husDOM | Masculine Dominant Leadership

In today’s episode, I will discuss “Planting a Seed”.

What is it?

What does it mean?

A genuine concern to me - Is planting a seed just incognito for manipulating your partner?

Can you create anticipation and arousal in your marriage by planting a seed?

Keep listening to find out why I feel that planting a seed is one of the most essential and powerful tools for a masculine Dominant leader today.

Towards the end of the episode, I will give an example, discuss, and offer a few robust tips regarding sending a sexy meme or text to plant a seed with your wife or partner. 

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Everyone who finds themselves at this crossroads in life will have different circumstances that lead them there.  And many, if not all, of these circumstances, will seem entirely reasonable for someone to ask THE question.

Because of this…. Or Due to that….

Should we take a break from our D/s-M relationship and pick it back up when life slows down or when life gets a little easier?

Keep listening to learn how I feel about taking breaks in your relationship.

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We often hear people talk about being the leader in your relationship. 

Leadership is a core trait of the divine masculine energy.  

Like Dominance, if I had to choose a single word to describe the masculine energy to someone, it would be leadership.

What we don't hear people talking about as frequently is what Dominant Leadership looks like and how it actually shows up in our everyday lives and in relationships.

Today’s discussion is meant to help devise some actionable guidelines that you can use to either get started towards an amazing relationship or marriage or for those of you who are already on this path a guideline to help enhance and hone those skills needed for an amazing relationship or marriage.

These 5 steps regarding leading with masculinity are transferrable to all types of leadership and relationships in general.  Think of it as building your masculine core.  

These 5 steps are going to help you become a better masculine leader and a better masculine man.

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In today's episode, I will give you my perspective on today's Emasculated husband. 

I will begin with the origin of today's topic, an elevator ride in my hotel in Iceland.  Here I witnessed an all too common interaction between a husband and wife.  

Was this shell of a man always this emasculated, or had it been a long journey through life that left him this way?

 Did his wife take his masculinity throughout their marriage, leaving him emasculated?  Or did he surrender his masculinity over time by taking what looked like the easier way out?  In essence, did he surrender his masculinity?

Join me as I wrap my thoughts around my short interaction on an elevator.

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In today’s episode, I am going to talk about PLEASURE, more specifically as the Leader, as the Dominant, whose pleasure are you striving to fulfill in the relationship?

A couple of days ago, lk and I sat down and discussed several topics that came to mind.  At one point, she fired off several great but difficult questions.  As we began to discuss some of these questions in more detail, I thought that it may be beneficial to share one of them with you.

When is your pleasure more important than hers?

When leading with masculinity, what is the correct answer?  

Is her pleasure more important than yours?

Or should your pleasure take precedence over hers?

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I was talking with lk today about the husDOM podcast.  I told her that I was going to begin producing and publishing podcast episodes again.  Our conversation leads into many different areas, from who the target audience is, to sharpening the tagline, to the music at the beginning of the podcast.  Without a clear picture of the journey, it is difficult how to navigate.

The music has been a topic that we have discussed before.  

The first podcast episode had a cool swanky kind of music intro.  After that, I changed it to different music with some original audio takes from the Apollo 11 mission to the moon.

Lk asked me why the Apollo 11 mission and how that connected to Married Dominance and submission, Leadership, or being a husDOM.

Obviously, I am into aviation which admittedly isn't quite going to the moon BUT like most of you, we draw similarities from the things that we are familiar with.

Connection to Married Dominance and submission  

Lk was asking those questions because she didn't see ANY connection.  For myself, on the other hand, I thought it fit pretty well.  After explaining what it meant to me, lk felt that I should share the same story with you.  Here is what I told lk….

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If you have read any of my articles on husDOM.com You may have noticed a common thread. I usually archive my personal experiences, my personal struggles. I believe that it not only helps you listeners or the people reading the articles on husDOM.com. I also believe that when I write it down, it helps me look at that situation from a different perspective. And that comes from actually trying to describe it to others put it into words put that situation into words. Well, today's not much of a departure from what I've done in the past. Today, I'm going to talk about a struggle, and not just a struggle, right?   It's much more personal for me. It's about my struggle. I don't want anyone to focus too much today on me and my struggle. Right?

The real lesson is that we all have ebbs and flows. Nobody is immune to that. Hopefully over time, though, we develop the skills to avoid most of these ebbs. And also the skills to help recognize when we're in these choppy waters, right? When things need to be addressed. And for us men, us strong men, this may be one of the most difficult things to do.  To actually recognize and admit when we're not getting the results that we want. If we admit that we should pivot that maybe just maybe we're not doing something right. Some guys get hung up right here. Right? They feel like failures. Gentlemen, we cannot allow ourselves to get hung up on silly shit like this.  We will all need to pivot along our journeys always. It's not if but when. And it's certainly not a failure. The only failure would be not recognizing the need to pivot or  not taking action.  Growth actually happens from learning to evaluate situations and take positive action, not just action, but action with intention, right?  A specific action with the intention to get a specific result. 

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Relationships are challenging. How to have a close and meaningful relationship with your partner is not something that most or probably any of us were ever taught in school, and some of us have few, if any, good role models to emulate. 

It has been said that how we behave in our intimate relationships today is often a reflection of our parents and how they behaved towards one another in their relationship.  This statement will vary from individual to individual but for myself, in some instances at least, it is alarmingly accurate.  Through the years I have demonstrated many of the same marital blunders as my father.  

My father is not to blame, however, and neither is his father or his father’s father.  And if you are in a similar situation your father isn't at fault either.  Remember, most of us have never been specifically taught how to have a successful and fulfilling marriage including your father.  

Powerful relationships don't just happen by chance.  And the couples living them don't take them for granted.  They are fully present, all of the time, and they have learned the skills that are required to succeed in a relationship.  When you see a married couple that has a healthy meaningful relationship, the odds are if their happiness is authentic, that they will have many other powerful relationships in their lives as well.  It is almost as if they have cracked the code on relationship skills.

If you are listening to this podcast you are most likely here learning or honing those very skills, never taught to us anywhere else.  Those skills are required to have a successful, meaningful, and purposeful relationship.

Understanding the most common behaviors that damage relationships can be a good first step to having a powerful lasting marriage.

See how many of these behaviors seem familiar, either in yourself or your partner.  Which ones of these do you excel at and which ones should you focus more attention on?

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In today's episode, I'm going to be talking with Marshall Bradford. Marshall is a good friend of mine, and I have known him since close to the beginning of my DS journey. Marshall lives in Las Vegas and is an integral part of the local rope bondage scene. He is both an erotic photographer and a well-versed rope bondage artist. Marshall is one of the best rope instructors that I have met as he seems to have no ego and teaches people absolutely everything he knows holding nothing back, wanting nothing more than to see you reach your full potential. Marshall has attended several of our Marriage's Sexiest Secret events, either as an instructor of rope bondage one on one, or as a presenter suspending his assistant during one of our dinner events, or even as a judge of our rope money bondage contest. We have the honor of having Marshall on our show today to talk about rope bondage. And to give us some pointers on where to get started in this art. We discussed things such as the different types of rope available, different diameters, and lengths of rope as well. Marshall will tell us what he prefers and why. He will also give us some starting points on putting together our first rope bondage kit, including some reputable places to purchase your rope. Join me today as I talk with Marshall Bradford about rope bondage.

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During my journey to become a better man, a better husband, a better Dominant and a better leader there hasn’t been a time when I haven’t felt like my personal health and fitness wasn’t an integral part of my journey.

  This to me was just like oxygen to a flame, a necessity. 

After Beastly told me of his departure, I began asking myself, what was so important to me about having a health and fitness group on husDOM.  

Why was I so passionate about this topic when many times I felt like I stood practically alone in my drive and my desire? 

If you notice there is not one other group on husDOM that doesnt directly have something to do with Dominance and submission.  The Men’s Health group is the only outlier.  

Why was that?  

Why did I feel so strongly that it was an important part of my Dominance and  leadership?

And should I just let it go?

After no more than a minute maybe two of soul searching I realized that health and fitness played a much larger and important role in my life than just being healthy and in good physical condition.  It is part of who I am as a person.  This epiphany sounds pretty dramatic in a way but bare with me for a minute.

What I discovered is that for me personally the health and fitness aspect was about self discipline.  It was something in my life that was in my complete control.  Sure I could blame others or my circumstances for my choices but really in the end it was about self discipline and owning it.  

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments.”  Jim Rohn 

Join me today as I discuss the importance of self discipline in my personal life.

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