Love Better & Life Better

"How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle: Making Love Work When You Trigger Each Other"


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In this episode, Shazmeen Bank explores the complexities of anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster compassion and connection between partners. The conversation covers how to navigate the anxious-avoidant trap, the significance of communication, and the need for both partners to work towards a secure attachment. Shazmeen provides practical tips for building autonomy, creating safe spaces for vulnerability, and recognizing patterns that lead to conflict. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace their unique attachment styles while striving for a healthy, loving relationship.

Takeaways:

  • Both partners can make the relationship work despite differing attachment styles.
  • Healing attachment styles is a continuous journey, not a quick fix.
  • Attachment styles are not fixed; they can evolve over time.
  • One partner can inspire the other to change positively.
  • Both partners must commit to the relationship for it to thrive.
  • Vulnerability is essential in a relationship, especially for anxious individuals.
  • Anxious individuals often seek constant reassurance and connection.
  • Avoidant individuals may need space to recharge and feel safe.
  • Creating safe words can help communicate needs without conflict.
  • Understanding each other's core wounds can foster deeper connection.

I personally am rooting for you both. I know it can feel hard I know you may want to walk away. but if you both are willing and ready to get your hands dirty and do the work you both will not on win but build a really safe, deep, passionate love. 

If this episode helped you understand the anxious-avoidant trap better, or if you’re stuck in this cycle yourself, I hope you know you’re not alone, and it is possible to heal.

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Thank you for listening to Love Better. I’ll see you in the next episode. Love you!



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