I Love You, Too

How to flirt like a feminist


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“How do I flirt without being creepy?” If anxiety stops you from flirting (especially in the #metoo era), then this episode is for you. Jessica and Josh talk about why flirtation is essential in dating, how feminist principles can help you build passionate relationships, and what to do if you’re too shy to flirt.

Key Takeaways

00:00 - Intro

02:52 - What is flirting?

10:07 - Why is it important?

15:27 - Principles of feminist flirting

17:55 - What does feminist flirting look like? What does it mean to flirt like a feminist?

25:36 - How do you flirt without being creepy?

32:36 - What if you feel too shy to flirt?

Resources and links

For full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcast

The Five Flirting Styles by Jeffrey Hall

Mama Gena, author and feminist icon

Episode 2: What to look for in a long term partner

Research on flirting. Keep in mind this is a mishmash of various strategies that vary in effectiveness depending on your gender, goal (e.g. short-term vs long-term), and cultural context.

  • Perceived Effectiveness of Flirtation Tactics: The Effects of sex, Mating Context and Individual Differences in US and Norwegian Samples
  • It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking
  • The effect of a woman's incidental tactile contact on men's later behavior
  • Looking and loving: The effects of mutual gaze on feelings of romantic love
  • Courtship Communication and Perception
  • Science Says These 8 Flirting Techniques Are The Most Successful

Episode 1: You aren’t crazy, dating is hard (especially for anxious folx)

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