As a society, we are focusing on adapting children to the chaos around them which is unfair to them. As adults, we need to advocate for this generation and speak up. We also need to monitor what our children are engaged in and who they are around and prod them with questions to get the complete picture of their environmental factors. Remember Anxiety is constricting as you cannot live your life happy and free so we need to remain involved -Let’s continue to dig deeper into any factors in our home or our children’s school that can be  adding to their anxiety.  Although experts, don’t have all the answers, they do know aside from genetic components. In this episode, you will learn what those three components are and how to protect your children.

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Dr. Laura Markham stated - children do what we train them to do - what we lead them to expect if we have parented permissively and do not set limits the child will simply never be used to accommodating appropriate limits. I chose to discuss this topic as I know many parents are utilizing gentle parenting. I know I have said this a dozen times but we should be gentle when we can be, however, we cannot overlook basic skills that our children need to be successful in life, and setting limits is certainly one of them. Limits cannot be looked at as a negative tool for your children as it teaches them appropriate behavior and gives them healthy boundaries and self-discipline.

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The saying it takes a village originates from an African proverb - the message is that it takes many people in the village to provide a safe,  healthy environment where children are given the security needed to develop  and flourish. There are numerous studies that have been conducted proving that children who have close relationships with other adults are less likely to have behavioral and emotional problems and are better equipped to deal with future traumatic events, such as bullying, divorce, and much more . Wouldn’t we be in a much better position if we allowed others to come alongside us, and speak into our parenting and our lives without taking it as a personal attack?

Teach your children that they can rely on their village -this may all sound trivial, but the more your child relies on their village the more respect they will have for it. The greatest place to start is your local church for your village of people.  Next is the town you reside in.

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As I was sifting through my children’s book collection, I came across one of my favorite children’s books the tale of three trees. This Tale of Three Trees has a powerful message that God truly has a unique plan for our lives, and that we must always keep dreaming. Everybody has the ability to dream but the reality is everyone is not willing to truly chase their dreams. I have found that most people have a limited belief system and believe that their current circumstances are keeping them from achieving what they really want. We all certainly have circumstances in our lives that we can use as excuses, however, we can bring our dreams to God and be inspired to start and that’s what happened in the tale of three trees. I share my own personal story in this episode of how I started my school from a dream I  place before God. Start to believe in your dreams, put them in gods hands and chase them-you are never too young, too old, or too poor  -just believe and you will eventually get there!! Remember, if your dreams don’t scare you they simply are not big enough!

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As parents our children will always be our children so even when they  are grown, we feel we should continue to protect and shield them. The truth is as parents we must be confident in the foundation and  principles we have laid , so when the time comes for them to go out on their own and use what has been taught to them they are equipped. It is natural to feel anxious when faced with a personal decision about your child moving on however, if they’re not respecting boundaries and  contributing to the household, then this is the time for them to do so.  We need to love them enough to challenge them at every stage of their  life and if they are not willing to go on their own, we need to be just like the mommy Bird that pushes them out of the nest in order for them  to fly.

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Comparing yourself to other moms is a sure way to reduce your self-esteem, confidence, and motivation-making you feel like you’re simply not enough which in turn can cause false confidence and frustration.  Let’s meditate on Romans 12:2 which tells us do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is. This verse tells us to see all of the blessings in front of us that God has  bestowed and be confident knowing that comparing ourselves to others just prevents us from focusing on God‘s plan for our life don’t waste your time focusing on wanting to be somebody else embrace the way God made you knowing he has a perfect plan in store and you are more than enough momma.

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We are discussing tantrums today as it's an extremely common question during the formative years. Tantrums are common in children ages 1-3 years old as they cannot always communicate their needs and feelings which causes them to get frustrated. Tantrums are a way a young child is able to let out their strong emotions before they are able to express themselves in a socially acceptable way. It may seem out of control when they were screaming and throwing themselves but they are a normal part of child development to some extent. I use the words to some extent because there are certain things that are unacceptable that we need to be aware of his parents and nip in the bud. As our children begin to grow typically over the age of four years old, they should be starting to use their words to express their emotions more effectively. As parents, we are the strongest influence in our children's lives, and we need to be certain that we are aware of the child milestones our children should be reaching and be certain that we are not reinforcing or rewarding poor behavior. Let's continue to make the changes necessary in order to raise children to make a difference in the world we live in!

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Transparency in a relationship is it helps us to build trust and honesty. It’s about sharing both the good and the bad of your feelings with people that you love. Lack of transparency brings distrust and builds a long bridge that makes it difficult for your children and spouse to cross and eventually leads to the relationship crumbling. As parents were going to make mistakes all along the way, but remaining transparent is the key to allowing your children to see your vulnerability and heart. Let's choose to be transparent in the new year to come and make our relationships stronger than ever. 

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John rice stated, “You can never truly enjoy Christmas until you look up into the father‘s face and tell him you have received his Christmas gift“.

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