If you can understand the general or spirit of something rather than all kinds of facts and details about it, you can actually understand it better. You can improve on this understanding later, but you must start with a general overview first, and work your way deeper, while still keeping in mind the general overview along the way

Relationships aren't just between you and a romantic partner, but have to do with the relationship between you and your dog, you and yourself, you and your friends, you and your parents, you and life, and much more. In this episode I will explain how the roles you play in relationships are created, and how to become aware of the causes for these roles and attitudes you might have in these relationships.

Going meta on your story is necessary to deal with it propperly

Inner darkness, thoughts like violence, petaphilia can help you understand these very same things outside of yourself, and done by others.