In the Loop with Andy Andrews

In this episode, we answer a listener's question on how to convince someone to change their behavior.

The concept of change is often misunderstood.

• There are 2 elements required to get someone to change:
  • They need to understand the effect change will have in their life.
  • They need proof beyond a reasonable doubt that change will help them.

• Society has 3 main misconceptions about change:
  • It takes time to change.
  • Someone has to want to change.
  • Someone needs to hit rock bottom before they change.

The elements of change can be used in every area of your life.

• Knowing the 2 elements of change can help you in everything from sales to relationships.

Tune in to hear specific examples of these elements in action.

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on spousal support.

Every marriage goes through hard times eventually.

• Men sometimes have a hard time opening up when they feel bad.
• Go to someone your spouse trusts and ask them to talk to your spouse.
• Sometimes the person we're closest to isn't the person we can hear advice from.
• Part of their self-doubt is wrapped up in you and feeling like they could provide for/support you better.

Be patient even when they don't deserve patience

• Hardship builds bonds.
• You're not the person to tell your spouse what book to read or what CD to listen to.
• You can take an active role by being supportive.

Tune in to hear how Andy's wife helped him during a hard time.

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Discussion line: In this episode, we answer a listener's question on becoming somebody who asks "Why?"

Andy's levels of achievement from The Little Things:

• Z: Z's are the people who don't do, don't know, and don't accomplish anything.
• D: D's know how to do
• T: T's can not only do something but can also teach
• L: L's can not only do and teach but can also lead others in doing something.
• H: H's can not only do, lead, and teach, but they also know how a principle works.
• W: W's are so high on the ladder that we miss them. They know why a principle works.

You can't get the full value of a principle until you understand why it works.

• Our parents teach us not to ask "Why?"
• We only ask "Why" when something is going wrong.
• Understanding why a principle works can only happen while observing the principle working, so always ask "Why is this working so well?"

Something can be true but not the truth.

• The truth is knowledge about something. The truth is the bottom line, the entirety of the thing.
• When people have a problem, they keep looking until they find something true, but they rarely continue looking until they find the truth.

Personal growth doesn't end until you die.

• The hill is always going to get steeper and you will always be climbing.

Tune in to hear how to become somebody who asks "Why?"

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on difficulties with their adult child.

You're never going to stop being a parent to your adult child, but you're not their authority unless they allow it.

• They don't have to agree with you about what the best is.
• Wise people never let themselves out from under the umbrella of authority, even if they have to artificially create it.

At some point, financial support can become enablement.

• Some parents use up all their retirement putting their children through college for a degree they don't end up using.
• By providing for them, you make them think they're more financially able than they really are.
• At some point, you may have to say, "As much as we'd like to continue doing this, we don't have the money."
• It's hard to watch your child suffer when all you have to do is pick up your wallet, but struggling can produce success later in life and you might be robbing him of that.

Tune in to hear Andy's impression of Zig Ziglar!

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on self-control. You can't force real change in your child.

• Most parents who want their child to change, try to force the change by setting tight rules.
• To change someone you need two things: what's in it for me, and proof beyond a reasonable doubt.

Have conversations with your child about their future.

• Get specific about where they want to go in life.
• Tell them you want the best for them, and explain why that change is in their best interest.
• You discipline them so that they can discipline themselves later in life.
• Since the best is only one thing, you can be wrong. Let your kids know they can talk to you if they disagree with you.

How important is it for parents to present a united front?

• It makes things easier.
• The reason parents don't present a united front is because they disagree.
• If it's a difference of opinion, compromise. If it's a disagreement over a course of action, have a conversation about it without fighting.

Tune in to hear how Andy parents and communicates with his kids.

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on the relationship between forgiveness and trust.

Forgiveness has the power to either bind or release a family, business, or relationship.

• Forgiveness means more to the forgiver than to the person being forgiven.
• In order to forgive someone, they don't have to ask for it, deserve it, or even be aware you're forgiving them.
• Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion.
• People can sense bitterness, and they won't remain around it for long.

Forgiveness is about the past—trust is about the future.

• You can forgive somebody who wrongs you even if you don't trust them anymore.
• Someone can prove himself trustworthy again by not making the same mistakes.

Tune in to hear the Bible passage that shaped Andy's view on forgiveness.

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on confidence in leadership

Good leaders are honest about what they know.

• We don't follow people who claim to know everything.

• Good leaders admit they don't know everything and never stop learning.

Good leaders let others be part of the solution.

• Lead people into realizing their own solution.

• If you don't think you have everything figured out, you're in a good place.

A good parent never says "because I said so."

Tune in to hear Andy's strategy for relating to his audience in his speaking.

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In this episode, we demonstrate how to harness the two ingredients of real, lasting change with a chapter from The Little Things.

Why does change give us such a hard time? It has to do with our three incorrect beliefs about change.

• Myth 1: It takes time to change. (Real change happens instantly)
• Myth 2: A person must want to change. (People change when acquiring new information)
• Myth 3: A person won't change until he hits rock bottom.

Instead, true change doesn't occur without these two ingredients:

• What's in it for me?
• Proof beyond a reasonable doubt

If you want to create change, you must harness these ingredients.

Tune in to hear a chapter from Andy's book The Little Things.

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In this episode, Andy reads a chapter from The Little Things on the concept of "almost."

A little thing (like 1/16th of an inch) can make a huge difference.

• Most people attempt to create the big picture all at once when starting a new endeavor. When the big picture doesn't appear as quickly as they hope, they get discouraged.
• Small, strategic moves can yield massive growth down the road.

Tune in to hear Andy's story of how a tiny miscalculation led to a scary situation at sea.

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In this episode, we answer a listener's question on overcoming hardships.

God knows what He's doing.

• We have a limited understanding.
• Sometimes parents allow their children to go through difficulties because they want what's best for their child.

Hardships can be a blessing.

• Adversity builds muscle.
• I wouldn't have chosen to live under a pier, but today I see the benefits of that time in my life.

You can choose how you view hardship.

• Be on the lookout for massive blessings because of your hardships.
• Just because we don't know what God is doing, that doesn't mean He isn't doing great things.

Tune in to hear about the hardest time in Andy's life and what happened because of it.

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