Inside the Core with Lisa

Raised to Be Strong: What Gendered Upbringing Costs Our Daughters, Our Sons, and Our Relationships.

The daughter trained to carry everyone. The son trained to carry nothing — and never show it. Both grow up and walk into adult relationships carrying those scripts like they're the truth.

In this episode, Lisa talks about the Strong Black Woman schema, the boys told not to cry, and the pursue-and-withdraw pattern so many couples live inside — and how to break it: redefine strength, grieve what those children didn't get, and practice a new script. What was learned can be relearned.

Inside the Core with Lisa — weekly conversations on how culture shapes trauma and healing. Hosted by Lisa Valeus Ayotunde, therapist, Master Level Clinician, certified child welfare case manager, life coach, and author of Mindset Shifts After Trauma.

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Lisa opens the series in her own voice with a look at Haitian child rearing: the survival-shaped parenting born of Haiti's history, its protective strengths, its gendered burdens on daughters, and how families are breaking cycles and choosing healing. Sometimes life doesn't break you — it introduces you to the parts of yourself that still need healing.