Timmerie and pro-matchmaker Cristina Pineda talk about a pretty relevant topic in the dating world: how important is physical attraction in a relationship? This episode starts with a story of a woman highlighted in an online column who found her "perfect guy": except she doesn’t find him attractive. Is it worth sticking it out, or is it time to swipe left?

 

Here’s what Timmerie and Cristina unpacked about the role of attraction in relationships:

 

Reality Check on “Perfect Looks”

 

We all carry ideas from our younger years (thanks, Hollywood) of what we think our “type” should look like: often unrealistically perfect. But as people age, real qualities like kindness, reliability, and faith become way more important than abs or a square jawline. Cristina pointed out how clients of hers are shifting their priorities too, favoring qualities like intelligence and stability over flawless looks.

 

Looks Aren’t the Whole Picture

 

Cristina shares that attraction can grow with time. When a person’s character aligns with your values: like wanting marriage, kids, or faith alignment, looks start to matter less. Plus, they discuss “SRS” (Sudden Repulsion Syndrome): if you hit that level of disgust, okay, time to reconsider. But if things line up on core values and you enjoy their company, keep going!

 

Don’t Let Outsiders Mess with Your Heart

 

Timmerie and Cristina raise a solid point: loved ones need to butt out when it comes to commenting on your partner's appearance. Even “harmless” comments like, “Really? Him?” can make someone second-guess. Whether it’s an innocent family comment or that friend who thinks she’s being “helpful,” those remarks can stick and undermine what’s otherwise a good thing. 

 

Advice for Singles: Don’t Settle on What Matters

 

Don’t compromise on deal-breakers like shared values, faith, and character, but don’t be too quick to dismiss someone who’s kind and shares your faith. Give it time to see if that spark grows! And if you're struggling with outsider opinions or doubts, bring it to prayer and stay focused on what really matters in a relationship.

 

TL;DR

 

Looks fade, but a good person’s heart and character stay strong. If someone treats you well and has the qualities you want in a spouse, keep giving them a chance. Focus on the lasting qualities, not just the immediate attraction.