A red flag is when something indicates or draws attention to a problem, danger, or irregularity.  A red flag also represents a warning signal or sign.  When you see red flags in a relationship, what actions do you normally take?  Have you ever been in a situation where you have seen red flags from your significant other, but decided to overlook them?  Some of those red flags could be...controlling behavior...lack of communication...secretive past...lack of trust...

I mean the list could go on and on!

In this episode, Ralph and Touly discuss red flags they've experienced prior to each other as well as in their relationship.  Listen in to find out those red flags, why were they avoided, and what they learned when avoiding the inevitable.

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Some issues are not easy to answer, nor are they easy  to accept.  While it may seem, at the time, like not addressing the issue is the best action, it is actually an abandonment of reason and honest inquiry. What if not addressing the issue has them show up in the form of something else?!?!

In this episode, Ralph and Touly discuss situations in their marriage where they didn't address issues, but they still ended up showing up, just in a different format, creating more damage than originally expected.

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Hello Family we are back from our breaking have so much to tell you!!! In this episode, the Toulons catch you up on everything that has been going on with them personally and in their marriage since Dec 2019. 

Shoutout to Amber and her Fiancé on their engagement. As well as Charlotte on her organization, "A Tribe Called Blessed". Check her out on ig @char.rochelle for more information on the organization.

The death of a loved one can change your world forever. Grief is a natural reaction to loss; it can be felt emotionally, physically and spiritually. Everyone copes with loss differently, and you will process grief in your own individual way, in your own time.

In this weeks episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Roni Lambrecht.  Roni tells us the story of how her and her husband John loss their son in a ATV accident.  She discusses what it took to help each other get through the rough times, doing what works for your marriage in these hard times, and having no regrets.

Key Takeaways from this episode

• How keeping busy helped with the transition of their loss
• Having a support system that is understanding
• How the loss of a child helped other parent do better with their parenting of of child/children
• And paying it forward through acts of kindness in Dalton's name

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About Roni:

Roni and John have been happily married since 1995. Their beautiful son, Dalton, was with us for 15 years, and left for Heaven just after Christmas in 2013 due to injuries from an ATV vs. sandrail accident. Dalton lived his short life with the intent to create smiles, laughter, and happiness by sharing his kind spirit and helping others through tough times. We continue his legacy by counting our blessings as often as possible for the short time we had him and practicing random acts of kindness in his memory, each and every day.

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Additional Information:

Website: www.DoItForDalton.com

Books:

• Parenting At Your Best (2018 Winner of The Gold Mom's Choice Award)
• A Parent's Guide for Journaling to Their Child
• A Parent's Journal to Their Child 

All books are a tribute to Dalton, with hope and anticipation that the stories and advice they offer will inspire current parents to excellence in their parenting and ongoing communication with their children.

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A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.  A married woman may indicate her marital status in a number of different, for instance, in western culture a married woman would commonly wear a wedding ring, but in other cultures other markers of marital status may be used. A married woman is commonly given the honorific title "Mrs", but some married women prefer to be referred to as "Ms", a title which is also used when the marital status of a woman is unknown.   This week on In the Trenches with the Toulons, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Lakia (The Wife Coach) and Derek Brandenburg.  Lakia aka The Wife Coach is an expert in helping women grow from a married woman to a wife.  Through her teachings, she shows women how to be happy, understanding, and patient simply by changing the way you show up.   Key Takeaways from this episode

• The difference between a bride and wife
• God's perspective on marriage
• Power of the "P" - Power of your position as a wife
• And seeing the power within yourself

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About Lakia:

Wife-to-Derek and Coach-to-Wives, Lakia “LB” Brandenburg is The Wife Coach. She is a powerful inspirational speaker, and accomplished relationship author who is committed to helping women (who are married or planning-to-be) to know the difference between being a "married" woman and being a dynamic wife. In her exclusive Teach Me How to be a Wife online masterclass, LB empowers women to get rid of the fairytale syndrome and create a more realistic vision for their marriage and role as a wife. By tapping into The Power of the "P" (your position), and knowing when to "Tame Your Tongue," her clients are taught how to live the "happy wife life" and create their own Picture Perfect marriage. Also as a Certified Prepare-Enrich Instructor, LB coaches couples in preparing for marriage and enriching their relationship through the P/E assessment and her customized VIP Day sessions. To learn more about LB and her services, visit www.lakiabrandenburg.com.

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Additional Info for The Wife Coach:

IG: @TheWifeCoach Web: www.lakiabrandenburg.com FB: www.facebook.com/TheWifeCoach  Twitter: lbthewifecoach    *New* The Marriage Success Planner Available for Pre-order! www.lakiabrandenburg.com/marriageplanner    ------------------------------------------------------------------------   Trench Announcements:

The Money Therapist

Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minute virtual consultation for $50 (Valued at $450 a session). Also one person from the Trench Mob will be selected to receive monthly complimentary coaching from January to March 2020 if they book through this exclusive deal. 

Trench Mob head over to sharitamhumphrey.com and book your 30-minute consultation today because its time to get financially fit! ***USE CODE -->Trench Mob***

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This week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Suzanne Bloom.  Suzanne is a marriage vet with 28 yrs under her belt.  She discusses how her & her husband keep it fresh in their marriage and how you not to resent him while being a stay-at-home wife/mom.

Key Takeaways From This Episode

• Finding the best when being a stay-at-home wife
• Becoming a entrepreneur post stay-at-home career
• And how finances can turn a marriage upside down

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About Suzanne:

Suzanne has been married for 28 years with her share of ups and downs. She raised 4 kids who as a stay-at-home wife/mom.  After all the kids moved out, she transitioned from stay-at-home mom to a business owner, turning things upside down with percentage of income coming into the home.

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The Money Therapist

Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minute virtual consultation for $50 (Valued at $450 a session). Also one person from the Trench Mob will be selected to receive monthly complimentary coaching from January to March 2020 if they book through this exclusive deal. 

Trench Mob head over to sharitamhumphrey.com and book your 30-minute consultation today because its time to get financially fit! ***USE CODE -->Trench Mob***

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Counting is the process of determining the number of elements of a finite set of objects. The traditional way of counting consists of continually increasing a counter by a unit for every element of the set, in some order, while marking those elements to avoid visiting the same element more than once, until no unmarked elements are left. Counting is taking account of when reaching a total.  In the episode, Ralph and Touly jump into The Trenches with, Life & Mindset Coach, Nancy Stevens.  Nancy discusses being ready to go to counseling if required, always work on yourself, and enjoying your spouse.

Key Takeaways from this episode

• Communication not worked on causes more harm because you begin to make assumptions
• Where do you best communication
• You care about each other as people first
• and remove your agenda

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About Nancy:

Nancy Stevens is an International Certified Life Coach and blogger with The Wellness Universe. She enjoys her latest role as a talk show host on “News For The Soul Radio.com”  where she shares her passion for how to cultivate authentic self-care. She is a fitness teacher with many years of teaching mind-body classes: yoga and pilates. Nancy is an accomplished speaker sharing her enthusiasm for personal development and healthy wellbeing to groups and organizations. Her husband is a four-time Grammy award-winner and together they enjoy their four sons!  Nancy’s calling is to connect and empower busy women to find and own their authentic identity so they, in turn, can be change makers impacting others.   ------------------------------------------------------------------   Additional Info: 6 Journaling Prompts for Authentic Self-Discovery  - available free at www.nancystevenscoaching.com   ------------------------------------------------------------------   Nancy's Social Media:   Website: www.nancystevenscoaching.com   Facebook: facebook.com/coachingwithnancystevens   Instagram - @nancyscoaching   Pinterest: pinterest.com/nancystevenscoaching   -----------------------------------------------------------------   Trench Announcements:

The Money Therapist

Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minute virtual consultation for $50 (Valued at $450 a session). Also one person from the Trench Mob will be selected to receive monthly complimentary coaching from January to March 2020 if they book through this exclusive deal. 

Trench Mob head over to sharitamhumphrey.com and book your 30-minute consultation today because its time to get financially fit! ***USE CODE -->Trench Mob***

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References:

1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Counting
2. www.nancystevenscoaching

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance.  The learner is sometimes called a coachee. Occasionally, coaching may mean an informal relationship between two people, of whom one has more experience and expertise than the other and offers advice and guidance as the latter learns.

This week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Relationship Coach, Matthew Solomon.  Matthew talks about how not feeling you are a match doesn't negate a good time during your date.  He also discusses what he heard from his ex-wife translated differently because of his insecurities within himself.

Key Takeaways from this episode

• Communication is Key
• Consent is not as hard as you think it is
• And intimacy is important within a relationship

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About Matthew:

Known as “The Coach for the Modern Soul,” Matthew Solomon’s vision for the modern era is one that is rooted in the understanding that everything is based on relationships; whether they be romantic, familial, corporate or otherwise. From this space, Matthew stands with you in creating the life and experience that you truly desire.

As a coach, an author, and with his regular appearances on over 30 TV, radio, web and podcasts, Matthew has facilitated healing and transformation for individuals, couples, families and organizations.

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Trench Announcements:

The Money Therapist

Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minute virtual consultation for $50 (Valued at $450 a session). Also one person from the Trench Mob will be selected to receive monthly complimentary coaching from January to March 2020 if they book through this exclusive deal. 

Trench Mob head over to sharitamhumphrey.com and book your 30-minute consultation today because its time to get financially fit! ***USE CODE -->Trench Mob***

Saverlife.org

https://www.saverlife.org/?utm_source=sharitamhumphrey&utm_medium=unknown&utm_campaign=001

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We are back for another episode with The Dope Sex Therapist. In this episode you will hear us discuss:

• Open Relationship
• Threesomes
• Polyamory
• Kink/Fetish
• Arousal Gels
• Tantra

*NOTES*

1. If you would like to know more about the Wives/Girlfriend Retreat in Jamaica 2020 with The Dope Sex Therapist & The Wife coach, head over to @TheDopeSexTherapist on Instagram.
2. Want some of that AROUSAL GEL mentioned in this episode. Hit up @TheDopeSexTherapist on IG to get that 20% discount with her Passion Party Rep.

THE DOPE SEX THERAPIST INFO:

Instagram - @thedopesextherapist

Wesbite - www.intimacyventerga.com

A blend is a mixture of two or more different things or substances; e.g., a product of a mixer or blender. But what about when you blend families, what does that look like? Blending families is quite the task and many struggle with finding that happy medium. In this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Joel Hawbaker. Joel has quite the story as he has mastered blended families. He discusses things, such as having grace towards your ex and its okay to disagree as whole as long as you all are respectful.

 

Key Takeaways From The Episode:

• Blending families can work with the proper mindset and tools
• Speak highly of your guests are the kids
• And although it may hurt, you have to do what's best for the children in a blended family

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About Joel:

Joel is an award-winning high school teacher, a best-selling author, and a professional speaker who focuses on blended family life and leadership. He is passionate about helping other blended and stepfamilies learn to live more positively and cooperatively together. He is divorced and remarried, and he currently lives in Alabama with his wife, his two daughters, and their two rescue dogs Bruiser and Butterscotch. Joel loves all things related to JRR Tolkien and CS Lewis, and when he grows up, he wants to be a fighter pilot.

Joel Hawbaker's Social Media:
Website: www.reallifeleading.com
Facebook: @RealLifeLeading or Joel W. Hawbaker
Twitter: @reallifeleading

 

Joel's Book: Inverted Leadership - Lead Others Better by Forgetting About Yourself

To purchase the book on Amazon, click the link below:

https://www.amazon.com/Inverted-Leadership-Others-Forgetting-Yourself-ebook/dp/B07DLJVVZY/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Inverted+Leadership+-+Lead+Others+Better+by+Forgetting+About+Yourself&qid=1573449812&sr=8-1 

 

Promo Offer from Joel:

1 on 1 or Group Blended Family Coaching (inquire for pricing details), book available on amazon ( https://www.amazon.com/Inverted-Leadership-Others-Forgetting-Yourself/dp/1983110167/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Inverted+Leadership+book&qid=1569417256&sr=8-1 )

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Trench Announcements:

The Money Therapist

Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minute virtual consultation for $50 (Valued at $450 a session). Also one person from the Trench Mob will be selected to receive monthly complimentary coaching from January to March 2020 if they book through this exclusive deal. 

Trench Mob head over to sharitamhumphrey.com and book your 30-minute consultation today because its time to get financially fit! ***USE CODE -->Trench Mob***

Saverlife.org

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