I Do Podcast

How do our assumptions about our partner’s behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations that paint our partner as careless or intentionally hurtful, which leads to defensiveness and distance. By learning to make generous, non-evil assumptions—like believing our partner is overwhelmed rather than selfish—we create more space for empathy, curiosity, and connection.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 512: Making Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s Responses first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 512: Making Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s Responses appeared first on I Do Podcast.

How often do people use indirect or protective strategies—like assuming or demanding—when trying to get their relational needs met? Why are making needs explicit through vulnerability is both challenging and essential. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren emphasize that even though vulnerable communication is uncomfortable and risky, it’s the most effective way to build connection and avoid misunderstandings or resentment. They offer practical guidance on organizing your thoughts, understanding your own context, and inviting your partner into a collaborative conversation rather than a demand-response dynamic.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 511: When Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made Explicit first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 511: When Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made Explicit appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Dive into the feeling of disillusionment in long-term relationships—when the connection, ease, or intimacy from the early days starts to fade and partners question what changed. The hosts unpack how this shift is often tied to attachment dynamics, life stressors, and the transition from novelty to responsibility in relationships. Instead of jumping to blame, the episode encourages listeners to get curious, explore the root causes of change, and decide whether to grow through it or lovingly let go.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 510: For When You Feel Disillusioned In Your Relationship first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 510: For When You Feel Disillusioned In Your Relationship appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Explore the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between healthy connection and potential boundary violations. The hosts reflect on personal experiences and therapeutic insights to unpack the motivations behind sharing—such as co-regulation, validation, or humor—and examine how factors like upbringing, culture, and attachment styles shape our comfort with disclosure. The conversation emphasizes that couples benefit from explicit conversations about preferences, risks, and the importance of flexibility when navigating this topic.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 509: How Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationship We Should Be Sharing first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 509: How Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationship We Should Be Sharing appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Unpack the complicated process of knowing when it’s time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment patterns, and fears of regret that often make the decision so difficult. They emphasize that while love and good qualities may exist, non-negotiable differences, broken trust, or persistent disconnection can signal it’s time to move on. The episode encourages self-trust, gathering support, experimenting with boundaries, and, when needed, seeking professional help like couples therapy or intensives for greater clarity.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 508: How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 508: How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting connection. They highlight how pushing through conflict without pausing can lead to emotional collapse or blow-ups, and how a break should be intentional, involving both calming the body and organizing thoughts before reengaging. The episode emphasizes that reframing breaks not as avoidance but as tools for better communication can help couples build trust and deeper understanding.

We cover topics such as:

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 507: How To Know When To Take A Break in Conflict first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 507: How To Know When To Take A Break in Conflict appeared first on I Do Podcast.

When emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. Explore how partners can navigate this dynamic by cultivating curiosity, avoiding shame-based interpretations, and validating the complexity of individual growth paths. Rather than rushing to conclusions or trying to control the other, the hosts encourage compassion, open dialogue, and creative ways to reconnect.

In this episode, we cover topics such as: 

Skylight – Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 506: How To Handle Different Paces In Emotional Growth first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 506: How To Handle Different Paces In Emotional Growth appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Explore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often rooted in individual biology, life stage, or emotional dynamics. Rather than seeking a “right” or “normal” amount of sex, the hosts encourage couples to approach the topic with curiosity, vulnerability, and a willingness to understand one another’s needs. The conversation also challenges common gender-based assumptions about sex and introduces the idea of sexual pursuit and withdrawal patterns as part of a couple’s dynamic.

In this episode, we talk about topics such as: 

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 505: Why Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex Drives first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 505: Why Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex Drives appeared first on I Do Podcast.

Explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especially when you’re trying to be vulnerable and connect. Understanding what’s happening under the surface of that defensiveness and learning how to respond can completely shift the dynamic between you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to learn how to stay grounded, break negative cycles, and build true emotional safety—even when your partner is still reactive.

In this episode of Relationship Advice, we discuss relationship topics such as:

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

PXG – Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 504: What To Do When Your Partner Is Still Defensive first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 504: What To Do When Your Partner Is Still Defensive appeared first on I Do Podcast.

The concept of “letting people feel their feelings” may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of allowing others to experience emotions like anger, disappointment, or frustration without trying to fix, dismiss, or control them. Listen to unpack the internal discomfort that often drives our impulse to manage others’ emotions, which can stem from fear of being misunderstood, shame, or a lack of emotional literacy. The conversation highlights the value of emotional regulation, self-reflection, and understanding the function of emotions as keys to fostering healthier and more authentic relationships.

In the episode, we talk about topics such as:

Prolon – Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.

Amazfit – Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off

Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren

The post 503: How To Let People Feel Their Feelings first appeared on I Do Podcast.

The post 503: How To Let People Feel Their Feelings appeared first on I Do Podcast.