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For more than 13 years, Todd and Peter have worked together in the area of marriage. Their primary objective is to help students develop a mature in idealistic vision of marriage as the primary vehicle to create wholeness, meaning, purpose and happiness in their lives, and on working to perfect the character issues that lie at the core of a successful spouse – giving, empathy, focus, staying power and a strong desire to help build the other. Their work combines practical and mystical Jewish wisdom with modern theory and techniques, and with experience accrued through years of real-world implementation and practice. 

Tod Jacobs is Director of the David Robinson Institute for Jewish Heritage in Jerusalem, which he co-founded in 2005. Prior to his current role teaching and counseling his students and alumni, he enjoyed a distinguished career on Wall Street as a leading authority on the telecommunications industry. As a managing director at JP Morgan and before that a partner at Sanford C. Bernstein and Company, Tod acted as a frequent commentator to leading newspapers, magazines and TV networks, and testified several times before the U.S. Congress as an expert on telecom and media policy. His credits in journalism, where he worked prior to Wall Street, include nominations for both the Pulitzer Prize for investigative journalism and the Emmy Award. Tod lives in Jerusalem with his family.

Peter Lynn has served as Dean of Students at the David Robinson Institute for Jewish Heritage since its inception. He holds a MA in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) from the University of Pennsylvania, and is Founder and Director of the Greatness Within Seminars, where he helps empower individuals and organizations through the application of Positive Psychology. An accomplished athlete and Ironman finisher, Peter was captain of the US World Duathlon Team. He lives in Jerusalem with his family.

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The Inspired Living Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. This content is not therapy, does not establish a clinical relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for mental health treatment, diagnosis, or professional advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your local emergency services or call/text 988 in the United States.

About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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Rayna Jhaveri ("REY-nah-jia-VERY") is a TELEVISION CHEF on an Emmy-winning cooking show, a punk MUSICIAN, standup COMEDIAN and lifestyle WRITER who's been published by Rolling Stone, Forbes, Vogue, and CNN.

But her confidence is hard-earned: she grew up as a SHY, QUIET kid who felt INVISIBLE, SILENCED and ALIENATED from those around her, a CLOSET INTROVERT who craved MEANINGFUL CONNECTION but often experienced SEVERE social anxiety and CRIPPLING emotional isolation instead.  

• Her history of TRAUMA, complex PTSD and dissociative RAGE sent her on a healing journey of DEEP reflection, RECOVERY, and transformation.  

• Teaching herself to LITERALLY be seen and heard over the years -- on SCREEN, STAGE and PRINT -- has helped her RECONNECT with her true self, and claim her POWER and VOICE.

• And now she puts her 20+ years of expertise to use by helping camera-shy ENTREPRENEURS, COACHES and CONSULTANTS show up COURAGEOUSLY to CONNECT with, INSPIRE and SERVE their ideal audience ... by being 100% THEMSELVES on video ... WITHOUT fancy equipment, a million tries, or an inner critic that takes over the show!

Listen and be inspired by Rayna's transformational, empowering, and inspirational story!

For more information on Rayna Jhaveri go to:

Website: www.raynajhaveri.com

Instagram: @the.rayna.sense
 

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About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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This is a discussion from this months article, You, Reclaimed & Rewritten, in Dr. Horn's  column, Connecting the Dots, @ TOI  MAGAZINE. 

The full article can be found in the October 2020 issue at www.toimagazine.com

In this show, Dr. Shawn:

-Defines the concept of our "personal narratives."

- Discusses how our narratives direct our internal and external realities.

-And how we have the power to rewrite our stories!

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About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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OUTLINE: Shame-Free & Shame Resilient 

What does being “shame-free” mean? Does it mean you're free of shame? How is that different from shame-resilience? Today We're going to talk about what it really means to be shame free and define shame-resilience.

• Define-So what does being shame-free mean?
• The serenity prayer 
• Shame resilience defined
• Micro shames discussed
• The Role of Forgiveness (define forgiveness)
• Loving Inner Parent described

“In conclusion, when we are shame-free we are releasing toxic shame and embracing healthy shame. We transition from I am a mistake, to I made a mistake. Our inner critic becomes our helpful inner coach.” 

“Shame Resilience is the ability to tolerate the discomfort, find the strengths in the journey of the pain.” 

If you want to learn more about the specific steps that you can take to master shame resilience, then please sign up for my masterclasses and my newsletter on my website at www.drshawnhorn.com. 

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Disclaimer:
The Inspired Living Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. This content is not therapy, does not establish a clinical relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for mental health treatment, diagnosis, or professional advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your local emergency services or call/text 988 in the United States.

About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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Visit: www.drshawnhorn.com

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Some people are microwaves. Some people are crockpots!

MICROWAVES are fast processors who are able to quickly identify their feelings, needs, wants, etc.

" I think, I feel, I need, I want, how about you!?!

They make the error in assuming others can too! They expect to have conversations right now, right here in the moment. Their mantra, "Don’t go to bed angry!"

A CROCKPOT is a slow processor. They need time to let it all settle in before they can wrap their minds around what the think, feel, want, etc. Their response to the microwave... 

"Ummm......."

They feel pressured when asked for a response in the moment and may give a response to appease the microwave. Later to resent the microwave for being "pushy" and they may not agree with their answer. The microwave will say, "What? I thought you were ok with this now. Why are you still upset?"

💥SOLUTION

Microwaves give your crockpot time. Say:

"I have some thoughts I'd like to share when is a good time?”

How about a week from now we can get back to this and you can share with me your thoughts. Does next Tuesday work?"

Accept the crockpots differences and need for time.

CROCKPOTS-

Accept the microwave is quicker & it's ok. Change the story from them being pushy to them being quick processors.

Ask for time. "This is really important and we need to talk about it. How about this Friday we make time to address it. Does that work?

"I don’t have an answer right now as I need time to think about this. Let’s talk tonight."

Change the narrative from them being pushy to being quick processors. It's their super power!

We must understand that we're all different and have different needs. Guard from making the mistake that others think, feel, need, want, and react with the same motivations & same way as you. If we don’t understand our differences we will unknowingly shame one another by holding unrealistic expectations for ourselves & others as we hold to ideals and shoulds.

I hope this model is helpful. It's one I created and share with my clients.

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About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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Ericia is an illustrator and mental health advocate passionate about using art to talk about trauma & healing, holding a safe space for others and sharing her personal recovery journey. She is currently studying to become a clinical psychologist in Melbourne. You can find her work on Instagram at @ericiaa_ and she is available for projects, commissions & collaborations.’  

Ericia has created a special gift for listeners! She is offering  a free wallpaper as a digital download available on her IG page @ericiaa_

Disclaimer:
The Inspired Living Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. This content is not therapy, does not establish a clinical relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for mental health treatment, diagnosis, or professional advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your local emergency services or call/text 988 in the United States.

About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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About the Guest:

Lindsay | Alive + Awake  

Transformational leadership expert, international speaker, master coach to global game-changers, TEDx speaker, HuffPost blogger, author of Path of the Unicorn and founder of Alive + Awake.

Lindsay is a transformational leadership expert, international speaker, master coach to global game-changers, TEDx speaker and author.  A regular Huffington Post blogger and often featured as a speaker and expert in the media, she is also completing her first novel and screenplay.  Lindsay is obsessed with combining up to the moment research on positive psychology, hypnotherapy and leadership, integrating body, mind and spirit with ancient wisdom traditions such as yoga and Buddhism, to create profoundly transformational experiences for everyone she’s blessed enough to guide along their path.

She began her career at A.T. Kearney, a top-tier global management-consulting firm.  In the transformational leadership coaching space for over 18 years, Lindsay has spoken to and coached founders and influencers at global events such as the World Economic Forum in Davos, Mindvalleys’ Afest, Mindvalley’s Evercoach, the Bliss Project, and leading organizations, including Accenture, and A.T. Kearney, Starbucks, Carobon 38, RBC Financial Group, FullCycle, P&G, lululemon, Deloitte and Revlon.  She has been cited as an expert media such as The Globe and Mail, The National Post and Canadian Business Magazine. When she’s not spreading her message internationally, Lindsay is living her dream with her four children in Costa Rica, where she guides elite leaders, founders and influencers from around the world through transformational leadership journeys in the surf town where she lives.   Lindsay has a B. Comm from Queen’s University, where she majored in strategy and organizational behaviour. She is a certified professional co-active coach (CPCC) with CTI and a RYT 500 certified yoga teacher. 

You can find her on Instagram @lindsayalive and on Facebook and LinkedIn @lindsaysukornyk Her website is www.aliveandawake.com.

Mentioned in this episode is Lori Harder's The Bliss Project and Vanessa Gibson on Instagram @themermaidranch

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About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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The Shame Sisters is now LIVE on YouTube

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The Inspired Living Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. This content is not therapy, does not establish a clinical relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for mental health treatment, diagnosis, or professional advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your local emergency services or call/text 988 in the United States.

About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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Dr. Shauna Shapiro

Shauna Shapiro is a professor at Santa Clara University, best-selling author, and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and compassion. Dr. Shapiro has published over 150 journal articles and co-authored three critically acclaimed books translated into 16 languages, including her most recent book: Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire the Brain for Calm Clarity and Joy. She has been an invited speaker for the King of Thailand, the Danish Government, Bhutan’s Gross National Happiness Summit, the Canadian Government, and the World Council for Psychotherapy, as well as for Fortune 100 Companies including Google, Cisco Systems, Proctor & Gamble, and LinkedIn. The New York Times, BBC, Mashable, the Huffington Post, Wired, USA Today, and the Wall Street Journal have all featured her work, and over 1.5 million people have watched her TEDx talk The Power of Mindfulness.  Dr. Shapiro is asumma cum laude graduate of Duke University and a Fellow of the Mind and Life Institute, co-founded by the Dalai Lama. 

More information can be found at drshaunashapiro.com, 

TEDx talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeblJdB2-Vo

Good Morning, I Love Youhttp://bit.ly/GoodMorningILoveYou

Show Notes

Episode 14: The Self-Compassion of Mindfulness

1. Introduction
2. Mindfulness

1. Health Benefits of Mindfulness

1. The Practice of Setting Intention

“Intention is a direction it’s not a destination.”

“If you’re thinking about really painful and difficult thoughts all the time, that’s your experience. If you are focusing on gratitude and beauty that’s your experience.”

1. How to be present with emotions-“Name it to Tame It.”

“It’s not that we should neglect our pain, but we need to learn how to be with it in a different way.”

1. Self-Compassion-The most powerful antidote to healing shame, our greatest internal ally.

“You’re not practicing mindfulness, your practicing judgement, impatience and frustration.”

1. Self-Compassion vs. Self-Esteem 

1. New information on Happiness Set Point

1. Authentic living-attention is authentic

1. Practicing kindness to yourself-Good morning I love you.

1. Prime the brain for looking for the good in life!

“Your future is spotless.”

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About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

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Passing on a message from a medical professional. Family and friends requested that I record this information so they may share with others. Hope this helps. Stay healthy everyone!

Disclaimer:
The Inspired Living Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. This content is not therapy, does not establish a clinical relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for mental health treatment, diagnosis, or professional advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your local emergency services or call/text 988 in the United States.

About Shawn Horn, PsyD, PS:
Dr. Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist in Washington State. Her views are her own and do not represent any institution or employer.

Learn More & Access Resources:
Visit: www.drshawnhorn.com

Copyright © Dr. Shawn Horn. All rights reserved.