On this episode of ILYSM, we welcome the incredible Proof of Life author and TED Talk speaker, Jen Pastiloff, for a conversation about resilience, honesty, and belonging. We talk about what it feels like to have your last words to a loved one be the wrong ones, the pressure to hide sobriety, and how self-doubt can take root in our daily lives. Jen shares openly about living with deafness, how abandonment shaped her, and the difficulty of not always being able to express what’s inside. Reed admits he hasn’t read a book all year, Tyler opens up about pretending to be sober to keep the peace, and together we reflect on the idea of “factory default settings,” our shortening attention spans, and how to take self-doubt out of our lexicon.

Above all else, always remember: "You belong here."

On this week’s ILYSM: Nik Dodani (Tyler’s Escape Room co-star) stops by. We cover why silence in politics is never innocent, the anxiety of raising children, and yes… we admit we’re kinda okay with g*ns. We talk about the optimism we all felt 2016. And Tyler? He leaves us with an extra DEEP confession that further reinforces the safe space that is ILYSM.

The brilliant comedian Ian Fidance stopped by for a full-on love sesh on ILSYM this week. We laughed! Reed cried! The dudes talked grief, addiction, wild childhood stuff, and coping with those brutal, inescapable moments of self-doubt - the worst. 

There are so many reasons to love Ian, but more than anything, it’s his commitment to being unapologetically himself always in all ways <3 . Go listen/watch for yourself! 

We’re breaking the fourth wall this week with Gina Minardi — Tyler’s former EMDR therapist and a licensed mental health professional <3. 

We get into imposter syndrome, self-sabotage, the EMDR experience, psych meds, and more. An honest, insightful, and low-key hilarious episode - go watch/listen now!! 

Judy Greer stopped by the ILYSM studio to talk likability as a superpower, the female urge to punch down with the boys, working the program, and being the ultimate funny girl — all while charming Reed & Tyler into oblivion.

This week we’re joined by our producer Stella Young to dig deep into daddy issues, depression, the humor in grief, intellectual gender fluidity, and why it always feels like the nice guy finishes last.

Let’s. Get. Vulnerable. 🥲🎙️

This week, forever heartthrob Devon Sawa joins us for a wholesome (and hilarious) dude sesh 🇨🇦🥊 We get into the big stuff: hockey fights, growing up Canadian, Hollywood’s chaos, and the legendary “I’m proud of you” moment from your pops. Devon’s the best—tune in for a laugh, some feels, and classic bro energy but make it emo🤝

This week, the boys get meta — reacting to the podcast’s reactions. From family texts to fears of oversharing, we dive into anxiety, vulnerability, and whether putting ourselves out there was a huge mistake. We said you’re coming on this ride with us… so here 👏🏻we👏🏻go.

Eliza Coupe (Happy Endings, Future Man) and her wonderful husband Billy visited us from their peaceful life in the desert, and we couldn’t be more grateful. Our conversation with Eliza focuses heavily on body shaming and online criticism—issues she’s recently faced firsthand on the red carpet. We also dive into Tyler’s road rage, Reed’s skepticism about a higher power, and much much more. we love eliza and we love you sm! 

Mireille Enos (The Killing, World War Z) is our guest today and charmed us all with her ability to be so tiny yet so powerful like her character Sarah Lindon from the beloved TV Series, The Killing. Tyler, Reed and Mireille discuss the pain of going to the gym, Mireille’s blackbelt, putting your kids in therapy & the devastating but relatable thought every artist has whether true or not —> “I am not part of the conversation.“