What is the difference between Caregiving and Caretaking? It might sounds simple, or might even seem as if they are the same things. Caregiving is doing something for someone who is unable to do something for themselves. Caretaking is doing someone for someone who could and should do it for themselves. (Yes, I used the word should. It just fits in this situation.) When we allow ourselves to step back and look at our motivations for helping others, we begin to see the difference and the impact it may have on others. This episode may leave you with more questions than answers. Ask the questions, let's explore together.

Welcome to this week’s short snippet focused oncognitive distortions, particularly the pervasive use of "should"statements. Join the discussion as we unpack how these words can shape our expectations and emotions.

As we navigate our daily lives, being mindful of ourlanguage can significantly impact our mental well-being. By reframing "should" statements, we open the door to self-compassion and understanding. It’s okay to have aspirationswithout the weight of harsh expectations.

Today's discussion relates to the Dichotomous thinking, right or wrong, black or white, good or bad, and how it impacts our faith. Faith by definition is not certainty and yet we may try to make faith an all or nothing scenario. We discuss how certainty creates safety and also may push away space for questions, for nuance. It might lead to judgment of others when they make other choices that go contrary from the right way that we have decided to follow. Let's delve in!

Black and white, all or nothing, good or bad, right or wrong, these may be references you understand better than the term dichotomous thinking. Dichotomy is defined as a division into two mutually exclusive, opposed, or contradictory groups, so you can see how those initial descriptions apply. This type of thinking can get in the way of healthy relationships, and certainly can create a lot of negative self talk and self judgment. This short snippet will give an introduction to these thought patterns and I'm sure will be brought up in future discussions.

Trauma! What does that word even mean? Are we talking about big T trauma, little t trauma? Is it overused? So many questions. Pia Mellody defined trauma as "Anything less than nurturing" which we continue to use at The Meadows and then take the time to learn what that means for each individual and the impact it is having on us as adults. With trauma defined, it will be easier for us to understand the context of the words used. I'm glad you're here for the ride.

Emotions - We all have them and from what I've experienced many don't know what to do with them. Today I will explore emotions by identifying 8 Basic Emotions. There are way more that 8. And by working with 8 emotions, it becomes easier to identify what emotions may be present for us. I will also discuss how we often engage with emotions and also what the gifts of emotions are, even the uncomfortable ones. Thanks for coming along for the ride.

Every so often I will create some Short Snippets. This is achance to talk about topics that don’t need a full episode and are also really helpful to understand. Our understanding of ourselves is comprised of so many elements that are interesting to explore. These short snippets will be one ofthose stops along the way to deeper understanding that can lead to meaningful change.

Today we get to talk about Cognitive Distortions.

We're finally at the 5th Core Issue, Moderation and Containment. We get to look at being out of control and the opposite, being highly controlled. Both are created in order to find safety of some sort and when in the extremes can create a lot of issues with our relationships. There's a lot more to talk about with this topic, and more will come.

Being codependent is often defined as someone needing other too much. While that is a factor, it's not the whole story. Today I talk about dependency as being able or unable to ask for our needs appropriately, either by being too dependence or being anti dependent. Neither are helpful in relationships with others or with ourselves. So let's talk about.

We're now on to Core Issue 3. Are you enjoying the ride yet? This episode gets to the creating of our own reality. When we haven't really been able to create a reality that is true to ourselves, we will create the one that is given to us. To be honest, it's really tough for any parent to help a child create their own reality. And as kids we are willing to live in the reality that will keep us close to our parents. It's what we do as kids. And parents try their best to give us what they think is good for us. It's interesting to dive deeper into what our reality truly is.