How to Brothel

Auto-fellatio, chastity cages, lactation play, and collaborative kink—Alec shares beautifully detailed stories from his decades-long monogamous partnership full of creativity, curiosity, and kinky exploration.

📈 STATS | 37 pansexual heteromantic white cis male, in a monogamous relationship with his partner of 17 years.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Shame levels, shiniest secrets, and the difference between privacy and shame

04:46 The secret sex life of parents with young kids

06:00 Collaborative desire: anticipation, denial, and creative pleasure strategizing

09:03 What feels sexy: objectification, pole dancing, and feeling wanted

13:03 Consent immersion and lackluster Florida sex ed

15:33 Yeses that lead to sexy surprises and a PowerPoint proposal for chastity

18:39 Monogamy, kinky safety talks, and a not-sex impact play friendship

20:35 Queering perceptions at work with an ambiguously gendered partner

21:30 Gendered childhood memories and early erections

24:42 Internet erotica, porn titl3z, and sex ed through bulletin boards

27:00 Jackoff isn’t an insult—and how reading led to masturbatory discovery

30:09 Anxiety, fear of rejection, and an awkward first kiss

33:07 Punk band pussy-licking legend and high school confidence hacks

36:40 Meeting his wife in French class, going on their first real date

40:49 The kiss rule, exes calling, and a very honest foundation

43:00 Nerd knowledge + dick drive = early oral sex confidence

45:17 Mishearing “ooh” and “no”—why audio matters for BDSM communication

46:10 From sexy Playboy shoots to rope to fetish porn conventions

49:40 How a content career launched a thousand kinks

52:25 Auto-fellatio, sucking his own dick, and filming it with his wife

55:10 Teaching pole dancing, heels classes, and performing in burlesque shows

59:35 Long-term compatibility through open curiosity

1:00:44 Foot worship: texture, desire, and playful degradation

1:03:30 Birthday pie footplay and clothed female/nude male dynamics

1:05:06 Chastity cages, cock rings, and cock bondage as focus tools

1:10:55 Wearing it on a cruise, and experimenting with coming while locked

1:12:50 Pregnancy, body worship, and the erotic beauty of maternal care

1:17:18 Shower lactation, taste and texture, and sexy video ideas

1:19:25 “Never have I ever…” anal during pregnancy

1:20:56 The joy of long-term desire: fucking machines and rooftop sex

1:22:15 A talking dildo with a French accent and post-kids insertion aversions

1:23:33 His switch spectrum: from deep dom to service sub to leather boot conditioning

1:26:45 Chastity as a mood signal, and wanting to stay on the path they’re on

1:28:20 Owning desire earlier, and the beauty of creative sex over time

1:29:02 Mr. Potato Head genitals and a magical what-if sex question for Luna

🤩 TOPICS | Adult content creator couple, alt-text erotica, anxiety around rejection, AOL chats, barefoot face worship, BDSM experimentation, blindfolded public sex, blowjob tutorials, body image through pregnancy, bondage photo shoots, breast milk handjobs, childhood masturbation discoveries, childhood shame around sex, clothed male nudity kink, college sexploration, couple kink negotiation, cunnilingus rumors, diaper changes and desire, DIY sex toy testing, early internet porn, erotic massage rituals, erotic roleplay with spouses, feet on face, feet-only masturbation, female-led foot worship, feminist pregnancy kink, first girlfriend kiss anxiety, foot fetish pie feeding, forced denial, French class flirtation, group porn reading, homemade porn, hot stone sex massage, impact play safety, kink and lactation, kink while parenting, lactation scenes, large dildo insertions, leather boot care kink, lingerie reluctance, long-distance chatting and flirting, looped shame thoughts, male masturbation in childhood, male oral fixation, metal cock cage, middle school sex insults, milk squirting fetish, missionary position improvisation, mutual masturbation memories, natural breast photoshoots, nerdy seduction tactics, nipple teasing with milk, oral sex pressure, parenting and kink balance, pegging and prostate play, penis in pie kink, personal porn archives, photo shoots with strangers, pole dancing in drag heels, porn from IRC and BBS, pregnancy anal sex, pre-orgasmic masturbation, public sex on campus, punk band sex songs, rope suspension kink, school bus first kiss, security blind spot sex, sexting on ICQ, shared vibrator use, shower sex during pregnancy, side-of-bed footjobs, spanking with friends, strap-on topping, submissive pie play, toe-sucking in porn, vibrator torture, voyeurism during shoots, waxing and worship, wearing slut heels, whipped cream rejection kink, wife objectification, writing kink proposals.

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40 queer cis male, hedonist, switch.

Topics mentioned:

ADHD, Austin, BDSM, Star Trek, aftercare, age play, anal, anal play, art, big cock, bisexual, bondage, butt plugs, choking, church conversion fantasy, cis male, cleanliness kink, cock and ball torture, collars, coming out, consent, conversion, crossplay, cuck, cum eating, dirty talk, discord, dom drop, dominance, double penetration, edge play, edging, emotional connection, erotic performance, ethical non-monogamy, feminine doms, fetish, fingering, first time sex, flogging, foot worship, gay sex, group sex, handjobs, hedonism, impact play, introversion, kink education, kinky parties, leather work, lesbian porn, masturbation, mental connection, mobile dungeons, musician, mutual masturbation, naked in public, nude photos, open relationships, orgasm control, orgies, outdoor sex, pegging, penis sensitivity, play parties, polyamory, pool sex, porn, power exchange, preacher’s kid, public play, queer, queer orgies, reclaiming desire, religious shame, roleplay, sadism, same-sex crush, scalp massage, self-exploration, self-love, semen, sensation play, service dom, service kink, sex before marriage, sex education, sex parties, sex toys, shame, shower sex, skin worship, slut, small town, solo polyamory, spanking, spitting, strap-ons, subspace, switch, taboo, threesomes, toys, trauma healing, vanilla sex, virginity, voyeurism, water kink, water sports, worship, younger sexual exploration.

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24 pansexual white cis male, switch.

Topics mentioned:

Accidental blood play, accidental fecal play, accessible bathroom sex, anal exploration, anal hook, anal pressure, bathroom quickie, being squirted on, bisexual attraction, blowjob, blood on bathtub, car sex, communication in polyamory, condom use, cunnilingus, darkroom jerk off, dynamic polycule, emotional alignment, experimental kink, explicit sex talk, female-bodied partners, futon sex, gender dysphoria, gender exploration, Grindr hookup, group masturbation, group sex, horny roommates, kinky partner, kink exploration, LGBTQ relationships, living in car, male-bodied partners, masturbation, messy sex, mutual orgasm, non-monogamy, open relationships, oral sex, orgasm together, partner constellation, pee play, pegging, pillow talk, polyamorous dynamics, polycule constellation, poop on balls, public sex, queer sex, relationship communication, roommates hooking up, safe sex, same-bed sleeping, Scarborough sex story, sex in mall bathroom, sex in unusual places, sexual confidence, sexual fluidity, sexual hope, sexual identity, sexual safety, sharing a partner, shy mutual attraction, squirting, submissive identity, threesome, trans partner, transgender attraction, vaginal stimulation, voice-to-text sexting, water sports, waterproof sheets, wet partner, wild sex stories.

Caleb's episode from September 2022 | Camping & Car Play

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30s bisexual Latin male, married to a partner of 5 years, works in the tech sector, from NYC, into: crossdressing, pantyhose, playing with toys, camming, and bondage.

Topics mentioned:

Anal, ass, barefoot, bbc, bbq, bisexual, blowjob, body hair, body stockings, bondage, cam, camming, cartoon, cock, cock slut, condom, consent, costume, cross-dresser, cross-dressing, cum, cum facial, dildo, dominant, dress up, edging, exhibitionism, facial, fantasy, fetish, foreplay, gagging, gangbang, heels, hosiery, jazz, kink, lingerie, lipstick, makeup, masturbation, matte, milf, monogamy, nyc, oral, pantyhose, pegging, perfume, poppers, porn, privacy, red lipstick, roleplay, rubbing, self-filming, sex club, sex shop, shame, shaving, sissy, sissy training, skirt, slutty, sploshing, spreader, stockings, submission, submissive, switch, tech job, toys, transformation, verbal play, voyeurism, walk of shame, wank, wigs.

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Praise kink, deep penetration, and Daddy energy—Neptune shares how he healed early shame through group sex, dungeons, and delicious submissive exploration.

📈STATS | 22 pansexual transmasc Latino, he/they pronouns, polyamorous, single-ish, into: praise, exhibitionism, group sex, and Daddies.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Details on praise, exhibitionism, and Daddy dynamics

03:05 Defining sex as connection, including clothed grinding and kissing

06:13 Early kink scenes, light spanking, and saying “please” for more

09:23 Childhood assault, confusion, and early curiosity about sex

12:00 Rocky Horror awakening, rewinding sex scenes, and exploring desire

14:44 Discovering masturbation and early exploration of sensitive areas

17:00 Sexting, Tumblr smut, and being taught how to suck cock

21:00 Submissive preferences, praise kink, sensitivity on T, and wetness

24:36 Deep penetration, anal, and loving the warmth of cum

27:20 Spanking with wrapping paper, biting, and Daddy energy play

30:43 First Daddy experience: museum date, anal beads, and oral instruction

33:40 Dreaming of a sensory-activated daddycock, tie-dye toys, and pegging

36:00 Fantasies of tying up partners and making them come repeatedly

38:30 Consent as hot dirty talk, energetic attunement, and sex ed gaps

41:00 First fully consensual partner, marking mishaps, and porn as icebreaker

44:00 Polyamory discovery, sex with couples, and love of threesomes

47:00 Favorite group sex positions, fantasy of three cocks and all holes filled

50:30 Exhibitionist energy, queer makeout party, and dungeon compliments

53:20 Boundaries, touchiness, and finding Daddy-led consent sexy

55:00 Nonconsensual anal attempt, navigating trauma, and therapy recovery

57:30 Tickling and blood turn-offs, needle curiosity, and dysphoria-related limits

59:40 Public sex fantasies, bus play party dreams, and voyeur-friendly spaces

1:02:00 Toys: shock wand, strap-ons, desire for mutual sensation during pegging

1:04:30 Tattoos as sensory exploration and erotic self-awareness

1:07:15 Vasectomy = cumplay joy, post-cum glow, and warm interior feelings

1:08:50 Sex bucket list goals: group play, exhibitionism, tying, and exploration

1:09:40 Advice to younger self: it’s okay to be excited about sex—keep exploring

🤩 TOPICS | Anal beads, anal curiosity, ass grabbing, ass play, ass slapping, attentive lovers, ball play, bathroom hookups, biting marks, blowjob technique, blood boundaries, bondage fantasies, cum inside, cum fetish, cum-focused oral, dirty name calling, DIY toy shopping, dominant partner training, double penetration fantasy, dungeon play, electrostimulation, erotic humiliation limits, face fucking goals, fingering feedback, fluid sensitivity, flogging tools, foot teasing, gender euphoria, group kissing, hair pulling, handjobs, harness fit issues, hickeys on purpose, hotel sex, kink negotiation, kissing consent, light choking, lube choices, masturbation discovery, microtears, monster dildo brands, mutual touch, name-based praise, needle curiosity, nonconsensual experiences, oral learning, orgasm control, pegging prep, pegging straps, penis curiosity, physical feedback, porn literacy, post-cum glow, public arousal, queer party makeouts, queer play spaces, receiving oral, rope interest, rough play, safe word use, same-room play, scene negotiation, self-lubrication, sensation layering, service topping, sexting nostalgia, shared toys, showering after sex, size mismatches, spanking implements, strapless strap-ons, submissive dirty talk, switch dynamics, tattoo vibration, tentacle toys, threeway configurations, touch sensitivity, trauma recovery, trust-building, underwear embarrassment, vasectomy sex, verbal feedback, vibrator play, voyeur-safe spaces, wetness increase.

Neptune’s update from December 2023 | A New Daddy

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47 heteroflexible cis femme, she/her pronouns, exploring: squirting, sensual sex, primal sex, and sexual relaxation.

Topics mentioned:

Anal, anal stimulation, animalistic sex, art resort, best friend support, big round bed, blowjob, bookshop sex fantasy, butt squeeze, clitoral masturbation, coffee shop sex fantasy, connection, creativity resort, deep throat, deep throating, dildo, double penetration, edging, emotional connection, espresso after sex, fantasy exploration, foursome, group sex, handcuffs, hot chairs, inner fights, intense orgasms, kink, kinky room design, lesbian fantasy, libido changes, long-distance relationship, love, masturbation, mutual masturbation, naked lap sitting, orgasm, orgasm frequency, orgasm variation, partner trust, pegging, penis touching, period masturbation changes, platform bed, primal sex, relationship growth, rich silk linens, roleplay, romantic sex, same-sex fantasy, sensuality, sex club, sex creativity resort, sex talk with friends, sexual discovery, sexual experimentation, sexual fantasy, sexual healing, sexual insecurity, sexual satisfaction, sexual self-care, shared fantasies, squirting, stage sex performance, strap-on, threesomes, trust building, vibrator, watching others have sex, weekend masturbation, women who love sex.

Susanne’s episode from August 2022 | Chase My Pleasure

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38 straight white cis femme, single, open to monogamy, engineering technician, from Southern California.

Topics mentioned:

18th birthday sex, adolescent crushes, ass smacking, backseat blowjobs, battery-powered vibrators, best friend’s bed sex, bisexual curiosity, blanket sex, body exploration, body hair preferences, blowjob at work, bra touching, casual sex, clit rubbing, clitoral orgasms, coming from kissing, coming from sensual touch, communication with partners, consensual hair pulling, consent conversations, dating apps, dirty talk, divorced lover reunion, doggy style, double stimulation, emotional vulnerability, engineering technician, erotic wrestling, exhibitionism, explicit consent, female ejaculation, first dildo, forbidden relationships, foreplay details, fuck buddies, G-spot, good girl praise, group sex fantasies, hair pulling, herpes disclosure, hookup culture, horny coworkers, intimacy after breakup, kinky desires, kissing, lake sex, late-night TV sex scenes, lingerie selfies, long-distance teasing, love of dominance, masturbation avoidance, messy orgasms, mirror sex fantasies, monogamy with openness, multiple orgasms, mutual masturbation videos, naked mom, nipple play, non-monogamy conversations, nude selfies, open relationships, orgasm from voice, orgasm triggers, outdoor sex, oversharing at work, park sex, pegging curiosity, penis-in-vagina sex, pillow humping, pink heart vibrator, playground flirting, porn curiosity, post-breakup sexual awakening, public sex, reclaiming pleasure, relationship transitions, riding dick, roleplay fantasies, romantic loss of virginity, rubbing against furniture, safe sex talks, same-room voyeurism, school sex ed, secret teen romance, sensual touch, sex after kids, sex with married couples, sexy showering, sexting at work, shared blankets, shame meter, single mom sex life, spanking, speed dial lovers, squirting, talking dirty, teenage dry humping, threesomes with consent, toy experimentation, trust and boundaries, vibrator disappointment, voyeurism, watching herself come, workplace sexual storytelling, wrestling arousal.

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43 heterosexual Irish-American cis male, polyamorous, married with four kids.

Topics mentioned:

ADHD, Basic Instinct, Postpartum sex, Whitney Houston, ass play, asshole, autistic daughter, biceps flexing, bisexual, blowjob, bondage, breathy voices, cheerleading, children and consent, cocaine use, cock sensitivity, communication skills, consent talk, cucumber condom demo, cum control, dad cheating, dominance, double standard, emotional healing, enthusiastic yes, exploration, family life and sex, fuckboy phase, giving oral, group sex, healing through sex, kink curiosity, learning about pleasure, leather couch sex, long-distance relationship, male nudity tips, marriage, massive attack, masturbation with pillow, mechanical sex, monogamy, mother sex talk, music and sex, new dad sex life, nudes, oral sex, paramedic schedule, penetration guilt, performance sex, pleasure receiving, polyamory, porn preferences, pussy eating, queer daughter, reclaiming pleasure, relationship recalibration, rope class, sacred body consent, scrambled porn, sex education, sex party curiosity, sex talk with kids, sexting, sexual butler, sexual healing, sexual repression, sexual shame, shame-free living, sharing nudes, social stigma, spontaneity, submissiveness, teen parenting, trip hop, twins, visual arousal, voyeurism, wife with others.

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24 pansexual female, married, switch.

Topics mentioned:

Anal beads, anal sex, anxiety during sex, acts of service, baby and sex life, bar hopping, BDSM exploration, body confidence, breastfeeding, communication, confidence building, couples sex club, downtown Halloween party, dominant partner, emotional support, exploring dominance, foursome, friendship boundaries, group sex, hands-on stimulation, kinky photography, lesbian experiences, libido changes, lights-on sex, love language shifts, married sex life, masturbation anxiety, mirror sex, mirror on ceiling, motherhood, natural lighting, nature photography, non-shaved vulva, open communication, overthinking during sex, physical support, physical touch, photo challenges, polyamory exploration, postpartum sex, pregnancy and libido, private outdoor photography, public sex concerns, relationship exploration, same-sex experiences, scheduled sex, self-exploration, sex after childbirth, sex in front of mirrors, sex photography, sexy videos, sexual stimulation, sleepovers with friends, swinger apps, threesomes, touching legs, watching husband with others.

Steph’s episode from July 2020 | Fiancée Switch Bliss

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46 bisexual white female, mom of three, has *no* relationship status, braving the dating world, Midwest-based.

Topics mentioned:

Anal sex, anxiety around STIs, bisexual discovery, blowjob enthusiasm, body confidence, butt play curiosity, casual dating, childhood trauma, cleanliness preferences, communication in sex, consent conversations, couple dynamics, cunnilingus preferences, dirty talk, divorced sex life, dominance and submission, emotional safety, female pleasure, femme attraction, fishnet lingerie, handjobs, herpes disclosure, high sex drive, honesty in relationships, kissing, lingerie appreciation, lingerie under clothes, male vulnerability, masturbation, messy sex, midwestern upbringing, MILF fantasies, nipple orgasms, non-monogamy, open conversations with kids, oral sex on women, outdoor sex, parenting and sex ed, pegging, penis size preferences, personal growth, pussy licking, quickies, relationship desires, rest stop sex, risky sex locations, same-sex experiences, sensuality, sexual communication, sexual curiosity, sexual healing, sexual shame, sexual spontaneity, sexually adventurous, showered partners, size insecurity, slow build-up, small stature, spitting discomfort, squirting, strap-on sex, threesomes, trust issues, vaginal pleasure, vulnerability during sex, wanting sex daily, watching at sex parties.

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