In this episode, we’re diving into the phrase “if he wanted to, he would” — what does it really mean, and why is it so catchy? We’ll unpack the psychology behind it and explore the nuance that gets lost in translation. Buckle up, it’s going to be a fun ride!

Today the gals explore:

🎙️ What’s the Deal with “If He Wanted To, He Would”?

Everyone’s heard it, but what does it really mean? Let’s break it down and talk about why this phrase gets tossed around in relationships.

🎙️ Where’s the Nuance?

Sure, it sounds simple, but relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all. We’re digging into the gray area that’s often ignored when we lean on this phrase.

🎙️ Partners Aren’t Mind Readers!

Newsflash: Your partner can’t read your mind (unless they’re a psychic, and even then…). We’re discussing why communication is key and how expecting them to know what you need without saying it might not be the healthiest approach.

🎙️ Don’t Fall in Love with Potential (Spoiler: It’s a Trap)

Ever fallen for someone’s future self rather than who they actually are now? Yeah, we’ve all been there. Let’s talk about why this can set you up for disappointment.

🎙️ What Narratives Are You Defending?

We’re all carrying around little stories in our heads, and sometimes we use “if he wanted to, he would” to defend the one we’ve created. Let’s chat about the deeper reasons we cling to these narratives, even when they don’t serve us.

🎙️ Behavior = Not Always About You

If your partner is acting distant, it’s probably more about them than it is about you. We’re diving into why their behaviors can reflect their own stuff, and not necessarily how they feel about you.

🎙️ Stop Doing the Most (Seriously, Just Stop)

If you’re the one constantly putting in all the effort, it’s time to hit pause. Let’s talk about how doing too much in a relationship can actually make things worse.

🎙️ Lindsey hypothesizes Bumble's origin story?

A little unhinged way of "dropping the handkerchief."

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