Stop trying to fix yourself like a machine.

Start tending to yourself like a garden.

Self-care is:

🌱 watering what nourishes you

🌱 removing what drains you

🌱 trusting the seasons of growth and rest

You don’t force growth. You create the conditions for it.

Supporting someone struggling with addiction can feel frustrating, confusing, and even heartbreaking—especially when they don’t think they have a problem.

In this video, we break down the hard truth: you can’t force someone to change—but you can influence them in powerful ways.

You’ll learn how to approach the situation with clarity, compassion, and strength—without losing yourself in the process.

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🔑 Key Takeaways

• You cannot force someone into recovery — the decision must come from them

• Trying to control or pressure them often pushes them further away

• Honest, calm communication is more effective than blame or confrontation

• Avoid enabling behaviors that protect the addiction

• Let natural consequences happen — this creates awareness

• Set clear, firm boundaries to protect your peace

• Offer support, but don’t carry the responsibility for their choices

• Take care of your own mental and emotional health

• Accept the reality: you control your actions, not their recovery

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💡 Real Talk

Loving someone through addiction requires strength, patience, and boundaries.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do… is stop trying to rescue them.

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🧠 Helpful Resources

• SAMHSA National Helpline (U.S.)

📞 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Free, confidential support for individuals and families

🌐 https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

• Al-Anon (Support for Families & Friends)

🌐 https://al-anon.org

• Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

🌐 https://www.aa.org

• Narcotics Anonymous (NA)

🌐 https://www.na.org

• Find Local Treatment Options

🌐 https://findtreatment.gov

Time Stamps

00:00 Why This Podcast Exists

05:26 Honoring Pops

07:19 You Can’t Force Someone to Get Better

13:42 Express How Their Behavior Affects You

15:23 Avoid Enabling

17:17 Set Healthy Boundaries

20:42 Offer Help When Ready

22:02 Take Care of Yourself

Reflections on 2025 and my wishes for you in 2026!

What if the way you speak, listen, and interpret the world has been shaping your peace all along?

In this episode, we explore The Four Agreements—a simple yet powerful framework rooted in ancient wisdom that helps us break free from unnecessary suffering, self-judgment, and assumptions.

We unpack each agreement in a grounded, practical way:

• How words create reality

• Why assumptions quietly sabotage relationships

• How doing your best changes depending on the moment

• And how integrity with yourself leads to freedom

To close, you’re guided through a 6-minute meditation designed to help you embody the Four Agreements—not just understand them intellectually, but feel them in your body and nervous system.

This episode is for anyone seeking:

• More clarity and inner peace

• Healthier communication

• Emotional freedom

• A calmer, more intentional way of living

What if the way you speak, listen, and interpret the world has been shaping your peace all along?

In this episode, we explore The Four Agreements—a simple yet powerful framework rooted in ancient wisdom that helps us break free from unnecessary suffering, self-judgment, and assumptions.

We unpack each agreement in a grounded, practical way:

• How words create reality

• Why assumptions quietly sabotage relationships

• How doing your best changes depending on the moment

• And how integrity with yourself leads to freedom

To close, you’re guided through a 6-minute meditation designed to help you embody the Four Agreements—not just understand them intellectually, but feel them in your body and nervous system.

This episode is for anyone seeking:

• More clarity and inner peace

• Healthier communication

• Emotional freedom

• A calmer, more intentional way of living

What if the way you speak, listen, and interpret the world has been shaping your peace all along?

In this episode, we explore The Four Agreements—a simple yet powerful framework rooted in ancient wisdom that helps us break free from unnecessary suffering, self-judgment, and assumptions.

We unpack each agreement in a grounded, practical way:

• How words create reality

• Why assumptions quietly sabotage relationships

• How doing your best changes depending on the moment

• And how integrity with yourself leads to freedom

To close, you’re guided through a 6-minute meditation designed to help you embody the Four Agreements—not just understand them intellectually, but feel them in your body and nervous system.

This episode is for anyone seeking:

• More clarity and inner peace

• Healthier communication

• Emotional freedom

• A calmer, more intentional way of living

🎧 Listen with an open mind—and stay for the meditation at the end.

In this episode, Jesse shares his story on how he got to rock bottom and how his new jpurney to sobriety is going.

Please share with someone who may benefit from this program, and if you or somone else is struggling with addiction or substance abuse, please seek help, help is avaiilable!

12 Steps program info: https://www.aa.org/the-twelve-steps

In this episode, we sit down to have a chat with my brother Chandi about his experience with 12 steps and how sob found healing and sobriety through his journey with the program.If you are struggling with an addiction, the 12 steps program is a free, and can be accessed online for free as well.An amazing resource for those looking for liberation from their pain. Please check out their website: https://www.aa.orgI can also be reached out via my socials @mtenpodcast

In 1935, two men started something that would change lives forever — Alcoholics Anonymous. In this episode, Elvis K breaks down the 12 Steps, not just as a recovery tool, but as a spiritual path to healing, surrender, and self-discovery.Each step invites you to let go, make peace, and reconnect with your higher self. Because real freedom begins when we face the truth — and remember that you are more than enough.Information about 12 steps: https://www.aa.orgFind. meeting near you (WORLDWIDE): https://www.aa.org/find-aa💬 Please Subscribe, share, and drop a comment on the step that speaks most to your journey.

In this episode we discuss what exactly is "Surrender" and it's importance on your journey to sobriety and healing.

• For more information on 12 Steps (AA): https://www.aa.org/the-twelve-steps

• Let them book: https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/1401971369/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2HVQTEI9GGLWX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.dGnSbqiQHIeJMjx18ezgDVLJrKIchCJe27rlS-i6bllrEJUR5D2qRhAl1BPnMfIp3rSbERIPaX5UY7lKQRkmGguGIlbRjZmQOiG2j1o0lzHrb_xlFTi0gWZEECjz8PmBW97cDCZfJ_9u8CqEleEndfgCnCncKa7tDRRyIlYchU5eq6Q7-ZRliV-soXBPEALgXDJTfP3oy_CEP642nSJOseyJSXO8c4sJIsaMpFGeHdc.7ra-rajAJdrVb67CkTT59Scz7jDJT3ylhEQrzRF-fxk&dib_tag=se&keywords=let+them+book+mel+robbins&qid=1757535416&sprefix=let+the%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1

A conversation with my good friend Didier Ganza, reflecting what the 75 Hard Challenge experience was like for noth of us, and lessons learned! We dive deeper after taking time to reflect on the life lessons learned.

You can check out Ganza's podcast on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/6V6ZZH6dfBy4zLHkDarUyB?si=b03fcccc10e34f7b

A conversation with my good friend Didier Ganza, reflecting what the 75 Hard Challenge experience was like for noth of us, and lessons learned! We dive deeper after taking time to reflect on the life lessons learned.

You can check out Ganza's podcast on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/6V6ZZH6dfBy4zLHkDarUyB?si=b03fcccc10e34f7b