a bad girl? What would you do if you were a dangerous woman?
• [11:52] Go back to your homework and look for those thoughts that tell you why you can't fulfill your dreams. Find those thoughts that are holding you captive.
• [13:30] Beliefs holding you back whether positive or negative are all under review here. Go back to the scenario in those four areas and take the limits off. 
• [14:22] If you do this work upfront, it makes things so much better when you start creating your dream life. 

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Episode 35 Accidental Beliefs (Part 1)
• We Should All Be Millionaires: A Woman’s Guide to Earning More, Building Wealth, and Gaining Economic Power