It's just nature that we want what we can't have. In this confession, our listener is struggling with an office crush that's been haunting her for 18 months. "It's so painful as nothing will ever happen between us but the infatuation is so persistent," she says. Oh, and she's married, which makes matters worse. How can she get this man out of her head without finding a new job?

Our guest Heather Havrilesky writes the popular Ask Polly advice column on Substack and is the author of “Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage,” the essay collection “What If This Were Enough,” the advice book “How to Be a Person in the World,” and the memoir “Disaster Preparedness.” Follow her on Instagram: @realaskpolly.

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