In this episode, Lucy shares a powerful insight many wives discover the hard way: the more we relinquish control, the healthier our marriage becomes. Drawing from real client experiences and years of coaching, Lucy unpacks why self-care and releasing control are often the missing pieces when your husband seems angry, frustrated, or emotionally distant.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells, doing everything for him, or quietly afraid your family could fall apart, this episode will help you understand what may really be happening—and how a small shift can create big change.

• Why many husbands appear angry at home but calm and kind everywhere else

• How constant frustration over “little things” (like the fridge or errands) affects wives and children

• The exhausting cycle of trying harder to earn love—and why it backfires

• Why self-care is often the first step to releasing control

• How well-intended “helping” can land as a vote of no confidence

• The true biblical meaning of ezer kenegdo (help meet)

• Why doing things for your husband that he can do himself may actually fuel anger

• A simple phrase that can begin changing the emotional dynamic in your marriage

• A real-life story of how one woman saw the ice melt almost overnight by trusting her husband to lead

Being a help meet doesn’t mean managing, reminding, fixing, or mothering.
It means believing in him, trusting his ability to carry responsibility, and stepping back enough to let him feel respected again.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stop doing.

Choose one area where you normally take over or manage for him and practice saying:
“Whatever you think.”
Then, if it feels right, add:
“I trust you.”

Notice what shifts—inside you and between you.

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