In Process Podcast

Our first guest had to be....... ALLYSON'S MOM!

This week on In Process, Allyson welcomes her mom, Ann Marie Hadley, for an honest conversation about the love, mess, laughter, and uncomfortable moments behind their close relationship.

They explore childhood patterns, the pressure to be a perfect mother, and what happens when a daughter learns to stop managing her mother’s emotions. Ann Marie shares what it felt like when Allyson needed space—and how learning to honor that distance helped them find a new way to be close.

From mother wounds and boundaries to spiritual growth and becoming your own person, this conversation holds two truths: you can deeply love each other and still have internal work to do.

Expect tears, some swearing, plenty of laughter, and a reminder that neither motherhood nor growing up comes with a finish line.

If you’re navigating your relationship with your mother or adult daughter, we hope you find a little of yourself here.

Listen in, share what resonates with your daughter(s) or mom, and stay in process.

00:00 Introduction & meeting our first guest
04:10 You’re never too old to grow and heal
06:29 Doing life with your adult children
11:24 Raising a daughter who lives life big
13:50 Building a village & connection with Jack
16:14 The mother wound & trying to be the perfect mom
20:55 Becoming your mother’s emotional regulator
32:48 Giving your children space & having your own life
35:05 When closeness with Mom affects your partnership
39:42 Marriage, growth & holding on through the hard seasons
44:35 Making room for two different truths
47:00 Coming out in a Christian family
51:30 Faith, psychedelics & becoming a “Christian witch”
58:23 Loosening control & respecting each other’s truth
1:00:34 “Mom, I need space”: the boundaries conversation
1:03:02 What that distance felt like for Anne Marie
1:05:15 Finding separate healing paths
1:07:36 Growing side by side without carrying each other
1:11:54 The beauty & mess of being in relationship
1:14:15 Closing reflections & staying in process

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Money. We all need it. We all have a relationship with it. But how often do we actually talk about it?

In this episode of In Process, we're getting vulnerable about one of the most uncomfortable topics we've explored yet: MONEY.

We grew up with two very different financial realities, and those early experiences shaped how we earn, spend, save, give, receive, and ultimately relate to one another.

From financial independence and entrepreneurship to credit card debt, shame, and the stories we've inherited from our families, we're unpacking what happens when two people bring very different relationships with money into a marriage.

Allyson opens up about her ongoing journey with debt, the shame she's carried, and what it's looked like to rebuild trust in herself financially. Beth shares her lifelong relationship with financial independence, the responsibility of providing for a family, and her own journey of learning how to receive support.

Because sometimes healing our relationship with money isn't just about making more of it. It's about changing the stories we tell ourselves about it.

We're not financial experts, and we're certainly not claiming to have it all figured out. We're sharing from the messy middle, because that's what In Process is all about.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Dow Janes
Financial education and resources designed to help women build financial confidence, navigate debt, save, and invest.

Website: https://www.dowjanes.com/

Your Rich BFF — Vivian Tu
Accessible financial education covering everything from investing and saving to building wealth and understanding money.

Website: https://www.yourrichbff.com/

Podcast: Networth and Chill with Your Rich BFF
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/networth-and-chill-with-your-rich-bff/id1676999261

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH:

What stories about money did you inherit growing up, and are those stories still serving the person you're becoming?

If this conversation resonates, share it with someone you love. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is normalize the conversations we've been taught to keep quiet.

Until next time, stay In Process.

A & B

What happens when menopause changes everything—from your hormones and sex drive to your identity, relationships, and the way you experience your own body?

In this episode of In Process, Beth and Allyson get real about menopause, early menopause, hormone replacement therapy (HRT), intimacy, marriage, and the unexpected transformation that can happen when a woman no longer recognizes herself.

Beth opens up about entering menopause at just 38 and the five-year journey that followed. From debilitating hot flashes, anxiety, and sleepless nights to navigating hormonal changes, shifting libido, and the emotional toll of feeling misunderstood, she shares what menopause has actually been like behind closed doors.

Allyson brings a different perspective: What is it like to be married to a woman going through menopause while still being in the height of your own menstruating years?

Together, they explore the realities of navigating two very different hormonal seasons within one marriage—and why patience, communication, compassion, and humor matter more than ever.

In this episode, we explore:

• Early menopause and the emotional impact of hormonal changes

• Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and finding individualized support

• Menopause symptoms, including anxiety, hot flashes, and sleep disruption

• Changes in libido, sexual desire, and intimacy after menopause

• How menopause affects marriage and romantic relationships

• Beth's evolving relationship with food, exercise, and body image

• What women in their 30s and 40s can learn about supporting their bodies

• The freedom, discernment, and self-trust that can emerge through menopause

This conversation isn't about fixing menopause or pretending it's easy. It's about creating space for the experiences women have historically been expected to navigate quietly.

Because menopause isn't just a hormonal transition. For some women, it becomes an initiation into an entirely different relationship with themselves.

Whether you're navigating perimenopause, menopause, postmenopause, or supporting someone you love through this chapter, we hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Pre-show warm-up
00:32 Why menopause needs more conversation
02:30 Beth’s early menopause journey
07:44 Finding the right support
15:56 Menopause and a changing relationship with exercise
20:38 Intimacy, libido, and menopause
25:35 Navigating menopause with a partner
29:27 What Beth wishes she knew earlier
33:24 Sleep, anxiety, and breaking the cycle
35:01 Living in different hormonal seasons
41:35 Grace, support, and learning to ride the waves
44:16 Closing thoughts

ABOUT IN PROCESS

In Process is an unfiltered podcast with wives Beth and Allyson, exploring the messy, beautiful, and often uncomfortable parts of being human.

From marriage, intimacy, and parenting to identity, spirituality, personal growth, and everything in between, we're having the conversations that often happen behind closed doors.

We're not here because we have it all figured out. We're here because we're in process, too.

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Have you experienced menopause, or are you supporting a partner through it? What's something you wish more people understood about this transition?

Share your experience in the comments. We'd love to hear from you.

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When does spirituality deepen your relationship with life and when does it become another way to escape it?

In this episode of In Process, Beth and Allyson have an honest conversation about grounded spirituality vs. performative spirituality and the difference between actually living your beliefs and simply wearing the spiritual costume.

Allyson shares her journey from organized religion into New Age spirituality, plant medicine, sacred sexuality, ceremony, and eventually a period of stripping away many of the identities and practices she had associated with being “spiritual.” Along the way, she began confronting the places where spirituality had become another form of seeking, performance, intensity, and even avoidance.

Beth brings a different perspective - one rooted in yoga, embodiment, nature, discipline, motherhood, relationship, and the belief that spirituality should bring us more deeply into our human lives rather than constantly trying to transcend them.

Together, we explore:

• Grounded spirituality vs. performative spirituality

• Spiritual bypassing and escaping the human experience

• Outsourcing your inner knowing to teachers, rituals, cards, ceremonies, or medicine

• Plant medicine, sacred sexuality, religion, and New Age spirituality

• Allyson’s Vipassana experience and confronting her relationship with intensity

• Addiction patterns hiding inside spiritual practices

• Power, safety, and accountability in spiritual leadership

• Why embodiment may look a lot more ordinary than enlightenment

• Learning to trust your own relationship with God, Spirit, faith, intuition, or whatever you call something greater than yourself

• Finding the sacred in relationships, conflict, work, family, responsibility, and everyday life

This isn’t a conversation about one spiritual path being right and another being wrong.

It’s an invitation to ask:

Is this actually true for me?

Does this practice bring me more deeply into my life OR help me avoid it?

And underneath all the rituals, identities, practices, ceremonies, and beliefs…

Who am I when I take the costume off?

Thanks for being In Process with us.

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What happens when one person in a relationship has ADHD — and the other person's brain works completely differently?

In this episode of In Process, Allyson and Beth get personal about what ADHD actually looks like inside their marriage.

Allyson shares her experience being diagnosed with ADHD at 17, her journey with medication, and what she's learned about building a life that actually supports the way her brain works.

We talk about:

• How ADHD can show up differently than the stereotypes — especially in women

• Shame, emotional sensitivity, impulsivity, and nervous system regulation

• The routines and tools Allyson uses to support her ADHD

• What ADHD looks like from Beth's perspective as a partner

• The agreements they've created around communication, reminders, transitions, and time

• The unexpected gifts ADHD brings into their relationship

• Learning to take accountability without turning ADHD into something to be ashamed of

• The difference between impulse and intuition — and how ADHD has become part of Allyson's journey back to self-trust

This isn't medical advice or an argument for or against medication. It's an honest conversation from two people still learning how to work with their differences instead of against them.

If you have ADHD — or love someone who does — this one is for you.

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Conflict doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Sometimes, it can become the place where a relationship learns how to deepen.

In this episode of In Process, Beth and Allyson get honest about how they navigate conflict in their marriage—from triggers and defensiveness to taking space, repairing after a rupture, and learning how to stay connected when they don’t agree.

After attempting to record this episode while they were actively in conflict (spoiler: it didn’t go well), they return to the conversation from the other side of it. They explore how childhood experiences shape the way we fight, what happens when we “armor up,” and why learning to take a sacred pause has changed the way they communicate.

They also unpack the difference between honoring your truth and needing your partner to agree with it, how triggers can reveal deeper wounds asking for attention, and why repair doesn’t always happen immediately. Sometimes healing happens through conversation, physical connection, or simply choosing each other differently the next time the same trigger appears.

At the center of the conversation is a question they’ve learned to return to:

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in love?

This is an honest conversation about relationship conflict, marriage, communication, emotional triggers, nervous system regulation, rupture and repair, healthy relationships, conflict resolution, intimacy, and choosing each other when relationships get hard.

If this episode resonates with you, follow In Process for new conversations every Sunday.

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What does it actually take to become a parent to a child you didn’t give birth to?

After our raw conversation about parenting a child with special needs, we knew there was more to unpack.

In this episode, we talk about what happened between us after that conversation, the tension it surfaced, and the unexpected closeness and creativity that emerged when we allowed ourselves to move through the discomfort instead of avoiding it.

Then Allyson shares the part of the story we didn’t get to tell before: her journey into becoming a stepparent.

She opens up about moving into the life of a 13-year-old with autism, questioning whether she was capable of doing it, feeling guilt and shame because love didn’t come as naturally as she thought it “should,” and eventually realizing that becoming a parent required something deeper than simply taking on the responsibilities of one.

It required choosing.

We talk about hypnosis, family patterns, boundaries, finding your own authentic parenting style, the rite of passage stepparents rarely receive, and the moment Allyson finally felt in her bones: I am his parent too.

We also explore what it took for us to stop feeling like “Beth and Jack… and Allyson” and begin becoming a true parenting team.

This one is for the stepparents, blended families, parents of children with special needs, and anyone learning that family isn’t always something you inherit.

Sometimes, it’s something you consciously choose.

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What if the quality of your sex life has a lot less to do with what happens in the bedroom… and a lot more to do with everything that happens outside of it?

In this episode, Beth and Allyson open up about their personal histories with sex, intimacy, desire, shame, power, and erotic energy, and how those experiences have shaped the relationship they have today with one another and sex

They talk candidly about learning to use their voices, trusting each other’s “yes” because they can trust each other’s “no,” letting go of sex as an obligation or measurement of a healthy relationship, and discovering that intimacy can begin with something as simple as bringing your partner coffee in bed.

They explore:

• How early sexual experiences can shape our relationship with intimacy for decades• Sex as performance, power, distraction, validation, or escape• Why safety is foundational to vulnerability and pleasure• Learning to communicate what you actually want and don’t want• The difference between needing sex and desiring connection• Why intimacy is built in the tiny moments throughout the day• Erotic energy as something bigger than the physical act of sex• How long-term couples can allow their sexuality to evolve as they evolve• Why what happens in the bedroom often magnifies what is already happening outside of it

This isn’t an episode about the mechanics of sex.

It’s a conversation about the energy underneath it.

The presence. The attunement. The honesty. The safety. The desire.

And what becomes possible when two people stop performing intimacy and start actually meeting each other inside of it.

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What happens when two people who couldn’t be more different fall in love?

In this episode, we’re putting our differences on full display, from how we sleep, pack for trips, communicate, navigate mornings, take risks, and move through the world… to the deeper patterns that have shaped who we are.

Beth is refined. Intentional. Thoughtful. Safety-aware. A woman who considers the whole ecosystem before she moves.

Allyson is feral. Expressive. Impulsive. Loud. The one who jumps first and figures out the rest later.

And somehow, it works.

But loving someone who operates completely differently than you isn’t always easy. Our differences have triggered us, challenged us, confused the hell out of us, and also become some of the greatest invitations for growth in our relationship.

We talk about the places where our differences show up in everyday life, the ways our nervous systems and communication styles collide, and how we’ve learned to stop making one person’s way “right” and the other person’s way “wrong.”

Because maybe the person who feels like they’re from an entirely different planet isn’t here to become more like you.

Maybe they’re here to introduce you to parts of yourself you haven’t met yet.

This one is playful, personal, and very us.

Welcome to what happens when Feral meets Refined.

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What does parenting look like when the life you imagined isn't the life you were given?

In this deeply personal episode of In Process, Beth and Allyson open up about their experience raising a child with different needs from two very different sides of the family.

Beth shares the reality of 16 years of motherhood: recognizing early that her son experienced the world differently, navigating an autism diagnosis, becoming his safe place and nervous system anchor, and carrying the invisible weight of knowing that parenting may never have the traditional finish line.

Allyson shares the other side: entering the family when Jack was 13, struggling with what it meant to become a stepparent to a child with different needs, resisting the role at first, and eventually realizing that she wasn't simply choosing him... He was choosing her, too.

Together, they talk about the parts of special-needs parenting that often aren't said out loud: the exhaustion, loneliness, judgment, resentment, fierce love, relationship challenges, and breathtaking beauty that can all exist at the same time.

They also explore what actually helps a parent of a child with special needs and why sometimes the most loving thing you can do isn't ask, “What do you need?” but simply step into the arena beside them.

In this episode:

• The early signs that led to Jack's autism diagnosis
• Why “autism is a superpower” can feel both beautiful and painful
• The invisible load of being a primary caregiver
• Supporting independence vs. simply making life easier
• Why outside parenting advice can be so difficult to receive
• The loneliness that can accompany special-needs parenting
• How parenting a child with different needs impacts marriage and partnership
• Allyson's struggle to fully step into the role of stepparent
• The moment her relationship with Jack fundamentally changed
• What caregivers actually need from the people who love them
• Creating a family ecosystem where everyone has a place

This isn't an episode about having the answers.

It's an intimate conversation about loving a child whose needs ask you to experience parenting, partnership and family differently and learning how to meet one another there.

If you're raising a child with different needs, loving someone who is, or trying to understand how to better support a family in your life, this conversation is for you.

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