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We Are Designed To Follow Patterns

Our brain is designed to identify and create patterns. We do this in an effort to conserve energy, increase our chances of survival, and make life easier.

This isn't a bad thing. So many of the things that we do are based on patterns that we've picked up. Many of these patterns help us be healthy, productive, and happy humans. 

There are, however, patterns that do not serve us. 

Have you heard the story of the mother who cut the end off the ham before she put it in the pan to cook? When asked why she did this, her answer was something like, "I'm not sure. I think it helps it cook better. I just learned it from my mother." So they called her mother and asked, "Why do we cut the end off the ham to bake it?" She replied, "I don't know. That's just what my mother did." So they called her mother, the grandmother of the original mother, and asked, "Why do we cut the ends off of the ham before baking?" The grandmother replied, "I don't know why you do it, but when I cooked ham we had a small oven and even smaller pan, and I had to cut the ends off so it would fit."

This is an example of a pattern that simply gets adopted and blindly continued over and over. 

I notice this in my life when I yell at my kids. I sound just like my parents did when they yelled at me.

This is simply a pattern that I learned and adopted in my own life. 

BUT, there's power in being aware of this! I see that if I disrupt these patterns NOW, my kids will benefit from the new patterns that I establish.

This goes along with one of my teachings about being herd animals. Following pre-established patterns is part of what we do as heard animals. We do this to help us fit it. It's what we do. 

Notice where you are following the patterns of the herd. 

Find it in your thoughts, emotions, and actions.

Then intentionally disrupt the pattern and create new patterns. 

YOU Can Be The Pattern Disrupter! 

If you are like most human beings, you're living by a set of patterns that you repeat regularly without really even thinking about what you are doing?

If you never question your patterns, you will never change!

You can be the pattern disrupter. 

I've seen this with families that have had abuse be part of the family dynamic for generations. You can be the disruption that changes generations of negative patterns. 

Generations of beliefs, poverty, weight struggles, ways of BEing can all be changed with YOU!

You have the power to be a pattern disrupter. 

Be the change you want to see!

I Want To Help You Disrupt Your Patterns!

Are you stuck in your patterns?

Have you tried to change over and over, but nothing sticks. 

If you're like most of my clients, you do better for a few weeks, only to get completely derailed by your teen's actions. 

You are likely following a lot of the patterns that your parents followed. 

Commit to going all in. 

BE the disruption. 

Create new intentional patterns!

If not you, then who? If not now, when?

Call to ACTION!

I'm getting ready to launch my BETA program for parents, Impact: Parenting Transformation. And I want YOU to help me make it the best pro

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