How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Do women confuse you? Would you like to get better at connecting on and off the apps, but you struggle to read women? In today’s episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes a very special guest: Instagram influencer and dating expert Lindsey Metselaar, host of the wildly popular dating podcast We Met At Acme. Once a single woman herself, Lindsey is here to help you read women on dates, on the apps, and when you want to approach.


In their fun, lively conversation, Connell and Lindsey discuss:

(8:47) How Connell Went from Paralyzing Approach Anxiety to Confidently Meeting Women IRL

(13:37) How to Compliment Women with Authentic Charm, and Zero Creepiness

(20:00) How Lindsey’s Podcast, We Met At Acme, Helps Millennials Improve their Love Lives

(24:00) Why A Woman You Like Suddenly Goes Quiet

(29:50) How to Tell if She’s into You

(36:07) Why Women are Drawn to Vulnerable, Authentic Men

(48:07) How to Flirt with Women without Being Weird

(52:29) First Date Topics to Talk About…and NOT to Talk About

(53:33) The Charming Way Women Want You to Approach Them

(56:52) Why Humor is More Attractive than Good Looks

(59:36) Women HATE HATE HATE When Guys Do THIS!

(1:01:44) Lindsey’s Top 4 Dating Tips You Need to Know


Are you ready to stop being confused by women, and start understanding how to read and connect with them? Listen now!


READ LINDSEY’S SUBSTACK
https://wemetatacme.substack.com/


CHECK OUT HER BINGE-WORTHY DATING PODCAST
We Met At Acme


GO TO HER WEBSITE TO LEARN ABOUT LINDSEY’S LIVE SHOWS
http://www.wemetatacme.com


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO TALK ABOUT 1-1 COACHING
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH
http://www.datingtransformation.com/flirty30

In the pantheon of self-development thought leaders for men, no one looms larger than Dr. Robert Glover. A therapist, coach and public speaker for 30 years, Dr. Glover has helped countless men transform from passive and resentful to empowered and confident. His bestselling book, “No More Nice Guy,” is a self-help classic, sharing the same rarified air as David Deida’s “The Way of the Superior Man” and Brene Brown’s “Daring Greatly.”

In this encore episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett and Dr. Glover—author of “The Dating Essentials for Men”—will discuss:

(5:03) How Connell’s Nerdy Client Ken Got His Very First Kiss Ever

(12:19) A Simple Tip on How to Always Know What to Say to Women

(19:57) Dr. Glover Reveals Why “Nice Guy Syndrome” Is Hurting Your Love Life

(26:20) How Dr. Glover Cracked the Code in His Own Dating Life

(30:33) How Shame Can Hurt Your Self-Esteem

(34:22) Why Indian and Asian Men Struggle with Dating in the U.S.

(42:11) Why a Woman Wants a Little “Caveman” in the Guy She Dates

(43:35) How to Confident and Strong without Being an A-Hole

(50:22) Dr. Glover’s Formula to Be a Man of “Loving Dominance”

(55:11) Why Rejection is Good for You

(1:01:03) How to Stop Feeling Needy with Women

(1:07:01) The Easy Way to Get a Woman’s Phone Number

(1:09:45) Dr. Glover’s Top Tip to Stay out of the Friend Zone


Are you ready to stop being “Mr. Nice Guy” and start being the man women want you to be? Listen now, and take one step closer to getting a great girlfriend!


TO LEARN ABOUT DR. GLOVER’S COACHING, COURSES AND HIS BOOK, “DATING ESSENTIALS FOR MEN”
http://www.drglover.com


FOLLOW DR. GLOVER ON TWITTER/X
http://www.twitter.com/dr_r_glover


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

If you don’t know what to talk about or how to flirt on first dates, this is the episode for you. In part 5 of this week-long series on how to get a girlfriend, host and dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his romantic partner Jessamin. The couple breaks down the fun, connected first date that put them on the path to love. What do women from want on dates? Jessamin will tell you!


In this episode, Connell and Jessamin will discuss:

(3:20) The Photos on His Profile that Made Her Swipe Right

(3:55) The Kinds of Photos NOT to Use

(13:05) The Right Way to Text a Woman Before a First Date

(15:00) How to Write Light, Flirty Messages to Keep from Getting Ghosted

(18:20) Jessamin’s Top First-Date Tip

(26:30) How to Make a Great First Impression

(29:00) What to Talk About to Never Run out of Things to Say

(30:48) How to Avoid Interview Mode and Not Get Friend-Zoned

(34:15) The Simple Way Connell Went in for the First Kiss

(37:18) How to Ask Her Out for a Second Date

(39:21) Jessamin’s Top 3 First-Date Mistakes that Guys Make

(45:00) Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Toxic “Alpha Males”

Are you ready to stop hearing “Let’s be friends” and start getting second dates? Listen now.


Quotes

"Seize your first impression in online dating—it's your chance to stand out from the start." - Jessamin

"Great conversations flow when your humor and interests align." - Jessamin


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: https://datingtransformation.com/contact/


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: https://datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30/

Odds are, you see women you’d love to meet at bars, grocery stores or the gym, but you never approach them. Fear holds you back. You don’t know what to say, and you don’t want to seem creepy. It’s frustrating… but fixable! In this episode, host Connell Barrett—who has approached thousands of women in his 12 years as a dating coach—shares a new way to confidently meet women IRL. His Authentic Approach Technique will teach you exactly what to say to women, so you can get numbers and dates and find an incredible girlfriend. And you’ll talk to women with charm and authenticity, NOT with sketchy pickup tricks.


In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:


(2:35) The 3 Simple Ways to Approach Women Almost Anywhere

(6:30) Why Women Hate Scripted “PUA” Tactics

(7:15) Why Connell’s Authentic Approach Technique is Basically Rejection-Proof

(8:05) The Night Connell Got 3 Numbers from 3 Wonderful Women

(11:50) The Approaching Mistake that Gets You In Your Head

(12:50) How to Meet Women Using a Power Compliment

(16:42) The Mindset Shift that Destroys Approach Anxiety

(19:42) How to Meet Women by Asking the Perfect Question

(22:30) A Great Approach Opener to Use at the Gym

(27:53) How to Meet Women with A Funny, Flirty Icebreaker

(36:30) How to Be Authentically Attractive, NOT Creepy

(41:15) How Connell’s Client Taylor Approached and Made Out with a Woman in Under 10 Minutes

(43:49) Your Approach Mission for this Episode


Are you ready to confidently meet women and get numbers and dates? Listen now!


Quotes

"Be the charming, authentic man who confidently sparks conversations anywhere. Your natural charm will have her telling her friends." - Connell Barnett

"Use a genuine compliment, relevant question, or unique observation to initiate conversations." - Connell Barnett


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

Do you struggle to write good openers? Do the women you text tend to ghost you? Help is on the way! In part 3 of this week’s special series on how to get a great girlfriend, your host—dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett—teaches you how to write irresistible openers on the apps that women reply to. Then he shares his simple, 4-step texting framework so you’ll always know what to message women, leading to more dates. And you’ll do all of this with authentic charm—no weird pickup tricks needed.


In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett will discuss:

(4:28) The Real Reason You Struggle on the Dating Apps

(7:27) The 3 Kinds of Openers NOT to Send

(9:01) The 3 Secrets to Writing Openers that Women Love

(10:25) How to Personalize Your Openers to Get Replies

(12:57) The BIG Mistake You’re Making in the Apps

(13:45) Why Women Love, Love, Love Playful Messages

(15:30) How to Write the “Opposites Attract” Opener

(17:58) How to Write the “Compliment + Nickname” Opener

(20:56) How to Write the “Pop Quiz” Opener

(28:00) 3 Tested Copy-Paste Openers that Women Love

(29:58) Connell’s 4-Step Texting Framework to Get You Dates

(32:57) A Breakdown of a Flirty Text Exchange with Suzy

(38:30) Exactly When to Ask Women Out

(40:32) Why Connell’s New “Surprisingly Sexy” Opener Works with ANY Woman

(43:15) Your Dating Mission for this Episode


Are you ready to stop getting ghosted and start getting dates? Listen now!


Quotes

"Learn her interests to tailor your approach; discussing them sparks meaningful conversations." - Connell Barnett

"Master teasing by staying light and avoiding sensitive topics like appearance or intelligence. Keep it fun, not personal." - Connell Barnett


Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

Chances are, you struggle with flirting. You’re not sure how to talk to women, and you run out of things to say. It hurts your confidence and your dating results. But what if you knew exactly how to talk to girls in a way they love, leading to great dates and deep connections? In part 2 of his 5-part series to help you get you a great girlfriend, dating coach Connell Barrett teaches you a new way to flirt. You’re about to harness the power of Man-to-Woman Communication, a simple way to confidently talk to women with charm and authenticity.


In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:

(4:58) The “Aha!” Moment when he Realized the Power of Man-to-Woman Communication

(13:08) The Reason You Get Stuck in the Friend Zone

(14:28) The 3 Pillars of Man-to-Woman Communication

(16:20) How to Never Run out of Things to Say

(18:30) The “80-20 Rule” to Help You Flirt with Genuine Charm, Not Manipulative Tactics

(20:21) 10 Tested Flirting Moves Connell and His Clients Use

(22:40) How to Make Her Swoon: the Right Way to Give a Compliment

(29:37) The Difference Between Flirting (Good!) and Fawning (Bad!)

(34:00) The Flirty Text Message that Helped Connell Charm His Future Girlfriend

(37:11) The Right Way to Touch a Woman on First Dates… and the WRONG Way

(41:40) The Most Potent Weapon in Your Dating Arsenal

(43:15) 5 Flirting Fails You Must Avoid

(49:20) 3 Back-pocket Questions to Assure You’ll Never Run Out of Things to Say


Are you ready to stop struggling when talking to women and start flirting with charm and authenticity? Learn the art of Man-to-Woman Communication. Listen now!


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

Quotes

"Man-to-woman communication is like turbocharged flirting—it simplifies and authenticates romantic connections." - Connell Barnett

"I think the most powerful tool you can bring to your dating life is playfulness." - Connell Barnett

Do you want a great relationship with a wonderful woman, but you struggle with flirting and dating? It can make you feel frustrated, lonely and low in confidence. Let’s change that! Introducing the new How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, which launches this week with a 5-part series about how to attract your soulmate. In this first episode, dating coach and author Connell Barrett shares his groundbreaking dating philosophy—Radical Authenticity—to help you confidently flirt, get dates, and find love. Your dream girlfriend is out there, and she wants to meet the authentic you. Listen now!


In this episode, Connell will tell you:

(4:45) What Women REALLY Want in Men

(6:00) The Moment He Learned How to Approach and Attract Women

(10:30) How Connell “Stole” His Girl Away from 3 Charismatic Wall Street Bros

(12:45) How He Moved in for the First Kiss

(16:25) Why Radical Authenticity Is So Powerful to Women

(20:04) The Real Reason Men Struggle with Low Confidence

(24:24) Jaw-Dropping Success Story: How Connell’s Client Nick Escaped the Friend Zone

(30:30) How Connell Bounced Back After His Wife Left Him

(40:45) The Secret that Made Women Start Chasing Connell

(44:30) The 5 Benefits of Dating with Radical Authenticity

(52:00) The 5 Pillars of Radical Authenticity

(56:00) The 2 Missions Connell Wants You Do To Today

(59:25) How to Get Your Free Copy of His No. 1 Bestselling Book, “Dating Sucks but You Don’t”


Quotes

"Authenticity unlocks a paradox: Embrace your worth, speak freely, and let the right words effortlessly flow." - Connell Barnett

"Embrace fear, take courageous actions, especially when approaching women. Courage is the antidote to fear in life." - Connell Barnett


Featured in the episode

Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation 
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

So you want to talk to women you notice IRL—in bars, coffee shops, at the gym—but you just know what to say without seeming creepy. In this episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast, your host—dating coach Connell Barrett—shares his 3-step approaching framework so you’ll know exactly what to say to break the ice in a charming way. The great news? Connell’s approaching method is virtually rejection-proof! And you don’t need to memorize weird pickup-artist lines. You can confidently talk to women anywhere, while being spontaneous and in the moment. Stop struggling with approaching and start confidently meeting women, and do it with charm and authenticity. Listen now to learn how!


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED): http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


Quotes

"Release the pressure to be perfect; authentic words resonate more deeply than the perfect script." - Connell Barnett

"Engage with light, playful compliments and watch simple interactions blossom into memorable moments." - Connell Barnett


Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Chapters
00:00 - Intro
01:01 - Approach Women with Genuine Charm
04:02 - No Perfect Words: Use This Framework
07:28 - Compliment Beyond Looks
10:33 - Ask Sincere Questions, Expect Warmth
16:01 - Tailor Compliments to the Context
17:58 - Smoothie Date from an Indirect Compliment
21:21 - Prep Mentally Before Approaching Women
22:11 - Outro

Do you struggle to get women writing you back on the apps? Do you get ghosted on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge… and don’t know why? It’s frustrating, and can make you want to delete the apps. But help is on the way! In this episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast, your host—dating coach Connell Barrett—identifies 3 dating app mistakes that you make when writing openers. Plus, Connell shares the flirty, 12-word opener that gets him a 77% percent response rate on the apps with wonderful women. Stop getting ghosted and start sending openers that women love! Listen now.

FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact

Quotes

"Engage women with fun, flirty questions—not just logic and information—to spark lively conversations." - Connell Barnett

"Improve your match success by refining your opening lines for better connections." - Connell Barnett

Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation

Website:https://datingtransformation.com

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Chapters
00:00 - Intro
01:27 - Crafting Effective Dating App Openers
03:25 - Engage with Fun, Playful Questions
09:52 - Personalize Messages with Profile Insights
10:36 - Initiate Chats by Noting Unique Traits
15:37 -  Opt for Fun, Light Conversation Starters
17:50 - 'Opposites Attract' for Engaging Chats
24:03 - The 12-Word Power Opener
28:49 - Value Authenticity in Compliments and Questions
30:21 - Start with Intrigue to Avoid the Friend Zone32:12 - Outro

Do you feel like you’re just not good-looking or not tall enough to attract wonderful women and find a great girlfriend? Well, think again! Those are two of the 7 deadly dating myths that can hurt your confidence and make it difficult to connect with women. Never fear! In this episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett runs down each of these 7 hurtful dating myths, and offers you 7 new and improved strategies to help you flirt and connect with incredible women… and help you find the dream girlfriend you want. Listen now!


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


GET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC:
www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3


READ CONNELL’S 47 TIPS ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/how-to-get-a-girlfriend


Quotes

"Height isn't everything; a man can make a woman feel protected and cherished through confidence, muscle, assertive speech, and skilled flirting." - Connell Barnett

"If you see a woman you want to meet, approach her right away. Waiting too long lets doubt creep in." - Connell Barnett


Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation


Chapters
00:00 - Intro
01:11 - 5 Biggest Common Dating Frustrations
03:00 - Debunking Dating Myths: No Need for Perfection
05:25 - Blending Humor with Flirtation in Dating
08:52 - Jason's Genuine Approach Captivates an Attorney
13:04 - Confidence: Key to Dating Success
15:27 - The 3-Second Rule for Approaching Women
17:57 - Conversation Skills Aren't Crucial
22:05 - Rejections as Courageous Opportunities
23:38 - Interest Shifts with Time
27:07 - Outro