Today’s episode is deeply personal.
I’m recording this from Dubai, my home for more than 20 years. A city I love. A country I am endlessly grateful for. A place where I have grown, built my life, learned constellation work, and opened my heart.
This weekend, we experienced something unexpected and frightening. Dubai was targeted amid geopolitical tensions. And although this city is considered one of the safest in the world, something happened that reminded me:
When the unknown strikes, the body reacts.
Even when the mind knows you are safe…
Even when you trust…
Even when you believe…
The body can still go into shock.
In this episode, I speak about:
- What trauma actually is
- What happens in the nervous system during shock
- Fight, flight, freeze - and why freeze often feels like powerlessness
- Why the unknown is so destabilizing
- How media exposure and social feeds intensify fear responses
- Why children and animals mirror our regulation
- The difference between primary and secondary emotions
- Why suppressed emotions become stored trauma
- How to regulate your body somatically
I also share something vulnerable:
Although I felt mentally calm and deeply trusting, my body was trembling. I woke up shaking. My system was frozen.
And that made me reflect on something bigger.
In constellation work, we understand that we don’t only carry our personal experiences. We carry the imprints of our lineage.
Modern science now supports this through the field of epigenetics — showing that trauma can be passed down through generations.
Sometimes what feels overwhelming in the present moment is older than us.
In this episode, I guide you through:
- A simple ancestral release visualization
- Somatic regulation tools (breathwork, movement, EFT tapping)
- The Hawaiian healing philosophy of Ho’oponopono
- Why compassion dissolves trauma faster than anger
- How to step back into your rightful place as the child in your system
You are not here to carry what does not belong to you.
You are here to live your life.
And maybe one of the most powerful things we can do in times of fear is to regulate ourselves, because when we regulate, everyone around us regulates too.
I saw it in my rescued cats.
When I calmed my body, they calmed too.
We are deeply connected — through what systemic work calls the morphogenetic field.
So in this episode, I also speak about something radical:
Sending love even to those who cause harm.
Not because we agree.
Not because we accept.
But because love shifts the field.
If this topic resonates with you and you feel you need support in processing shock, fear, or inherited trauma, I’ve recently launched my AI Systemic Coach “SOL” — a digital extension of my work.
You can explore it here:
www.constellationsdubai.com
This is part of a bigger vision - a place where we learn how to regulate, heal, grow and expand together.
And A Ho’oponopono reminder:
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
Thank you.
Say it to yourself.
Say it to the part of you that is afraid.
Say it to the part that froze.
And please remember:
Limit your news exposure.
Your nervous system was not built for the amount of information we consume daily.
Choose wisely what you expose yourself to.
Everything carries energy.
I’m sending you love from my heart to yours.
Stay safe.
Welcome to I am Love. Thank you for tuning in. My name is Tina.
I am happy to speak with you about Family Constellations a modality that completely fascinates me.
I am a facilitator and teacher of this modality, and love to share insights that might help you see clear and set yourself free!