We've all been told that "the spark" is the indicator of a great relationship. But as James and I discuss in this surprise conversation, the spark is just the beginning, it's the chemical "starter" for a much deeper, more complex fire.

After 33 years together, we've learned that long-term intimacy isn't about maintaining a permanent honeymoon phase; it's about what we call Relational Faith. It's the ability to look at your history - the challenges, the friction, and the hard seasons, and use those memories as evidence that you can handle whatever comes next.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The Evolution of Attraction: Why shifting from physical novelty to deep soul-recognition is the ultimate biological upgrade.

• Faith in the Friction: How navigating challenges together builds a unique type of "Resilience IQ" that keeps you connected.

• The Hope Anchor: Why having a shared vision for the future is a physiological necessity for staying in "flow" together.