Identify & Conquer - Mental Health Fitness

In this episode, I want to talk about the manipulation tactic called triangulation. Where a third party is brought into a situation they don't belong in. 

In this episode, I discuss the difference between boundaries and walls, why people build walls instead of boundaries, and how to convert a wall to a boundary. Boundaries keep us safe and protected by keeping us open and flexible depending on who we are interacting with. Walls are up for everyone and keep the hurt we are trying to protect ourselves from locked in with us. 

The holidays mean different things to all of us. But for some of us, it means, stress, anxiety, loneliness, and a list of other emotions. This episode discusses how to work through some of the stress and anxiety the come with the holidays, especially when dealing with friends and family. 

How can being positive be toxic? It's toxic when we use it to deny what we are really feeling and don't allow ourselves to feel or experience difficult or negative emotions and situations. This episode discusses what that looks like in yourself and in others. It discusses how to handle situations better so they don't creep up on us later. And, how to handle the people in our lives who come to us when they are hurting so we can help them heal. 

In this episode, I discuss how we are not meant to live with regret. I'm asked "how do we live with regret?" all the time, so I'm answering that question in this episode and giving you the steps to process your past and the events or situations you regret so you can let go of them once and for all. 

In this episode, I discuss the misconception that overthinking is problem-solving or critical thinking. It is not. Overthinking keeps your brain in loops of overanalyzing, stress, anxiety, and depression. It is not productive, but there are ways to break the cycle and stop living in a state of your brain, and the thoughts in your brain controlling your life.

This episode is about not really feeling yourself but you're not really sure what's going on. Before you decide you are depressed, especially if you have never been diagnosed with depression, perhaps you are just languishing.  Listen for the characteristics of languishing and see it that's how you are feeling. Then listen to the tips to stop languishing.

Corey Keyes 2002 Article

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This episode is about when we choose to freeze, both literally and figuratively. When there is a threat or perceived threat to our survival and we react by freezing. When fight or flight does not get activated and we put ourselves in harm's way by not moving. And how then, do we unfreeze?

Too many people look at being vulnerable as a weakness when it's really a strength. This episode tells the story of a football players awakening to vulnerability that I got to be part of. I also encourage and discuss how you can embrace vulnerability and implement it into your life. 

This episode discussed how being yourself helps you find the people who are meant to be in your life while helping you find where you really belong in this life. Accepting the fact that not everyone will like you and that you don't belong everywhere makes life easier. Not everyone will like you. And that's a good thing. So stop trying.