How To Fail With Elizabeth Day

You might know Sue Perkins from her long-running partnership with Mel Giedroyc, presenting The Great British Bake Off (The Great British Baking Show for our American friends), or from TV and radio shows including The Supersizers..., Just a Minute and her many travel documentaries. A comedian, broadcaster, writer and presenter, Perkins has been a fixture on British television for more than 25 years. In 2023, she was diagnosed with ADHD, inspiring her latest Audible Original, Attention Please!, an exploration of neurodivergence, dopamine and what it means to navigate life with a differently wired brain.

In this episode of How To Fail, we discuss Sue's late ADHD diagnosis and how undiagnosed neurodivergence shaped her childhood and school years; the traumatic experience of having a pituitary tumour dismissed by a male doctor because she didn't have a husband or boyfriend, and the lasting impact that had. We also talk about grief, shame and friendship, as Sue reflects on drifting apart from her university friend, Shayla, before her tragic death, and what this loss taught Sue about showing up for the people we love.

Questions this episode tackles:

How do I manage my ADHD?

How do I cope with the death of my friend?

How do I discuss my fertility with doctors?

IN THIS EPISODE 

00:00 Introduction 

03:04 Dopamine and Maestro

06:09 Sensitivity and the News

07:36 Childhood and Being Seen

10:09 Rejection Sensitivity

11:32 School Test Trauma

15:01 Undiagnosed ADHD at School

16:56 Diagnosis and Lockdown Spiral

19:42 Sponsor Letter to Future Self

21:10 Parenting Yourself After Loss

21:31 Health Scare and Fertility

21:56 Emailing the wrong person

22:04 Pituitary tumor diagnosis

23:51 Not advocating in care

25:36 Fertility grief and acceptance

27:16 Parenting yourself instead

32:26 Bake Off kindness ethos

35:37 Shayla and comedy beginnings

38:28 Drifting apart and loss

42:36 Shame, guilt and friendship lessons

46:14 Closing reflections and goodbye

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER: 

My fertility has nothing to do with my partner, and it has nothing to do with my sexuality.

I think it’s my role in this life to be a great aunt and to be a great godparent.

If you feel something, it’s not enough to feel it, you must act on it… make the thought, the feeling, the need and the love real.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS: 

Sue's 2027 tour tickets: https://www.sueperkinslive.co.uk/

Sue’s new audio book, Attention Please! available here: www.audible.co.uk

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Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan   

Engineer: Matias Torres 

Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson 

Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot 

Executive Producer: Alex Lawless 

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You might know Greg Wise as swoonsome Willoughby in the 1995 Sense and Sensibility TV adaptation (where he met his future wife, Dame Emma Thompson, on set); or from his roles in Cranford, The Outcast, The Crown or The Buccaneers. But Wise’s career spans far beyond the world of film and TV. A passionate advocate for talking openly about grief, particularly among men, Greg is an ambassador for Marie Curie, Carers Trust and the Good Grief Trust, and a patron of End of Life Doula UK. His new book, Grief Talking, uses his own personal stories of loss to provide the reader with an emotional and practical map to exploring the most difficult human landscapes.

In this conversation, we discuss the depths of trauma and grief, how you have to be able to take rejection as an actor, his and Emma’s experience of IVF, and the unconventional way they built their family.

IN THIS EPISODE

00:00 Introduction

03:07 Why He Wrote Grief Talking

05:05 Masculinity And Mourning

06:20 Trauma Versus Grief

08:03 End Of Life Doula Work

14:12 Rejection In Acting

24:40 IVF And Secondary Infertility

28:26 IVF Strain on Couples

29:17 Failure Language in Fertility

30:20 Dehumanising Medical Labels

32:22 IVF as Grief and Absence

33:48 Rebuilding Family and Therapy

35:11 Unexpected Family with Tindy

40:22 Gaia Acting and Resilience

41:42 Strictly, Risk and Clare Tribute

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

Men and women grieve in different ways: men are thinking grievers. Women (more generally speaking) are emotional grievers.

Trauma needs to be looked at before the grief is handled.

If you can’t take rejection, you shouldn’t be an actor.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Greg’s book, Grief Talking, is available to pre-order now and is out on 5th November: www.panmacmillan.com/authors/greg-wise/grief-talking/9781035058297

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Hanif Kureishi is one of Britain’s most celebrated writers. His debut screenplay, My Beautiful Laundrette, was nominated for an Academy Award, and he went on to write novels including The Buddha of Suburbia and Intimacy, as well as screenplays for Venus and The Mother.

But in 2022, Kureishi’s life changed irrevocably. A fall in his partner’s apartment left him paralysed and unable to use his hands. His extraordinary journey through the aftermath and rehabilitation became the subject of his 2024 memoir, Shattered. Now, in Are You With Me Now?, a collection of essays written with his son Carlo, he explores what it means to survive when the life you knew has fallen apart.

In this episode, Hanif talks about the accident itself, subsequent years, his changing relationship with writing and his body… and why Elton John came to his wedding!

IN THIS EPISODE

00:00 Introduction

03:53 Accident to Viral Blogs

06:49 Work, Disability, Identity

07:31 Conflict as Intimacy

12:27 Failures at School

19:32 Loss, Suicide, Wedding Twist

24:27 Quitting Directing

24:46 Writing The Buddha Of Suburbia

26:17 Comedy From Pain

27:02 Oscar Nominee Whirlwind

29:19 Why Directing Failed

31:56 Success And Jealousy

34:34 Body Failing Bomb

42:28 Love Dependence

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

I was writing to keep myself alive as a person.

I think boredom is really important.

If someone becomes glamorous and successful, it f***s with your head.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Hanif’s book Are You With Me Now? is out on 5th November: www.penguin.co.uk/books/481825/are-you-with-me-now-by-kureishi-hanif-kureishi-with-carlo/9780241831595

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Bill Bailey is a comedian, musician, writer, actor, director and presenter, known for his brilliant live tours and panel appearances on shows including Never Mind the Buzzcocks and QI.

In this episode, Bill discusses being rejected from drama school, an Edinburgh Fringe show which flopped and the death of his best friend Sean Lock. Plus: the moment he decided to cut off his legendary hair (after it got stuck in some train doors).

Now, Bill is back on the road with his new UK arena tour, Bill Bailey: Vaudevillian, culminating in a two-month residency at London’s Theatre Royal Haymarket.

IN THIS EPISODE

00:00 Introduction

03:05 Live Shows vs Screens

06:30 Love Letters and Marriage

10:24 Drama School Rejection

15:30 Music Teacher and Confidence

19:49 Haircut and Next Failure

22:51 Comeback Rocker Concept

23:20 Bill Best Backstory

24:28 Props Songs and Craft

25:16 Great Reviews No Crowd

25:46 One Person Audience Night

28:06 Friendship and Grief

34:22 Leaving Academia Behind

41:51 Animals Curiosity and Wallace

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

Being on stage in front of an audience - there's nothing quite like it. There isn't really anything that replicates that experience.

You have to cherish every moment. Cherish those friendships that you have. Cultivate them. Cultivate relationships with everyone that you feel a bond with, because you never know when they're not gonna be around.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Get tickets for Bill’s tour, Vaudevillean, here: www.billbailey.co.uk/live

Join the How To Fail community: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

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Bella Mackie began her career as a journalist, writing for publications including the Guardian, Vice and Vogue, before writing her bestselling debut, Jog On. The book explored how running helped her rebuild her life after the end of her first marriage triggered debilitating anxiety and panic attacks.

She followed it with How To Kill Your Family, a darkly comic novel about a young woman methodically murdering her wealthy relatives. It spent 47 weeks on the Sunday Times bestseller list and is now being adapted for Netflix, starring Anya Taylor-Joy. Two more novels followed, including her latest, Claws Out - another bestseller, this time taking aim at the absurdities of North London’s liberal elite.

It’s a world Mackie knows well. She grew up in North London, the daughter of journalist and campaigner Lindsay Mackie and former Guardian editor Alan Rusbridger, and still lives there today with her husband, Radio 1 DJ Greg James.

In this episode we cover her OCD, how she feels she hasn’t ‘fixed’ her mental health - and perhaps never will, her ‘failure’ to leave home and what it’s like to be married to someone painfully level-headed. 

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IN THIS EPISODE

00:00 Intro

02:51 True Crime Origins

04:11 Rewriting Crime Tropes

07:17 Funny Draft Fail

10:37 Success Fuels Anxiety

14:57 Living With OCD

22:02 Childfree Choice Backlash

30:41 Cozy Season Sponsor Break

31:35 Failure to Launch Confession

32:15 Living Near Mum and Dad

33:48 Therapy Rejection and Detachment

34:43 Anxiety and Codependency Roots

37:31 Privilege Nepotism and Validation

39:26 Tony Blair as the Adult

44:01 Driving Cycling and Creative Life

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

Anyone else’s mental health is an island you can’t get to. 

OCD is like Pokemon, you can catch them all. 

Greg [my husband] lies down on me when I have an intrusive thought and does a chicken dance on me to make me laugh. 

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Scaramucci’s 11-day tenure as the White House Communications Chief under President Donald Trump’s first term ended in a blaze of recrimination. Scaramucci was advised by a PR consultant to disappear for five years. He refused - and reinvented his career.

Now, he is the co-host of the US version of The Rest is Politics podcast alongside British journalist Katty Kay.

After Harvard Law School, he joined Goldman Sachs and built a career in finance, eventually founding the investment firm SkyBridge Capital.

In this revealing conversation we discuss what working on Wall Street in the 80s was like, getting fired from Goldman Sachs, his failed first marriage, not being there for his son’s birth, getting fired from The White House and rebuilding his current marriage.

His book, All the Wrong Moves, looks at how three catastrophic decisions and years of ‘sh*tshow politics’ led to Trump.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Introduction montage

03:22 Learning optimism and pronoia

05:02 Self forgiveness after failure

06:40 Growing up and getting to Tufts

11:58 Why he wrote the book

14:03 Fired then rehired at Goldman

25:23 Money mindset and marriage cracks

30:48 Work Taxes Burnout

31:26 Marriage Neglect Regrets

34:07 Conflict Avoidance Trap

34:55 Affair Self Forgiveness

37:46 Fatherhood After Divorce

40:44 Trump Ego Decision

45:00 Firing from The Whitehouse

57:03 Rebuilding and Looking Ahead

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

When bad things happen, take a step back, and get into a channel that is the adult channel. Act in a rational way.

I trained my brain to be optimistic.

If you’re not careful, wealth can make you very depressed and lonely.

Trump's bullying reminded me of my dad… but I was better prepared for it.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Anthony’s book, All the Wrong Moves, is available to buy now: www.penguin.co.uk/books/476667/all-the-wrong-moves-by-scaramucci-anthony/9781847929235

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Luke Evans and Sarah Solemani join Elizabeth to talk about the journey of Elizabeth’s 2017 novel The Party to its new five-part ITV adaptation. 

Luke stars as the show’s protagonist, Martin Gilmour, and Sarah stars as his wife, Lucy… oh and she also brilliantly adapted the novel for screen. 

The trio discuss the making of this exciting new drama for TV, how Luke discovered the book and kick-started the process and what the show is about. They discuss themes including: sexuality, the class system in the UK, shame, women leading production, culture on sets in today’s world and friendship. 

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IN THIS EPISODE

00:00 Introduction

01:42 Luke Discovers the Novel

02:51 Finding the Screenwriter

04:45 Adapting Into Five Episodes

07:13 What The Party Is About

09:44 Casting Lucy and Onscreen Marriage

13:04 Collaboration and Set Rewrites

18:09 Women Leading the Production

19:35 Set Culture and Final Day Speech

21:15 Author Visits Set and Craft Details

22:26 Friendship, Desire and Identity

25:08 Class, Shame and Final Takeaways

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Bonnie Garmus was 64 when her debut novel, Lessons in Chemistry, was published. It went on to sell more than eight million copies, spend almost two years on the New York Times bestseller list, was translated into more than 40 languages and become an eight-part Apple TV+ series. At its centre was Elizabeth Zott, a fiercely intelligent, forthright chemist turned 1950s TV cooking star.

Bonnie and I talk about the misogyny that inspired Lessons in Chemistry, her love of dogs, working through a stutter, adopting her two daughters from China and what it took to overcome years of rejection.

Her new novel, Peck & Peck, is out in the UK on 13 October.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Intro

03:41 Arts Versus Science

05:44 Sexism Sparks Novel

08:58 Greed And AI Warning

12:19 Dogs Behind Characters

16:30 Childhood Failures

30:26 Living With A Stutter

31:50 Letters And Workarounds

32:53 Adoption Journey To China

36:10 What Adoption Really Means

37:23 Family Bonds And Fate

39:17 Jeopardy Husband Spotlight

40:10 98 Rejections And Resilience

47:05 Finding An Agent And Writing Life

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

I’ve had a lot of dogs in my life, and not a single one has disappointed me.

I never look back on my career and think I have regrets.

I had a therapist who was a stutterer… he gave me the courage to embrace it, and then I got better.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Bonnie’s new novel Peck & Peck is available to pre-order now: www.waterstones.com/book/peck-and-peck/bonnie-garmus/9781786588975

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Russell T Davies has spent decades creating some of Britain’s most beloved and groundbreaking television. After studying English at Oxford, he went from writing for children’s programmes and Coronation Street to creating Queer As Folk in 1999 - a show that changed the conversation around gay representation on TV. Since then, he’s written hit after hit, from Bob & Rose and A Very English Scandal to Years and Years, It’s A Sin and his hugely successful revival of Doctor Who. He’s won four BAFTAs and was awarded an OBE in 2008.

In this episode we talk about where his obsession and passion for TV came from, how his exceptionally busy mind works, losing his husband to a brain tumour, his love of Dr Who and…finding love again.

His new memoir, The Queerest of Folk, is out on 8th October.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Intro

02:35 TV Obsession Origins

03:24 Memoir and Andrew

08:35 AIDS and Its a Sin

10:36 Queer as Folk Shockwaves

12:37 Failure to Drive

16:45 Writing in Images

28:05 Early Illustration Gigs

28:54 Obsessed With Drawing

30:20 Losing the Habit

31:52 Comics and Story Beats

33:54 Writing Geniuses Doctor Who

37:13 Staying a Fan

41:41 Legacy and Family Roots

49:59 Aging Love and Goodbye

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

When I dream I invent people who don’t exist.

I’ve saved for decades, I saved for a rainy day, and then one day it rained.

Please never get rid of the Tardis.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Russell’s memoir, The Queerest Of Folk is available to buy now: uk.bookshop.org/p/books/the-queerest-of-folk-a-life-in-television-russell-t-davies/a290496f474a1f8c

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Sir Paul Smith is one of Britain’s most iconic fashion designers, renowned for his sharp tailoring and his sartorial flair. His clothes have an innate sense of mischief: brightly coloured linings, unexpected stripes and a determination never to take themselves too seriously. His devoted clients include Gary Oldman, Bill Nighy and Matty Healy, who wore a Paul Smith suit for his recent wedding.

Behind the stripes and the suits is a man with a simple life philosophy: stay humble, work hard, be kind. On this episode we talk about the cycling accident that set him on a path to fashion and how he’s kept his global business independent for 56 years. Plus, the secret to a long marriage, what tailoring teaches him about people’s insecurities - and why he wore a suit every day during the Covid lockdowns.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Intro

03:40 Tailoring for Everyone

06:48 The Pink Wall Story

08:31 Stripes and Reinvention

10:20 Turning 80

11:33 Cycling Freedom and Family

18:20 Crash That Changed Everything

24:20 Pauline Sets The Standard

25:19 Keeping Love And Work Balanced

26:19 Step Parenting And Playfulness

27:28 The Trap Of Comparison

32:43 Brexit COVID And Staying Independent

36:02 Choosing The Right Collaborations

37:21 Believing Your Own Hype

42:47 Creativity Legacy And Farewell

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

Pauline [my wife] set the standard - it’s been very important for longevity.

A successful relationship is about balance. Knowing when to talk, when to listen… and have both feet on the ground.

The danger is losing your focus, and worrying too much about ‘them’.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Sir Paul Smith’s Memoir ‘Threads’ is available to buy now: www.paulsmith.com/uk/threads-by-sir-paul-smith-special-edition-book

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