It’s time to “Ask the Dating Coach!” as Connell Barrett takes your questions. If you struggle with what to say on dates, Connell shares three essential flirting moves to help you spark romantic connections. (Farewell, Friend Zone!) He also reveals why women prefer nice guys over so-called alpha males. And a listener has a “sheepish” question about talking dirty in bed.

Highlights from this episode:

01:51: Andrew Asks: “A Woman Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep in Bed. What Do I Do?”

03:19: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Awkward

08:57: Zach Asks: “Am I Too Nice? Do Women Only Want to Date Alpha Males?”

11:25: Why the “Alpha Male” Is a Total Myth

13:48: How Kindness, Confidence and Authenticity Will Help You Get a Girlfriend

24:30: Barry Asks: “Why Can’t I Get Past the First Date?”

25:52: Connell’s Aha Moment that Made Him Magnetic to Women

31:07: Three Flirting Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Land Second Dates

Hit play and start transforming your love life today

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Burnt out on dating apps? The endless swiping, the lack of quality matches, the fake profiles—it’s exhausting! But Inner Circle is changing the game. Equal parts social club and dating app, Inner Circle is built for ambitious singles who want to swipe less and connect more, forming real, meaningful relationships. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Inner Circle’s founder David Vermeulen. He shares how his innovative platform helps successful, driven men and women connect authentically—first online and then IRL at fun, exclusive events in cities like New York, London, Paris and Rio.

With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:

4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle

6:38 How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles

7:55 Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”

10:43 A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World

11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life

19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View

27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity

30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date

33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women

35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”

Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!


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https://about.theinnercircle.co/

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The new year is here, and now’s the time to attract your dream girl. But not knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. You need a clear, tested plan for success. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 5 proven strategies that practically guarantee you’ll find love in 2025. These aren’t flimsy resolutions you’ll abandon by February. They’re bold, revolutionary daily rituals to authentically connect with wonderful women.

Using Connell’s tested moves, you’re about to learn:

01:30: Why Resolutions Fail—and How to Build Rituals that Get Dating Results

05:45: What Women Really Want—Authenticity!—and How to Give it to Them

14:20: How to Truly Connect with Women Who are Your Type

24:18: A Morning Ritual that Supercharges Your Motivation and Confidence

38:10: The Daily Practice that Virtually Guarantees You Will Find Love in 2025

51:10: The Online-Dating Secret to Skyrocket Your Number of Quality Matches

1:08:30: What You MUST Do Today to if You Want a Great Girlfriend

Your dream girl is waiting—don’t wait another day to start your journey. Listen now!


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Feeling stuck in a dating dry spell? So was Jake. At 30, this shy, nerdy engineer (and proud Creed fan) felt too afraid to talk to women. And he hadn’t had a girlfriend in a decade. But with personalized guidance from dating coach Connell Barrett, Jake learned how to confidently connect with women on the dating apps and IRL. In one whirlwind week, Jake went on five first dates. “That’s more than I’d had the entire previous year,” he said with a laugh. Then he met bright, bubbly Allie, who’s now his girlfriend. “I knew she was the one.”

Channeling Creed, this episode will take your love life… higher! Connell and Jake discuss:

09:30: The Missed Approach Opportunity that Ignited Jake’s Breakthrough

13:35: The Mindset Shift Every Man Needs to Attract His Dream Girlfriend

16:30: How Jake Landed Five Dates in Just One Week

17:28: The First-Date Aha Moment that Led to a Sexy Make-out

20:25: A 15-Minute Ritual for Instant Confidence22:06: How Connell’s “80-20” Flirting Rule Helps You Know What to Say to Women

34:17: A Playful Teasing Move that Builds Attraction on Dates

40:45: The Wordless Approach Technique that Works in Loud Venues

45:38: How to Help the Right Woman See You As Her Dream Guy

58:19: Connell’s No. 1 Daily Dating Tip to ApplyWith Allie as his partner, Jake’s decade of loneliness is behind him.

Listen now and start your journey to finding the girlfriend you deserve!


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With over 1,000 dating apps out there, it’s hard to know which one is right for you—and which will waste your time and money. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his top 7 apps that he and his clients used in 2024. Whether you’re looking for meaningful connections or fun, casual dates, this guide will help you find the perfect app to help you get matches and dates… and even find your soulmate!

Here’s what Connell covers in this episode:

1:30: Why Choosing the Wrong App Costs You Matches and Dates

2:45: No. 7: The League—it’s About Quality, Not Quantity

4:45: No. 6: Why Badoo is Great if You Aren’t Hollywood Handsome

7:11: No. 5 and No. 4: Match and eHarmony—Which Long-Term Relationship Platform is Better for You?

12:45: How Coffee Meets Bagel Will Help You Get Coffee Dates with Your Type of Women

15:15: No. 2: Bumble’s Latest Innovations that Make Finding Love Easier than Ever

19:07: No. 1: The Top Dating App of 2024 is… Hinge! Here’s Why Every Man MUST Be on Hinge

22:37: Bonus Tip: A Clever Way Hinge Can Help You Succeed on Other Dating Apps

Tune in now to turn your swipes into sparks—and matches into love!


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Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell’s dating advice column.)

You’re about to learn:

2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you’ve just met

6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on

16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever

22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence

25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love

33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you’re making

39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection

47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement

59:17: Lisa’s no. 1 dating tip that every man must know

Are you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!


FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:
http://GoodMenProject.com


CHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT’S DATING SUBSTACK:
http://gmpdating.substack.com


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Quotes

"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey

"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa Hickey

It’s Christmas, and Santa Connell has a gift for you: Matches galore on the dating apps! Because endless swiping and ZERO matches makes you say, “ho, ho, NO!” It’s getting old, right? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Zach fix the same issues that frustrate you. Zach—a personal trainer and 40-year-old single dad—learns 15 proven online-dating moves to turn his phone into a date-generating machine. And hey, the more good matches you have, the sooner you can attract a wonderful girlfriend who loves you for you.

Here are some of the strategies Connell shares with Zach. You’re about to learn:

6:41: How to Maximize Online-Dating Success with Minimal Effort (15 Minutes Daily!)

8:49: Why Being a Single Dad is a Feature, Not a Flaw—and How to Talk about it On Your Profile

14:35: Connell Crafts a Clever, Authentic “DILF” Prompt for Zach that Women Will Love

17:49: The 3 Photos Every Man MUST Have on his Hinge, Bumble or Tinder Profile

21:08: The Secret to Writing Funny Prompts that Make Her Message YOU First

23:18: Boosting your Profile: When, Why and How to Do It

27:07: From Matching to Texting to Getting the First Date, in 3 Simple Steps

30:04: How to use Video Clips to Skyrocket Your Matches

32:15: The 5 Big Profile Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making

55:43: Hinge Hack: How to Write Poll Prompts to Triple Your Matches

1:01:17: How to Date Without Drinking Alcohol and Still Have Fun

Hit “play” now and start getting good matches on the apps.


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Quotes

"Transparency fosters genuine connections and sets clear expectations." - Zach

"The focus on self-improvement paves the way for deeper connections and fulfilling relationships." - Zach

Are you facing a lonely New Year’s Eve? Just you, Ryan Seacrest, and the ball—along with your romantic hopes—dropping. (More like New Year’s ROTTEN Eve…) Guess what: 2024 doesn’t have to end that way! In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 25 powerful, practical approach moves to help you land that magical midnight kiss with someone special. You’ll learn how to defeat approach anxiety, confidently talk to women, and maybe ring in the new year with a new love—or at least a sexy make-out. And you’ll do it all with class. Think authentic charm, not creepy smarm.

With 12 years of experience helping men approach and talk to women, Connell shares these game-changing tips:

1:16: Why Ryan Seacrest Sucks (Let’s Vent)

5:17: A Mindset Tip to Fix Approach Anxiety

10:50: Three Openers to Use with Any Woman

12:01: How to Stop Fearing Rejection and Get in the Zone

14:39: The Bold Approaching Move that Dials Up Attraction with Women

18:12: The Three Questions to Ask Every Woman You Meet

20:45: The “Z Pattern”—a Technique to Create Romantic Tension with Eye Contact

22:11: Three First-Kiss Moves that Work Almost Every Time

Listen now and make this New Year’s Eve as fun and sexy as a first kiss.


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Quotes

"True confidence comes from commitment, not from fearing the outcome." - Connell Barrett"

What seems risky is often the safest path to success." - Connell Barrett

Maybe you’ve been in Jack’s shoes. He goes on a few dates, and everything seems fine. Then—bam! She says, “I’m just not feeling a connection.” Frustrating? Absolutely. “It happens a lot, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” Jack, a 33-year-old sales rep., admits to dating coach Connell Barrett at the start of their first session. By the end of their call, Jack has a proven 3-date plan to make the right woman see him as boyfriend material. Listen as Connell uncovers Jack’s hidden flirting weaknesses (Jack’s aha moment hits at 52 minutes) and turns them into strengths.


Jack’s coaching session with Connell will show you:

6:41 – Why Women May Not See You as Boyfriend Material

9:33 – 3 Simple Ways to Build Romantic Tension on Dates

13:25 – The 3-Date Roadmap to Help the Right Woman See You as the Partner She Wants

17:53 – Creative Date Ideas that Make Her Want to Keep Seeing You

24:19 – How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting More Dates

27:30 – The Easy Way to Text Women without Seeming Needy

41:03 – How to Tease Women with Charm, NOT Tricks or Manipulation

52:49 – Jack’s Aha Moment: Why He’s Been Hitting the 3-Date Wall

57:12 – The Secret Flirting Move that Makes Nice Guys Irresistible

1:01:18 – How to Give a “Power Compliment” that Get Women Swooning

1:04:18 – The Power of Sharing AUTHENTIC Personal Stories on Dates

Listen now and start your 3-date journey to winning her heart!


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Quotes

"Recognizing where you’re stuck is the first step toward finding your way forward." - Jack"

Shared laughter and playful exchanges frequently initiate the best connections." - Jack

Have you ever settled—in love, life, or both? It can leave you feeling stuck. Garrain Jones knows what it means to be stuck. He grew up poor without a father, who was murdered, then served time in prison on drug charges. But he refused to settle. Garrain transformed his life, becoming
a bestselling author and renowned coach who now inspires millions. Oh, and along the way he landed his dream girl—his wife, Blair! In this episode, Garrain joins dating coach Connell Barrett to help you become the best version of yourself. “To attract a high-value woman,” he says, “you need to become a high-value man.”


Here’s what you’ll learn in Connell and Garrain’s powerful conversation:

3:50 How to Bounce Back from Rock Bottom

15:30 The 5 Books Every Man Should Read

21:33 Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Fake, Toxic “Alpha Males”

32:00 Why Playfulness Is a Man’s Secret Flirting Weapon—and How to Use It

39:42 The Biggest Dating Lesson Garrain Learned Before Meeting His Wife, Blair

40:44 A Flirting Move You Can Steal: How Garrain Used to Get Women to Approach HIM at Bars

52:07 How to Become the Charismatic Man Women Want to Date

58:45 The Jaw-Dropping Truth Bomb Garrain Told Blair on their First Date

60:03 Garrain’s 3-Step Formula for Never Settling Again

It’s time to stop settling and start thriving! Your dream relationship awaits. Listen now.


LEARN MORE ABOUT GARRAIN JONES’S INCREDIBLE STORY:
https://www.garrainjones.com/

TO APPLY TO HIS “ARTIST POWER” PROGRAM:
https://go.garrainjones.com/apply-artist-power-leadership-program

READ GARRAIN’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR LIFE”:
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