If you are very honest with yourself, you, and others around you, have many different selves. At the very least, you must acknowledge that we are all inconsistent in our lives: in one moment, patient, the next, impatient. Using perfectionism is just one of many areas where you can use this idea for your own advantage.

When dealing with people, sometimes distance is needed, and sometimes closeness is needed, it all just depends on how that relationship is going, and depends on your own energy as well.