September 03, 2025

How to Find a Good Dom (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms)

1 hour 21 minutes

Advice from 3 experienced Doms, including @Andy_Wells, Mario, and myself, for submissives focusing on the search for a compatible Dom. Learn key elements of dominance and submission, ensuring a safe and fulfilling dynamic.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro

(00:41) - Green flags in Doms

(04:21) - Starting slow

(08:03) - Discussing play beforehand

(16:14) - Meeting the submissive at their level

(22:19) - Having humility as a Dom

(33:03) - Understanding the intention behind desires

(43:20) - Feeling safe with the Dom

(47:58) - Asserting yourself as a submissive

(52:30) - Handling trauma triggers

(56:22) - Separating kink and sex

(01:05:38) - Aftercare

(01:10:07) - The Overconfident Dom

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FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:
▶️ How to Be a Better Dominant (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms): https://youtu.be/Rg9XLPG3vjQ
▶️ Consent, Trauma, & Healing in BDSM: https://youtu.be/h4plNnW82vw
▶️ What Happens When Kindness Meets Power? (Advice from a Pro Domme): https://youtu.be/5x-7xxPipf8

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