In Her Eyes

How often do you argue with someone over their incorrect view of reality?

What if differing points of view aren't actually thoughts but the way individuals experience the world?

We have a built-in mechanism that keeps us locked in specific thought patterns that resist change.

Even when we really crave that change.

It is called our Reticular Activating System.

It is located in our brainstem.

One of the most primitive parts of our brains.

It controls many things you would think of as instinctual, like sleeping and sensing danger.

It is a memory system within our nervous system that instantly triggers responses.

Both physical (like our eyes flying wide open when we hear a strange sound in our sleep) and emotional (like squealing and leaping and our heart racing when we see a snake.)

In this episode, I share with you the biology behind why you experience the world as you do.

Understanding is the shortest path to overcoming.

I explain how it works.

And what you can do to make it work better.

And why just knowing these two things can help you live a life filled with more compassion, peace, and joy!

To dive deeper into this fascinating integration of science and expanded consciousness you can access all of the resources mentioned and the full show notes here:

If we are talking about the energetic presence within your home, at some point, we have to talk about GHOSTS!

Do you believe in Ghosts?

In my experience, ghosts have provided comic relief, a place to shift blame, and even some comfort.

I have been pretty fortunate.

They also have provided some invaluable lessons about energy.

I know that my Enneagram 7 tendency to see the humor and joy in things can get annoying.  Especially when those around me want to feel bad.

Or dramatic.

Or play the victim.

Maybe hauntings should be taken seriously.

Or maybe they are a grand cosmic joke of this we call life.

Whether you are a believer or not, I think you will enjoy this slightly spooky episode.

I introduce you to the ghosts I (and those close to me) have crossed paths with.

So break out your sage.

Or not.  (You may have friendly ghosts!)

And travel with me through the Haunted Mansions of my life.

Share your ghost stories here: https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/forum

Have you ever thought: "If only I could clone myself"?

I certainly have.

In virtually every area of my life.

It seems fitting that 38 years since my 11th-grade science project mapped the process of cloning and genetic engineering, I would use that same knowledge in a podcast about how you can streamline your own effectiveness in all the areas of your life.

And even more, ironically, I left my full-time job in a laboratory that cloned individual genes and proteins to study their roles in different biological processes to get to this place where I would be recording this podcast.

A business is only as successful as it is efficient.

And that requires a great COO.  

Chief Operating Officer

The person who manages all the things.

We can all harness the qualities of that ideal COO candidate to create more joy (success) in our homes and lives.

Living the life you dream of is closer than you realize when you start fine-tuning what IS instead of focusing on what ISN'T.

In this episode, I:

You've been promoted!  You deserve it!

Are your own stories holding you back?

We all have stories.

We are a species of stories.  It's how we bond.

They define us individually, locally, regionally, ethnically, culturally, socially, and nationally.

We can tell our most remarkable stories in our sleep. (Or heavily intoxicated.  Those stories can go viral. 😉)

Have you ever stopped to think about which parts of your stories you might be emphasizing and how that may affect your personal growth?  Your stuckness.  Your tendency to repeat the same patterns.

➡ Are you dwelling on the victim or the victor?

➡ The mayhem or the magic?

➡ The disaster or the Divine?

As humans, we have a natural propensity to bonding over our struggles and our tragedies.

And what about those unconscious stories, the ones engraved in our persona that we fail to question their truth?  They have been with us for as long as we remember.  Those stories are the ones that can create the bars on the cages of our self-sabotage and struggle.

They usually start with the words: I am or I have.

Those are the dangerous stories.

It takes courage to look at them.  It takes even more courage to rewrite them or (gulp) let them go altogether.

In this episode, I guide you through the process of:

Access the full show notes here: https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode52

Have you ever seen an opportunity in front of you but been afraid to take a leap because of one (or MORE) of the following?

If any of these items tickle a nerve, then this episode is for you.

My guest, Erin Kraebber, recently stepped out of a high-level collegiate marketing position and into the life of a small business owner.

Erin knows what it feels like to be stretched thin. She sculpted a successful 15+ year career in collegiate athletics marketing while raising little people who place many demands on her time and energy.

She is a wife, mother to two daughters, small business owner, Enneagram 1, avid sports fan, and host of the Motherhood Merged Podcast. Originally from Wisconsin, she now resides with her family in Birmingham, Alabama.

In 2022, she decided to make a transition from the corporate ladder to entrepreneurship. She is now the owner of Forté Dance Essentials, a brick-and-mortar dancewear boutique where she serves dancers of all ages.

In addition to her retail space, Erin also works as a marketing strategist. She teaches systems that allow business owners and industry-leading women to tell their unique stories, reach more customers, and grow revenues. Her goal is to solve the problems that empower women to feel satisfied with their contributions in their careers and at home.

What we dive into:

The theme of season 3 is TRANSFORMATION. And where better to start than the reinvention of yourself?

If you are feeling the nudge to shift course, this episode is definitely for you!

For the complete show notes, head to https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode51

As season 2 comes to a close, it's time to CELEBRATE.

And listen.

As promised, I announce the 14 lucky winners of the Anniversary giveaway.

My team will be getting in touch with the winners over the next couple of days to ensure the delivery of their prizes.

If your name was called but you haven't received an email by Saturday, please reach out to [email protected]

But I also give you guidance on the surefire way that YOU can tap into the deep understanding of your Higher Self.

It's as easy as you want it to be.

And more powerful than you can imagine.

If there is any topic that you would love to dive deeper into or if you are interested in submitting a question or would be interested in on air coaching, please fill out the form at the bottom of the podcast website: https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/

Voltaire said it first.  At least as far as I can tell.

In the early 1700s, the philosopher popularized the phrase:

“The perfect is the enemy of the good.”

-Voltaire

Sometimes, being described as a perfectionist can feel like a compliment.

Don’t we all want to work with people, hire people, that take extraordinary pride in the work that they produce?

In this episode, we dive into perfectionism and how to evaluate your own actions in relation to it.

It took a lesson in Astrology (a seemingly unlikely place to begin) that gave me a better understanding my own perfectionist tendencies: good and bad, to begin the deep work and find the answers that I need to move in the direction my heart is pulling me.

I hope this episode provides you with points to ponder to make your own journey toward your highest self more clear.

To get the full show notes, including suggested mantras for each principle: go to https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode50

Break out the confetti!

It’s the one-year anniversary of the In Her Eyes podcast!

It has been a wild ride!

This week’s episode recaps the important lessons and insights that have come from a year of doing something that seemed barely conceivable when I set out on this journey.

I tell the story of how the podcast came into being.

I share with you the most popular episode, which is also the most common cause of frustration when people are starting (or not starting) projects.  Did you guess it?

The valuable gems of wisdom that transformed the way I think about the way I live and support my family form guests, Lea Pickard and Roxanne Foura.

Through the course of the year, as I followed the guidance and wisdom in my path, along the hills and valleys of self-discovery.  I developed a deeper sense of understanding of what my innate gifts are and how I can use them to help others.  I learned to connect with myself using the extraordinary power of my own breath, allowing room for self-discovery.  I did the hard work of looking at where I was selling myself short by not setting firm boundaries.  And not truly embracing what I most desired.  I had conversations with extraordinary women: Elisha Halpin, Ingunn Ytterhus, Nancy Levin, and Amy Neil.

An empowering new perspective on abundance (and money) was born as I chatted with the extraordinary Money Consciousness Coach, Jessica Marie.

We stepped into the power of working within our Human Design, our cravings, and the cyclical nature of creation with these beautiful souls: Emma Jensen, Annie Wagoner,  and Lauren Roberts.

And through it all, our ability to design spaces that meet us where we are and propel us toward where we want to go.  We were joined by insightful designers Jessica Velazquez and Heather Rabold-Hill.

To link to all these episodes and more: go to https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode49

What does living within your authenticity look like?  What would embracing it and live from it look like?

Are there certain places or areas of your life where you feel more like your “True Self”?  Or are how she become misplaced?

As a reforming people pleaser, I could identify with Camilla Cream and her “Bad Case of the Stripes” by David Shannon

When you purchase a piece of art or a historical document, you often receive a Certificate of Authenticity.  What would your Certificate of Authenticity look like?

What would happen if you wrote your Certificate of Authenticity across your heart and moved and lived life by staying true to that document?

It sounds exciting and clarifying in the quiet moments when we are alone with ourselves.  It’s not as easy in the different circles that we navigate life in.

In this episode, I take you through the moments in life when our authenticity is eroded.  Not intentionally or with malice by others that want the best of us.  Or from those that feel threatened by our light and joy.  Through social pressure and conforming and fear of judgement, we question our uniqueness or inherent values.

Often (like Camilla Cream) we change to disguise our uniqueness without recognizing the true consequences of our actions.

This episode was designed to help you re-write your Certificate of Authenticity.

You will learn how to investigate the evidence of abandoned authenticity. And how to rediscover your magic.  And how to support the girls and women in your life to write their own authenticity on their hearts!

For the full show notes: go to https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode48

We have all heard the reports of how important a good night’s sleep is.

Poor sleep leads to a plethora of conditions that haunt us in our waking hours; affecting everything from weight gain, to chronic pain, to mental fog, and the list goes on.

For many of us, it seems like something that we have little to no control over.

If you were to chat with a feng shui expert, you would get several insights into changes you could make.

A neuroscientist would have some suggestions as well.

As would an herbalist/naturopath.

A meditation expert offers up a different set of suggestions.

As a holistic and intuitive designer, I like to uncover all of a client’s challenges to make sure that the design that we are co-creating serves them on the deepest level.

And in the bedroom, we want to create an environment that is restful and conducive to sleep as possible.

We have come to believe that there is something wrong with us if we have trouble sleeping.

But there are small habitual changes and some design decisions that we can make that may seem silly but actually make a big difference.

In this episode, I help you look at 7 changes that you can make to begin to improve both the quality and quantity of your sleep.   Most of these changes are very simple and easy to “stack.”  If you have been around a while, you know that I am a huge fan of James Clear and his book Atomic Habits. 

It’s easy to say, “I don’t sleep well.”  When you say that, you become that person.  But when you begin to shift your mindset toward better sleep and commit to taking steps toward that, you will begin to feel better in every area of your life.  Instead say, “I provide myself (my family) with a restful environment.”

Start by taking one small step, and then allow the habits to stack until you become a person who gets enough quality sleep to THRIVE!

go to https://www.inhereyespodcast.com/episode47