In the Loop with Andy Andrews

In this episode, we discuss a listener's question regarding giving advice to his college-aged son.

Children are in a lot of danger because of this.

• There's a big difference between teaching how to think and what to think.
• The danger starts in elementary school.

Kids need a lot of time with their parents.

• You can teach them how to think.
• It's important to know what they think now and how they came to that conclusion.

Tune in to hear about a conversation Andy had with his son's principal.

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In this episode, we discuss two listener questions regarding how to identify a reliable source and how to speak without notes.

Examine the "leaves" people drop.

• In The Noticer, Jones talks about how much you can learn about a tree from one of its leaves. The same is true for people.
• Look at someone's actions long-term.

Be in a constant state of thought and prayer.

• Hone your instincts so you can trust them when looking for truth.
• No one is always right.

You're not just talking to people—you're trying to impact their lives.

• The more you can get away from notes, the better.
• Great speakers connect their head and their heart.

Be friends with your audience.

• Get off the stage and interact with them.
• Speak directly to certain people.

Sit down to plan your speech.

• Outline 3-4 points (along with an introduction and conclusion).
• Cut down your notes.
• Practice without using any notes.

Tune in to hear an update on Andy's new book, The Little Things.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's question about helping two family members with different personality types get along and appreciate each other.

When you don't understand the different personality types, you tend to have trouble getting along with certain people.

• That makes it hard to be grateful for personality differences.

Have conversations with them (but not to tell them what they've done wrong).

• Let them know how much you love and appreciate them.
• 2 things must be present for them to change: 1. What's in it for them and 2. Proof beyond a reasonable doubt.

Approach this in the context of helping them get what they want.

• You can help them get along without them even knowing.

Tune in to hear how Andy helped a group of people get along who drove each other crazy.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's question about moving forward from a horrific childhood and mending broken relationships.

Sometimes when you feel like something is holding you back—it's actually you.

• This is good news, though, because you have control.

There's always someone out there who had it worse.

• Your past made you who you are today.
• You can use your story to give valuable perspective to others.
• God can take horrible situations and make great things out of them.
• Look for things to be grateful for.

There's a major difference between apologizing and asking forgiveness.

• We apologize when we make a mistake—but we ask for forgiveness when we make a bad choice.
• If someone doesn't forgive you, you don't have to continue spending time with them.

Tune in to hear the story of a horrendous set of events that lead to the birth of a great king.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's question about overcoming the pain of being homeless.

Do you ever lose the pain of being homeless?

• You can lose the pain, but that doesn't mean you'll lose the memories.
• You can choose to focus on the good parts of a situation.

People with a "glass-half-full" mindset naturally get more opportunities.

• Others think they are a joy to be around.
• Great things come out of times of hardship.
• You can choose to think about things that affected your life in a positive way and be grateful for them.

Tune in to hear the story of Andy being accused of stealing money when he lived under a pier.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's question on preparing girls to deal with boys who don't treat them well.

Prepare girls to be self-reliant.

• There's a lot to be said for the teenager who doesn't always have to be with a pack of kids.

They should compare other boys to their father and how he treats their mother.

• This should be the minimum standard.
• Girls need to get good at politely turning down boys who don't meet these standards.

The perfect person is worth the wait.

• Don't bow to the pressure society has that girls should be dating every weekend—or even at all.
• The quality of your children's lives as adults will have a lot more to do with the time they spent with you than time spent dating.

Tune in to hear about someone Andy knows who's raising incredible daughters.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's question about recognition and participation trophies.

This participation thing is harmful to kids.

• There is a whole generation of people out there who don't know what they're good at or what they want to do.
• We don't just want to raise great kids—we want to raise kids who become great adults.
• When you get to adulthood, it matters whether you win or lose.

No one has ever been great at everything.

• God gives everyone a gift—and making people think they are just as good at everything as everybody else doesn't help them find it.

Tune in to hear the incredible story of how Andy's son, Adam, found his strength.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

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In this episode, we discuss a listener's follow-up question to last week's episode about being offended.

Make sure no one in your family is easily offended.

• If you want to raise kids who become great adults, teach them not to take offense.
• You can never have the best for your family without knowing the truth.

Easily offended people are often unwilling to have conversations about it or look at any other side.

• The truth is only one thing.
• Something can be true, but not the truth.
• The quality of your questions always determines the quality of your answers.

Tell them you're sorry they feel that way.

• Let them know you are sorry they feel offended, but don't apologize for telling the truth.

Tune in to hear about the conversation Andy had with someone who was offended that he hunts deer.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

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In this episode, we discuss the impact one seemingly small thing has on our ability to move forward in our careers.

Taking offense can keep you from success.

• When we take offense, it only produces a feeling. You ultimately choose whether you take offense to something or brush it off.
• Offended people often feed off their offense and their anger builds over time—and no one likes to be around angry people.

This is a societal problem on a lot of fronts.

• We live in a world that is increasingly obsessed with how people feel.
• Leaders who have proven their common sense and value can no longer make decisions without threats and demands from people who take offense.
• While we are entitled to our own opinions, we aren't entitled to our own facts.

Tune in to hear the story of a high school that had to change their mascot because it was potentially offensive.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

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In this week's episode, a listener asks for Andy's best advice for a first-time dad. People will tell you they'll grow up fast…and that's true. • As an older dad, Andy paid attention to every moment he could—and his boys still grew up fast. "Discipline them while they're young, or you'll ruin their lives." – King Solomon • Be harder on your children when they're little so they know to follow your first request. • This will strengthen your relationship with them as they grow older. • They'll learn to practice self-discipline at an early age. Tune in this week to hear what Andy always does with his kids every night (even now that they're older).

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details.

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

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