How to Move Abroad: Because Getting There Starts With Getting Hired

Nobody goes from the couch to running 10 kilometers without training. It doesn't matter how motivated you are, how badly you want it, or how expensive your shoes are. The distance requires training. The training takes time. And the time is not optional.

Moving abroad is exactly the same.

This week I'm using running — actual running, the specific experience of sitting in the driveway wondering if you just go, the first kilometer feeling great, kilometer two where you want to die — to talk about what the move abroad process actually looks like from the inside. Why you're not behind. Why the messy middle is supposed to feel like this. And why the days you don't want to train are the most important days to show up anyway.

Also: the fueling piece. Because you cannot run a 10K on no sleep and pure adrenaline and neither can you plan a move abroad that way.

Twelve years in and three moves later, I'm going back to 2013 — the Switzerland move, the one that started it all — and telling you exactly what I'd do differently.

The good stuff first: negotiating to keep my job across an ocean, moving the cats the right way, and doing a scouting trip to find our apartment before we arrived. All of it worth it.

And then the honest part. The queen size sleigh bed that didn't fit. The cookie sheets that didn't fit the oven. The $2,000 we had in the bank when we needed three months of rent as a deposit. The rental deposit insurance I wish someone had told me existed. And the apartment in what turned out to be a revolving door building where we never really got to know our neighbors.

This one's unscripted, off the cuff, and probably the most useful episode I've recorded in a while.

I cannot swim. I know the theory. I've watched people do it my entire life. I could explain the mechanics to you in detail.

And if you threw me in a pool right now the outcome would not be good.

This week I'm talking about why moving abroad is the same — why you cannot read or research your way into being ready for something you can only learn by doing. Why the not knowing yet is not the problem. Why the falling down on the ice is not failure, it's the process. And why my daughter being at hockey camp this week made me think about all of this in a way I needed to say out loud.

Also: why you don't have to figure any of this out alone, and what support in this process actually looks like.

You've been googling moving abroad for weeks. Maybe months. And the information you've found is — some of it useful, some of it outdated, and some of it confidently, specifically wrong in ways that are sending your planning in the wrong direction.

This week I'm going through the biggest things Google gets wrong about moving abroad. The money number that doesn't apply to you. The digital nomad visa obsession. The Schengen confusion. The backwards order of operations. The you stop paying US taxes when you leave myth that could actually get you in legal trouble.

Google is a starting point. This episode is the correction.

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I've restarted this episode three times. I've made coffee I didn't drink. I've listened to approximately four true crime podcasts this week and I know more about cases in rural Ohio than I do about my own content plan.

And I'm guessing you have a version of this too. Not about a podcast. About the move. The research you've been doing. The applications you've been sending. The thing you've been working toward that hasn't quite shown up back yet.

This week I'm talking about the in-between. The hardest part that nobody names. The place where you've committed in your heart but the rest of your life hasn't caught up yet. Where the motivation has quietly left the building and you're going through the motions on a good day and not even that on a bad one.

I don't have a tidy solution today. I'm still in it. But I've got something brewing that I think is going to help. Stay tuned.

Also: send me your true crime podcast recommendations immediately. I'm almost out of episodes and it's urgent

I am, in English, reasonably funny. Quick. Articulate. I can read a room.

In German, even after years, I am a flattened version of myself. I can express the basic version of an idea. I cannot do nuance. The jokes don't translate. And in social situations I go quiet — not because I have less to say, but because the gap between what I want to say and what I'm capable of saying is genuinely embarrassing.

This week I'm talking about something I call competence grief ... the real, disorienting loss that comes from being good at things and then suddenly being a beginner again as an adult. The language piece, the cultural piece, the identity piece. Why it's harder than the visa paperwork in some ways. And why it's temporary, even when it doesn't feel like it.

You've optimized your LinkedIn profile. You have the right keywords, the right headline, the right summary. You're applying to listings that match your experience. You're posting content to stay visible.

And nothing is happening.

This week I'm telling you why. LinkedIn is not a job hunting platform — it's social media for people who are at work. And the difference between those two things matters enormously when you're trying to get a job in another country as a foreign applicant hitting apply from six thousand miles away.

What LinkedIn is actually good for. What it's specifically bad at. And what actually gets you a job abroad — which is almost never the apply button.

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Moving abroad is a privilege. I'm going to say that clearly and then spend the whole episode explaining what I mean by it — because I don't mean what you might think I mean.

I moved to Switzerland with less than $2,000 in the bank. I also had a relocation package, a transferable job, a university education, and a US passport. Both of those things were true at the same time. And I think that's actually the more honest version of this conversation than either extreme — not only rich people can move abroad, and also not everyone can move abroad if they just want it badly enough.

This week I'm talking about who actually has access to this option and who doesn't, why the person who chooses to relocate across an ocean and the person who flees conflict are not having the same experience, and what being aware of your privilege actually means for how you show up when you get there.

This is the uncomfortable one. I think you're ready for it.

You've been using visa, permit, and residency like they mean the same thing. They don't. And it's sending your research in the wrong direction.

This week I'm walking through the vocabulary of moving abroad — not in a glossary kind of way, just in a these words matter and here's why kind of way. Visa vs. permit. Temporary vs. permanent residency. Citizenship vs. naturalization. Schengen vs. EU. Domicile. Leave to remain. All of it.

Because the more fluent you get in this language the clearer your planning becomes. And right now a lot of you are googling the wrong thing and wondering why nothing makes sense.

In this episode, I'm just chatting about what it's really like to live abroad and what I miss most about the US. There's no task on this one... just me and you sharing how it actually feels to live abroad.