Insight and Connection

Insight and Connection

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  • Understanding Collaborative Divorce with Collaborative Divorce Attorney Theresa Beran Kulat

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    On this episode, we discuss collaborative divorce with with collaborative divorce lawyer Theresa Beran Kulat.

    Theresa Beran Kulat stands for healthy relationships. Working as a divorce mediator and Collaborative lawyer since 2002, she has been helping families heal through the end of a marriage. She and her husband were the first couple in Illinois to prove-up a Collaborative Divorce. Recognizing the value of respect and care throughout the divorce process, she pivoted her legal career to make this available to more people.
    She began training in the model in 2010 and has mentored many Collaborative
    Practitioners. One of the jokes in our community is how many people had their first case with Theresa.
    She stands for Love, Peace, and Freedom. All are possible as “family” gets redefined.
    She has been a Fellow of Collaborative Divorce Illinois since 2002, having held many leadership positions including President in 2016 and 2017. Her membership and involvement with the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals has also been consistent since 2002. Her service on the Family Law Section Council of the Illinois State Bar Association informs her perspective on divorce litgation.
    Theresa received a B.A. in Economics from John Carroll University and her J.D. from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She has mastery level training at the TantraNova Institute and Quantum Healing training in The Rowley Method.
    Her writing credits include: “Holistic Divorce: An Opportunity for Transformation”,
    published inStress-Free Divorceand the “Collaborative Process Act Chapter” inGitlin on Divorce. She provides training and public speaking on a variety of topics including personal growth and development.
    You can reach her at:

    STG Divorce Law, P.C.

    www.stglawfirm.com

    or 630-960-4656.



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  • Addiction as a Family Disease

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    Therapist couple Patty and Cam explore addiction not just as a substance problem, but as a whole-family disease rooted in attachment wounds and generational patterns.

    Using a fictional family — John (alcohol use disorder), his wife Sally, and their two kids — they walk through John's story using three frameworks:

    • The Laundry List (Adult Children of Alcoholics' 14 traits)
    • Attachment Theory – how early emotional neglect shapes adult behavior
    • EMDR's four themes – particularly defectiveness ("I don't matter") as the core driver of John's drinking

    Key Takeaways

    • Addiction is a symptom of deeper emotional pain, not the core problem
    • Treating only the substance use disorder misses the underlying attachment wounds
    • Shame, hyper-independence, and emotional shutdown are generational patterns
    • Blaming the addict perpetuates the very shame driving the behavior
    • Healing is possible — neuroplasticity allows new connection pathways to be built
    • The whole family system is affected; recovery requires the whole system to heal

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Insight and Connection is hosted by Patty and Kam Dirilten. Patty and Kam are psychotherapists and have been married for 25 years.  They have two children.  The goal of the podcast is to…