Impact with Ease

“Believing you have to make everything perfect and avoid mistakes can stop you from making a bigger impact in your life.”

Blake Schofield (3:23-3:40)

Some people wear perfectionism like a badge of honor and credit this trait as the reason they’re successful. Others see perfectionism as a kind of scarlet letter, thinking it’s just who they are and something they can’t change.  However, thinking you can be perfect and avoid poor choices often stops us from creating the impact we want in our lives. 

When you realize that perfectionism is a choice you can shift your perspective and behaviors to work for you instead of against you. 

“Perfectionism works against you. It’s not the reason that you're successful. It's actually stopping you from achieving more success and joy in your life.” - Blake Schofield (5:40-5:50)

How Perfectionism Can Show Up for You 

There are different ways that perfectionism shows up for people. Socially prescribed perfectionism is a result of feeling that others are judging you. This can cause us to strive for perfection as a way to get approval from other people. Self-oriented perfectionism occurs when you set unrealistic expectations for yourself. Some people may punish themselves for things they did or didn’t do.

You can identify perfectionism by looking for telltale signs including being overly critical of yourself and others. The fear of failure can also be an indication that perfectionism might be holding you back. You may have strong negative reactions when things don’t go as planned or not feel that you’re good enough despite your obvious success. 

Changing the Pattern of Perfectionism

1. Shifting Your Perspective

Shifting your perspective of success is the first step to overcoming perfectionism. We’re taught that success is a result of doing the right things to get the solutions we want. But real success comes through learning, which comes from making mistakes. 

You either win or you learn. Failure is a myth. 

1. Question Your Beliefs and Stories

The beliefs and stories we tell ourselves determine our experience of life. Are the stories you’re telling yourself true? Daily journaling and other exercises can help sort through stories and create more awareness around them. 

1. Identify the Root Cause of Your Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are almost always rooted in childhood experiences. We become free from perfectionism when we identify the root cause of the stories we tell ourselves and reframe them to create a new, more positive belief system. 

“You can't just fix the surface level stuff. You have to get at the root of why things are challenging and what you need to do to create the freedom and fulfillment you want.” - Blake Schofield (22:30-22:46)

Working with a coach is one of the best ways to overcome the perfectionism trap. It can be difficult to explore your stories and their root causes on your own. Having an outside perspective helps you achieve the results you want more efficiently and with greater clarity and insight. We all have a limited perspective of ourselves. Having a coach who can guide us helps us identify where those limitations are so we can overcome them. You learn to trust your inner voice and reconnect with yourself. 

Perfectionism isn’t something to be celebrated or glorified. It can stop you from making the impact you want in your work or family. Perfectionism is a choice, and you have the choice each day to change your beliefs and your habits. When you do, you’ll find the freedom, peace of mind, and joy that you never realized were missing. 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.

We can help you do just that. 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

“Lack of time is never the issue. You have to have an end goal and determine that you're willing to do what it takes to get there.” 

Blake Schofield (1:04-1:21)

How can we make the changes we need when it feels like we don’t have any time? Seeing the real truth about ourselves and the lives we’re living isn’t always easy. The truth is that lack of time is never the real issue. If we want to create change, we have to first have an end goal, and determine what we’re willing to do to do get there. 

Why People Think Time is the Problem

1. Lack of a Clear Goal, Passion, and Drive

You can’t commit to something if you don’t know what you’re committing to. Without a clear goal, it’s impossible to have the passion and drive needed to make the transition you want in life. 

1. The Inability to Prioritize 

The process of prioritizing can be very different when you’re working in a corporate setting. So developing the ability to prioritize on your own gives you a level of freedom and control that drives you towards your goals. 

“The worst thing you can do is tell yourself it's riskier to change than it is to stay where you are. You have to get real with what is going on in your life and what the risks really are.” 

- Blake Schofield (13:49-14:00)

1. Perfectionism and Workaholism

Perfectionism and workaholism are behaviors that cause work to bleed into our personal lives. This results in the misconception that we don’t have enough time when we’re really just spending time on unnecessary things. 

1. Lack of Boundaries

Some people take care of others at the expense of their own needs. They don’t create or uphold their own boundaries, causing them to be at the mercy of others. This results in a feeling of being out of control and constantly having to manage things for everyone else. 

1. Fear 

The easiest thing to do when we face fear is to go back to thinking we don’t have time to make the changes we need. But fear of uncertainty contributes to the belief that you just don’t have time to change. 

1. Lack of Structure and Self-Discipline

Not having the structure and self-discipline we need keeps us from having the freedom we want. The most freeing thing we can do is to create a structure that aligns with our core values and goals. 

1. Wishing Without Doing the Work

If you’re not willing to do the work, do you really want it for yourself? You need to decide if you want the end result and commit to doing the work. 

1. Doing More of the Same Without Seeing the Impacts and Risks

Is what you’re doing sustainable? Is it moving you towards a life you want or is it negatively affecting your happiness and wellbeing? The choices we make today impact our relationships with our partners, children, and others long term. 

“In order to create change, you must be willing to do something different.” - Blake Schofield (17:27-17:30)

Investing in yourself can be scary when you feel like your resources are limited. But are you seeing the big picture? Do you have the clarity needed to create a foundation for change? Look at the excuses you’ve been telling yourself. Do you want to continue on the path you’re on? We have to decide what we’re willing to do to create the change we want because nothing else will matter until we do. 

How to Get Involved

If you would like some help to get clarity & a roadmap for your path ahead, schedule a free strategy call today. 

You can also visit my website for more information and valuable resources.

You are capable of far more than you can imagine. Life doesn’t have to be an  either/or. You can have it all and do it without taking a leap or risking what you’ve worked so hard to build! 

“Lack of time is never the issue. You have to have an end goal and determine that you're willing to do what it takes to get there.” 

Blake Schofield (1:04-1:21)

How can we make the changes we need when it feels like we don’t have any time? Seeing the real truth about ourselves and the lives we’re living isn’t always easy. The truth is that lack of time is never the real issue. If we want to create change, we have to first have an end goal, and determine what we’re willing to do to do get there. 

Why People Think Time is the Problem

1. Lack of a Clear Goal, Passion, and Drive

You can’t commit to something if you don’t know what you’re committing to. Without a clear goal, it’s impossible to have the passion and drive needed to make the transition you want in life. 

1. The Inability to Prioritize 

The process of prioritizing can be very different when you’re working in a corporate setting. So developing the ability to prioritize on your own gives you a level of freedom and control that drives you towards your goals. 

“The worst thing you can do is tell yourself it's riskier to change than it is to stay where you are. You have to get real with what is going on in your life and what the risks really are.” 

- Blake Schofield (13:49-14:00)

1. Perfectionism and Workaholism

Perfectionism and workaholism are behaviors that cause work to bleed into our personal lives. This results in the misconception that we don’t have enough time when we’re really just spending time on unnecessary things. 

1. Lack of Boundaries

Some people take care of others at the expense of their own needs. They don’t create or uphold their own boundaries, causing them to be at the mercy of others. This results in a feeling of being out of control and constantly having to manage things for everyone else. 

1. Fear 

The easiest thing to do when we face fear is to go back to thinking we don’t have time to make the changes we need. But fear of uncertainty contributes to the belief that you just don’t have time to change. 

1. Lack of Structure and Self-Discipline

Not having the structure and self-discipline we need keeps us from having the freedom we want. The most freeing thing we can do is to create a structure that aligns with our core values and goals. 

1. Wishing Without Doing the Work

If you’re not willing to do the work, do you really want it for yourself? You need to decide if you want the end result and commit to doing the work. 

1. Doing More of the Same Without Seeing the Impacts and Risks

Is what you’re doing sustainable? Is it moving you towards a life you want or is it negatively affecting your happiness and wellbeing? The choices we make today impact our relationships with our partners, children, and others long term. 

“In order to create change, you must be willing to do something different.” - Blake Schofield (17:27-17:30)

Investing in yourself can be scary when you feel like your resources are limited. But are you seeing the big picture? Do you have the clarity needed to create a foundation for change? Look at the excuses you’ve been telling yourself. Do you want to continue on the path you’re on? We have to decide what we’re willing to do to create the change we want because nothing else will matter until we do. 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.

We can help you do just that.

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

“If you are overworking...you’re actually not producing your best work. The more you work, the less effective your work gets.” 

- Blake Schofield (29:10-29:19)

Where Did the Time Go? 

Long work hours that overflow into nights and weekends can leave you feeling depleted, burned out, and unfulfilled. We live in a world that values the ability to show up and be available for work at all times, and it can start to feel like the work never ends. It’s vital for us to understand why it’s so easy to fall into these patterns, and learn what we can do to take our time and lives back. 

It’s normal to work nights and weekends, right? That’s what I learned and believed for far too long. I also know how exhausting it can become when we don’t have the work-life balance we need. 

When you take the time to explore what you really want out of life and your work, you can learn what you’re willing to tolerate. You can learn who you are as a person, the unique gifts you have to offer, and how to stand in your value. 

“If you don't maintain the promises you make to yourself, you'll never create the boundaries you need to protect yourself.” 

- Blake Schofield (24:07-24:18)

The Tools You Need to Take Your Life Back

Time Management

Many people believe they don’t have any control over their time when working in a corporate setting. Regaining control of your time allows you to focus on the right activities. Time management is critical to the long-term success of any corporate worker or business owner. Learn how to leverage your time and look at where you're spending too much of it. 

Boundaries

Set boundaries around your work. But more importantly, keep them in place. Boundaries help you get clear on what you can and cannot do right now. This is especially important when you need to make time for other priorities like family and self-care. You can’t take your life back if you haven’t defined boundaries in your work. 

Prioritization

Plan ahead and see what’s in store for the coming weeks. Ask yourself what needs to be prioritized and what needs to be done in order to feel complete. Do you need to schedule tasks for a later time? Should you delegate tasks to key members of your team? When you know what’s a priority and what isn’t, you gain more control over your time and reinforce the boundaries you’ve put in place. 

We all struggle with beliefs and behaviors that keep us from doing the essential and tactical things we know we need to do.  There are huge emotional factors that drive our behaviors. But these factors are hard to see when we’re stuck in a work or home life that’s leaving us unfulfilled. Working with a coach can be an effective way to address the limiting beliefs, ideas, and patterns that keep us from making the change we want.

“It isn't that we don't have enough time in our lives. It's how we leverage that time, prioritize, and focus on the right things that make all of the difference in the world.” - Blake Schofield (26:53-27:07)

Coaching can create the accountability we need and the outside perspective that helps us see hidden parts of ourselves that are getting in the way of our success. Challenging those beliefs and fears helps us break through success roadblocks. 

Before we can experience a more fulfilling work-life balance, we must first make an internal decision that we are no longer going to live in the hustle. If you’re feeling stretched too thin, exhausted from the countless early mornings, late nights, and Saturday work sessions, it may be time for a change. The fulfilling career and the life you want are waiting on the other side of your decision to step out and try something new. 

How to Get Involved

If you would like some help to get clarity & a roadmap for your path ahead, schedule a free strategy call today. 

You can also visit my website for more information and valuable resources.

You are capable of far more than you can imagine. Life doesn’t have to be an  either/or. You can have it all and do it without taking a leap or risking what you’ve worked so hard to build! 

“If you are overworking...you’re actually not producing your best work. The more you work, the less effective your work gets.” 

- Blake Schofield (29:10-29:19)

Where Did the Time Go? 

Long work hours that overflow into nights and weekends can leave you feeling depleted, burned out, and unfulfilled. We live in a world that values the ability to show up and be available for work at all times, and it can start to feel like the work never ends. It’s vital for us to understand why it’s so easy to fall into these patterns, and learn what we can do to take our time and lives back. 

It’s normal to work nights and weekends, right? That’s what I learned and believed for far too long. I also know how exhausting it can become when we don’t have the work-life balance we need. 

When you take the time to explore what you really want out of life and your work, you can learn what you’re willing to tolerate. You can learn who you are as a person, the unique gifts you have to offer, and how to stand in your value. 

“If you don't maintain the promises you make to yourself, you'll never create the boundaries you need to protect yourself.” 

- Blake Schofield (24:07-24:18)

The Tools You Need to Take Your Life Back

Time Management

Many people believe they don’t have any control over their time when working in a corporate setting. Regaining control of your time allows you to focus on the right activities. Time management is critical to the long-term success of any corporate worker or business owner. Learn how to leverage your time and look at where you're spending too much of it. 

Boundaries

Set boundaries around your work. But more importantly, keep them in place. Boundaries help you get clear on what you can and cannot do right now. This is especially important when you need to make time for other priorities like family and self-care. You can’t take your life back if you haven’t defined boundaries in your work. 

Prioritization

Plan ahead and see what’s in store for the coming weeks. Ask yourself what needs to be prioritized and what needs to be done in order to feel complete. Do you need to schedule tasks for a later time? Should you delegate tasks to key members of your team? When you know what’s a priority and what isn’t, you gain more control over your time and reinforce the boundaries you’ve put in place. 

We all struggle with beliefs and behaviors that keep us from doing the essential and tactical things we know we need to do.  There are huge emotional factors that drive our behaviors. But these factors are hard to see when we’re stuck in a work or home life that’s leaving us unfulfilled. Working with a coach can be an effective way to address the limiting beliefs, ideas, and patterns that keep us from making the change we want.

“It isn't that we don't have enough time in our lives. It's how we leverage that time, prioritize, and focus on the right things that make all of the difference in the world.” - Blake Schofield (26:53-27:07)

Coaching can create the accountability we need and the outside perspective that helps us see hidden parts of ourselves that are getting in the way of our success. Challenging those beliefs and fears helps us break through success roadblocks. 

Before we can experience a more fulfilling work-life balance, we must first make an internal decision that we are no longer going to live in the hustle. If you’re feeling stretched too thin, exhausted from the countless early mornings, late nights, and Saturday work sessions, it may be time for a change. The fulfilling career and the life you want are waiting on the other side of your decision to step out and try something new. 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.

We can help you do just that. 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

“Summer feels like it slipped away, and we’re right at the edge of everything coming our way.”

Blake Schofield (0:41-0:48)

The end of summer can be an overwhelming time for parents. So how can you avoid the whirlwind of a new schedule, back-to-school orientations, after-school activities, and everything else that goes along with the start of a new school year? 

Why We Struggle When Summer Ends

The flexibility of summer can make it easy to create the kind of structure we want. But when the school season starts, you can’t live by the structure you’ve established during the summer, and it can be hard to make that shift and roll with a changing schedule and increased demands on your time. So the structure of life changes. 

“We can never go back, but we can take today to say, ‘What’s one thing I can do to help me feel like I was able to do the things I wanted to accomplish this summer?’” - Blake Schofield (2:12-2:23)

How to Make the Transition Easier 

Reinstate a new structure back into life. Set consistent sleep schedules and meal times for the entire family. Start this process early so you can be back on a more familiar schedule. During the summer, it's easy to put off those things that don’t seem immediate. But when fall comes around, waiting for things to have that sense of urgency can create a sense of overwhelm. Scheduling lets you manage your time and activities. Block out specific times to do the things you need to do early. You won’t have to scramble at the last minute, making it even easier to transition back into the fall season. 

Breaking Down the Big Buckets

There are three life “buckets” you can consider when transitioning into the fall schedule.

1. Your Work
2. Back to School
3. Time Management

Your Work

Look at your work schedule and think about when you can plan activities and events you want to attend at school. Once you have the school’s calendar, look for the events that are held throughout the year in advance. This lets you block time off on your work schedule so you can make yourself available. 

Back to School

When it comes to your back to school “bucket”, shopping for school supplies can be one of the biggest disruptions to your daily schedule. The best thing to do is to start early. This keeps you from running around from store to store. Give your kids a chance to help with back-to-school shopping. If they’ve outgrown their old clothes, let them suggest some clothing ideas first, so you don’t have to spend time thinking about what to buy. 

“It’s so easy to get overwhelmed with those tasks that need to happen at some point, but don’t need to be prioritized today… schedule time now, knock out the things you need to do in the near future and get them done early so you don’t have to scramble.” 

- Blake Schofield (8:08-8:23)

Time Management

When it comes to time management, think about some of the activities that are often overlooked. What after-school activities should you plan for? Do you need to plan carpooling or other activities? Planning ahead gives peace of mind and maintains the sense of awareness you need to feel in control and respond to whatever comes your way. Start putting these steps into place. Don’t try to do them all at once. You’ll get the best results from taking one or two and starting from there. 

Jumping back into the school year doesn’t need to be a time of stress and overwhelm. Plan ahead to extend the joy and fun of summer into the fall season. 

How to Get Involved

If you would like some help to get clarity & a roadmap for your path ahead, schedule a free strategy call today. 

You can also visit my website for more information and valuable resources.

You are capable of far more than you can imagine. Life doesn’t have to be an  either/or. You can have it all and do it without taking a leap or risking what you’ve worked so hard to build! 

“Summer feels like it slipped away, and we’re right at the edge of everything coming our way.”

Blake Schofield (0:41-0:48)

The end of summer can be an overwhelming time for parents. So how can you avoid the whirlwind of a new schedule, back-to-school orientations, after-school activities, and everything else that goes along with the start of a new school year? 

Why We Struggle When Summer Ends

The flexibility of summer can make it easy to create the kind of structure we want. But when the school season starts, you can’t live by the structure you’ve established during the summer, and it can be hard to make that shift and roll with a changing schedule and increased demands on your time. So the structure of life changes. 

“We can never go back, but we can take today to say, ‘What’s one thing I can do to help me feel like I was able to do the things I wanted to accomplish this summer?’” - Blake Schofield (2:12-2:23)

How to Make the Transition Easier 

Reinstate a new structure back into life. Set consistent sleep schedules and meal times for the entire family. Start this process early so you can be back on a more familiar schedule. During the summer, it's easy to put off those things that don’t seem immediate. But when fall comes around, waiting for things to have that sense of urgency can create a sense of overwhelm. Scheduling lets you manage your time and activities. Block out specific times to do the things you need to do early. You won’t have to scramble at the last minute, making it even easier to transition back into the fall season. 

Breaking Down the Big Buckets

There are three life “buckets” you can consider when transitioning into the fall schedule.

1. Your Work
2. Back to School
3. Time Management

Your Work

Look at your work schedule and think about when you can plan activities and events you want to attend at school. Once you have the school’s calendar, look for the events that are held throughout the year in advance. This lets you block time off on your work schedule so you can make yourself available. 

Back to School

When it comes to your back to school “bucket”, shopping for school supplies can be one of the biggest disruptions to your daily schedule. The best thing to do is to start early. This keeps you from running around from store to store. Give your kids a chance to help with back-to-school shopping. If they’ve outgrown their old clothes, let them suggest some clothing ideas first, so you don’t have to spend time thinking about what to buy. 

“It’s so easy to get overwhelmed with those tasks that need to happen at some point, but don’t need to be prioritized today… schedule time now, knock out the things you need to do in the near future and get them done early so you don’t have to scramble.” 

- Blake Schofield (8:08-8:23)

Time Management

When it comes to time management, think about some of the activities that are often overlooked. What after-school activities should you plan for? Do you need to plan carpooling or other activities? Planning ahead gives peace of mind and maintains the sense of awareness you need to feel in control and respond to whatever comes your way. Start putting these steps into place. Don’t try to do them all at once. You’ll get the best results from taking one or two and starting from there. 

Jumping back into the school year doesn’t need to be a time of stress and overwhelm. Plan ahead to extend the joy and fun of summer into the fall season. 

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Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.

We can help you do just that.

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

“Believe in your vision more than you believe in anyone else’s doubt.”

Tiffany Smiley (7:36-7:40)

Many women don’t realize they have the power to create the life they want. It’s easy to look at others and think, “It’s possible for them, but not for me.” These limited beliefs create barriers that make it harder for us to achieve our goals and live the lives we want. But the inputs that you put in greatly impact your output. So we need to recognize when things need to change. We need to be able to take control of our mindset and invest in ourselves if we want things to change. We can use the help of a coach to become better at observing our own lives and the decisions we make each day. 

“Investing in yourself is what will lead you forward into the future. That makes you unstoppable.” - Tiffany Smiley (18:22-18:30)

Tiffany Smiley is the co-founder of Hope Unseen and the founder of More Than Me. She believes in the power of sharing your story to change the lives of others. Tiffany is a public speaker, writer, and news contributor. She’s been featured on CBS, Fox News, and you may have seen her on the Dr. Phil Show. Tiffany’s work is built on her passion to give other women the space they need to grow and step into their purpose while making a positive impact on the world. 

Become the Observer to Gain New Perspectives

The lives of today’s working women can be filled with obstacles. There may be times when you feel limited or stuck in a box. But in order to create change, we have to be willing to take a step back and observe what’s happening. This isn’t always easy. But it’s all part of the journey, and there will be signs along the way that encourage you if you’re willing to see them for what they are. Tiffany’s work with a coach helped her work on her internal game. She knew the importance of reaching out to others for help. This led her to create better habits and set new parameters in her life. Taking this approach doesn’t just benefit you, it can benefit your entire family, and your work or business. 

Learn to Embrace Fear

When we set out to change something about our lives, we often become attached to the way it might turn out. But most successful people have learned that things usually turn out much different than how we first imagine they will. This often serves as a catalyst for real and lasting changes in what we’re doing. We fear failure. But failure is what makes us better the next time we try. Working with a coach can help you see things from new perspectives. When we can’t find ourselves, we often need someone else to guide us back to ourselves. 

“You either win or you learn. Failure doesn't really exist.” 

- Blake Schofield (24:50-24:55)

Fear never goes away. When you learn to welcome fear, you can step into your purpose. Instead of looking at fear as an obstacle, look at it as something that propels you forward. Embrace the mistakes and learn from them. There are many opportunities in life to love and appreciate yourself just as much as you do everyone else. If you’re willing to fully support your family and friends, why wouldn’t you do that for yourself? Recognize the beliefs you have that aren’t really true. When you do this, you can finally begin to live a more joyful and fulfilled life. 

How to Get Involved

Learn more about Tiffany by visiting www.morethanme.com and www.tiffanysmiley.com. 

If you would like some help to get clarity & a roadmap for your path ahead, schedule a free strategy call today. 

You can also visit my website for more information and valuable resources.

You are capable of far more than you can imagine. Life doesn’t have to be an  either/or. You can have it all and do it without taking a leap or risking what you’ve worked so hard to build! 

“Believe in your vision more than you believe in anyone else’s doubt.”

Tiffany Smiley (7:36-7:40)

Many women don’t realize they have the power to create the life they want. It’s easy to look at others and think, “It’s possible for them, but not for me.” These limited beliefs create barriers that make it harder for us to achieve our goals and live the lives we want. But the inputs that you put in greatly impact your output. So we need to recognize when things need to change. We need to be able to take control of our mindset and invest in ourselves if we want things to change. We can use the help of a coach to become better at observing our own lives and the decisions we make each day. 

“Investing in yourself is what will lead you forward into the future. That makes you unstoppable.” - Tiffany Smiley (18:22-18:30)

Tiffany Smiley is the co-founder of Hope Unseen and the founder of More Than Me. She believes in the power of sharing your story to change the lives of others. Tiffany is a public speaker, writer, and news contributor. She’s been featured on CBS, Fox News, and you may have seen her on the Dr. Phil Show. Tiffany’s work is built on her passion to give other women the space they need to grow and step into their purpose while making a positive impact on the world. 

Become the Observer to Gain New Perspectives

The lives of today’s working women can be filled with obstacles. There may be times when you feel limited or stuck in a box. But in order to create change, we have to be willing to take a step back and observe what’s happening. This isn’t always easy. But it’s all part of the journey, and there will be signs along the way that encourage you if you’re willing to see them for what they are. Tiffany’s work with a coach helped her work on her internal game. She knew the importance of reaching out to others for help. This led her to create better habits and set new parameters in her life. Taking this approach doesn’t just benefit you, it can benefit your entire family, and your work or business. 

Learn to Embrace Fear

When we set out to change something about our lives, we often become attached to the way it might turn out. But most successful people have learned that things usually turn out much different than how we first imagine they will. This often serves as a catalyst for real and lasting changes in what we’re doing. We fear failure. But failure is what makes us better the next time we try. Working with a coach can help you see things from new perspectives. When we can’t find ourselves, we often need someone else to guide us back to ourselves. 

“You either win or you learn. Failure doesn't really exist.” 

- Blake Schofield (24:50-24:55)

Fear never goes away. When you learn to welcome fear, you can step into your purpose. Instead of looking at fear as an obstacle, look at it as something that propels you forward. Embrace the mistakes and learn from them. There are many opportunities in life to love and appreciate yourself just as much as you do everyone else. If you’re willing to fully support your family and friends, why wouldn’t you do that for yourself? Recognize the beliefs you have that aren’t really true. When you do this, you can finally begin to live a more joyful and fulfilled life. 

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“It’s not a luxury to rest, relax, and unplug. It’s a necessity.”

Blake Schofield (10:41-10:48)

The way we live is having a negative effect on our health and happiness. There’s a tendency to work long hours at the expense of rest and recovery. Even worse, when we do have the chance to take time off, we don’t. Or, we worry about work when we’re on vacation, keeping us from enjoying our lives and being present with the ones we love. 

The fact is that we perform better when we take time off. We need to take responsibility for our time and our wellbeing so we can show up better at work, home, and in everything we do. 

“In a world that screams that we need to be doing and be ‘on’ all the time… the real truth for success, happiness, and health says the exact opposite.” - Blake Schofield (10:49-11:03)

Here are some eye-opening statistics related to work and our wellbeing.

• Only 52% of employees actually use all their vacation time. 
• Working more than 50 hours a week can raise the risk of a heart attack or stroke. 
• Not taking time off can also increase the risk of heart attacks and strokes. 
• People who work longer hours tend to be more anxious, depressed, and suffer from sleep issues. 
• Women who take less than one vacation every two years are more likely to suffer from depression and stress. 

Taking Time Off for Yourself and Others

When we take time off, we teach others that they can do it for themselves, too. That’s what leadership is. But before you set aside time for a vacation, create a plan that will help you get the most benefit out of your time off. Preparation is the key to a vacation that gives you the rest you need without worrying about what’s going on at the office while you’re away. 

Assign someone on your team to cover the tasks that need to be completed while you’re gone. Start this process early so they can ask questions instead of interrupting your time off. The more prepared you are, the better you’ll be at taking time off for yourself. Schedule time at the end of your vacation to catch up on any work-related tasks. Review your calendar to see what’s in store as you make your way back to work. Communicate with team members to review how things went and address issues that may have come up while you were away. 

Checking Out So You Come Back Better Than Before

When you truly unplug, you come back to work with more creativity, energy, and drive. You show up better, and you set a positive example for the people you work with. Leaders lead by example. The actions you take teach others how they can live. Working moms who don’t take time for themselves teach their children to do the same. That’s not a lesson that you want to instill in your family.

“When you take the time out to truly unplug, you’ll come back with more creativity, energy, and drive. You’re going to show up and be better.” - Blake Schofield (15:45-15:53) 

It’s your responsibility to live your life according to your values, and it’s up to you to take control and take care of you. Your job isn't going to do that for you. Sit down and look at your calendar and start scheduling time out for yourself. Whether it’s a few hours, days, or weeks, prioritize rest and recovery. When you learn to check out from your job and enjoy life, you’ll reap many wonderful benefits that enhance the lives of you, your co-workers, and your family. 

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You are capable of far more than you can imagine. Life doesn’t have to be an  either/or. You can have it all and do it without taking a leap or risking what you’ve worked so hard to build!