In Her Eyes

If the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, then how do we break the cycle?

It’s why I have given up resolutions, and focus on the journey instead.

Etched in my memory is the scene in the movie, The Jerk, with Steve Martin where he is leaving home but procrastinates by needing to grab random things to take with him; including a random kitchen chair.

Whenever I am asking myself if something is truly important to keep, I wonder if it's just that chair: something I am choosing to hang on to to keep me in that holding pattern.

Circling above what I really want.

With it within sight but mysteriously unattainable.

Once you have committed to change, you have to commit to RELEASE.

To those of you who committed to “the Assignment” in episode 58.

I applaud you!

If you were like me and started out strong but fizzled out as things got busy, you may have realized as I did the lesson in that alone.

I let go of some hard stuff: physical objects, resentments, obligations, expectations, and more.

And I also slipped back into comfort patterns that weren’t necessarily aligned with the desired path forward.

This episode starts out differently than most.  With the experience of physical release.

A fun exercise to remind you how good it feels to let go.

And that YOU are IN CHARGE of the process of Release.

Therein lies the power!

For the full shownotes, go to: episode webpage

I am a believer in both science and magic.

The seen and the unseen.

The energetic nature of all things.

I know that I make better decisions when what I truly want is both in my sight-lines and top of mind.

I know that I can take actions that connect that which lies deep within my heart to what I experience in my reality.

I might not always be in control, but I am in charge.

I trust that I might not always know the best way.  And in that trust…

LIES THE MIRACULOUS.

In this episode, I revisit my 2022 Vision Board and share the miracles.

There is an Einstein Quote I love:

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

I choose the latter.

This episode is one steeped in self-love and a deeper understanding of trusting that which we can’t see or don’t understand.

If you desire a deeper sense of ALIGNMENT moving into 2023, listen to this episode.

Then join me in the FREE 3-day Alignment Challenge that starts Dec. 27th.: Click here to sign-up!

Photos By: Lauren Bodwell Photography

How deeply do you trust your intuition?

Oprah calls it: that still, small voice.

Did you know you could hire an intuition coach?

In this episode, I interview Amber Dolan-Bath, who is one!

Amber is a professional intuition coach, a dream strategist, an intuitive, a wife, a mother of a 2-year-old little girl Lilith, and a Disney lover. With that comes being a BIG dreamer.  She is also a coffee and sweets enthusiast.

If you are equally amazed and delighted by synchronicities and the Magic that the Universe provides when you simply trust, you will LOVE this episode.

Is there something you KNOW that you are afraid to say out loud?

This episode will help you find the courage to do all of these things.

Amber walks you through a “Reconditioning Exercise” to help you break through money issues.

You can substitute anything else that keeps coming up; and holding you back from the things in life that you desire the most.

We answer the “Who Am I to deserve this?” question.

And a few other really powerful questions that you need to be asking yourself if your life feels out of alignment with your deepest desires.

Amber sits, unapologetically, in self-love.  Something that I believe most of us need to learn.

This used to be a trigger for me.  I have had to come face-to-face with the resentment within myself that sparked the judgement that prevented me from basking in the radiance of someone else’s truth.

Trust me, it feels so much better on this side of the journey!

You will learn:

To access the Episode show notes and to learn more about Amber, click here!

It’s that time of year again!

This guide is truly an over-achiever’s guide to choosing a Word of the Year.

In this episode, I guide you through:

Why uncover your "Word of the Year" for 2023?

New Year's Resolutions never worked for me.

If I decided I wanted to do something, why should I wait until January 1st to start?

And there is as much chatter about abandoning resolutions as there is about keeping them.

Over the years I have looked at them more as something to create a forcefield of false drama around than something that actually moves people in the direction they want to go.

Five years ago, I chose my first truly effective word of the year, in a process similar to the one I walk through in the podcast.  Each year since I have fine-tuned the process.  And truths that I have uncovered have been more influential and directional than I could have ever imagined when I sat down that first time with pencil and paper in hand.

The process, itself, taught me to ask for what I really wanted.

Not something I am good at.

I don't think many of us are.  Self-sacrifice is the moral nutrition I was raised on.

While I believe, with all my being, that my purpose here is to be of service in a capacity that serves the highest good of all of humanity.  I cannot do that without fully knowing myself and discovering my highest potential.

I have found so much information that I need to go forward in the process of discovering my word of the year.

I have found so much support and direction in having a word of the year.

Be sure to head over to the episode webpage to get your Word of the Year workbook for 2023 as well as see the vision board that I created for 2022 that served as a constant visual reminder of last year’s word of the year:

Link to episode webpage: Podcast Webpage

Are you thinking of hiring a coach?

Maybe a Nutrition Coach

Maybe you think you can’t afford a coach.

In this episode, I dive into the questions that come up when thinking about hiring a coach.

Whether it is a life coach, nutrition coach, business coach, wealth coach, stylist, etc.

I answer the 5 biggest questions about coaching:

There are 6 important questions that you need to spend some time with if you are considering hiring a coach or joining a program.  Even if the program you are considering isn’t a lot of money necessarily, it might not be wise to join if you haven’t done the background work.  Your time, your creative energy and your mental energy are equally valuable resources.

To access the JOURNAL PROMPTS and the full show notes, head over to: Podcast Webpage 

Truth is something that we say we want. Until it makes us uncomfortable. Or those around us uncomfortable. 

When I first decided that I needed to move away from my full-time job, I had some hard decisions to make. Despite the fact that I loved some of the things I was able to access and create in that position, there was no avenue for growth. 

I had to lean into the faith that I would find the support I needed to launch my own business. 

I always saw it as something different than a traditional interior design business. 

I had become accustomed to helping people that wouldn’t necessarily be hiring an Interior Designer or Decorator to help them create the vision that they had for their home. I knew that I could use technology to reach more people and help them create spaces that inspired them without breaking the bank. When I took the leap, I only had a fuzzy image of what that might look like. 

And as the Universe always does when you allow it to, it brought me the perfect mentor to move toward a life of “health, wealth, and joy” as my guest’s program promised. 

Business coach, Tobi Fairley is an unapologetic truth-teller. She believes in living a life aligned with who she is at her core. She transitioned from one of full-service Interior Design to a Business Coach for designers and creatives like myself. She has always been a visionary. Bolding embracing life has kept her at the forefront of both the Design Industry and the rapidly evolving use of technology to do more with her expansive skillset. 

Tobi Fairley is an innovation igniter, thought architect, and one of the leading voices on reimagining what it means to run a successful, creative business in an equitable and sustainable way...

To read her extensive bio: visit the episode shownotes at: Podcast Webpage

We follow the evolution of her personal business path full of gold nuggets of wisdom. She drops some serious truth bombs along the way. She reveals the moments that led to important mindset shifts that forged the path to who she has become as she creates opportunities for other creatives as she visions forward. 

You will be inspired (and maybe get a little teary as I did) when she shared how she faced the hard truths about herself in the process of supporting her daughter through the evil waters of Middle School and mean girls. It’s a gut punch of self-loathing transformed into self-love. 

We laughed. We got teary-eyed. We found power on the other side of this brutally honest conversation. 

I wish everyone could have seen the light in Tobi’s face as she saw her current self through the eyes of 8-year-old Tobi. 

A magical moment of what it looks like when you are living a life aligned with your truth. 

It is a wish I have for everyone, especially the extraordinary hearts that listen to this podcast.

#gratitude is going to be showing up all over the internet today

But gratitude isn’t just something to express one day a year.

If you are like me, you likely find yourself focusing on the next few weeks ahead and ALL that you need to get done.

Sometimes we need a reminder, to stop and smell the roses.  And bask in the power that moment can provide.

In this week’s episode, I provide you with a meditation to help you reconnect to the present moment and find joy in all you are + have ever experienced.

“Gratitude opens the door to the power, the wisdom, the creativity of the Universe. You open the door through gratitude.”

-Deepak Chopra

This meditation takes you on a guided journey, grounding into the heart of the Earth that provides for the bounty that we celebrate on this day and connecting that gratitude to all that we have ever been.

Give yourself the gift of 20 minutes to step into the magical effervescence that GRATITUDE can provide.

There is free access to download the meditation in the full show notes.

To access the full show notes go here: Episode 59 webpage link

Advertisements for Advent calendars are popping up all over the place.

The one that inspired this episode was from a promotional email for a “wine advent box.”

My first thought when I saw it was, “ I would never get everything done that I want to do before everyone shows up for Christmas.”

Which made me ask myself, how do I want to prepare for the Holidays as well as the year ahead?

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”

-Tony Robbins

You would never plant a flower that needs lots of light under a bush.

Yet our hopes and dreams for the future are often buried in the stories, longings, and disappointments of our past.

Afraid we will offend someone.

Disappoint someone.

Let someone down.

This episode gives you an alternative to the traditional “Advent Calendar” with a result at the end.  In the process you will learn how to ask the questions to reveal the reason that you hang on to things (and thoughts) when they no longer serve your best version of who you want to be:

I will take you through the Assignment of how to select and evaluate something each day to let go of.

I tell the story of what it meant to let go of a pair of shoes that reminded me of a friend I lost recently. I learned more from the letting go, than the hanging on.

I hope you find the same clarity that I found. Share your a-ha moments in the forum or shoot me a DM if it's something too personal to share with the world yet.

In my many years in sales, I remember the Mantra "The fortune is in the follow-up" playing in the back of my head.

That motto applies to so many areas of our lives.

The Universe has a way of circling us back around to the things etched in our hearts.

Those heartstopping ideas that often feel too fragile to bring out into the open.

In this week's episode, I guide you through 4 important questions to ask yourself to keep you on track with that COO vision for your life that we created a few short weeks ago.

We are about to go into the hectic holidays.  The social conscripts tied to these traditions don't align with the natural tendencies of our bodies during this season.

Evaluating what's truly important is critical.

Staying true to YOURSELF is the key to creating a life aligned with your heart.  That's why checking back in with your own truth is so important right now.

If you go through each of these questions with a sense of honesty and determination in your heart, you will eliminate the frustration of repeating the patterns of the past.

This is the "you can do it" episode.

Do you have a running mental list of all the things that need to be tweaked in your home? 

Odd jobs that you never seem to get around to?

This episode is dedicated to helping you get your home ready to comfort you for the winter.  

As the hours of light in our days begin to fade and we find ourselves increasingly holed up in our homes, we experience greater levels of depression.

Ticking off some of the things on that mental list feels good and brings your home into alignment with how you want to live in it.

If you have never picked up a paintbrush or caulk gun, never fear!

I've got you covered.

This episode will empower you to tackle some of those tasks that you have been putting off.

I have taken the "I don't know what to buy" and the "what if I mess it up" excuses out of the equation by linking you to the resources to help you complete the jobs.

I walk you through what to do (and not to do!) when it comes to:

Listen in for all the ways to simplify your pesky home repairs and then head over to the webpage to see the products I use to get the job done right the first time!

Episode webpage:  In Her Eyes.com/episode 56