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Awareness Changes EVERYTHING!

Last week we talked about the power of awareness and how to develop the skill of awareness. 

I believe that awareness should come before we try to make changes. 

Many times, once we've increased our awareness, things change without us even trying to bring about change. 

Intentionality is the Next Step.

It's powerful to be aware of what's truly going on in your life. Far too often, we realize that things are not going how we would like them to, and we jump straight into trying to change things. 

Now that we've developed some awareness, we can start to identify things that we would like to change. From last week's exercise of developing awareness around your thoughts, feelings, and unintentional models, you now have a greater awareness of what is really going on. 

Now being intentional is the next step.

Now that you've identified your unintentional thoughts, feelings, actions, and results, you can start becoming intentional with your model. 

Intention Impacts Who We Are

Last week we talked about how simply changing the action doesn't create lasting change and how it's so important to develop awareness before trying to make changes. 

Most of the time, after temporarily changing our actions, we go right back to being who we used to be. 

Last week we used the example weight loss. Usually, people don't take the time to understand exactly what is going on or developing an awareness of what's going wrong. Instead, they jump right into a new diet or exercise program. They might experience temporary results, but without awareness, the real issue usually takes over again.

You go right back to being who you were before because your identity never changed. 

Now that we have have the awareness, rather than simply changing what we do, we want to intentionally change who we are!

Someone who is extremely physically fit isn't that way simply because they exercise regularly or because they eat healthily. Instead, they exercise regularly and eat healthy because they ARE someone who is physically fit. 

Simple Steps to Develop Intention and Identity

#1 Do Daily Thought Downloads

#2 Explore Who You Want to Be and How They'd Think 

#3 Explore Who You Want to Be and How They'd Feel

#4 Do Unintentional and Intentional Models to Create Your Results

#5 Be Intentional and Patient 

Give it some time. Be willing to practice, and practice, and practice. Continue gaining awareness, start making decisions intentionally, and practice living in alignment with your intentional model. 

This is changing who you are as a parent and how you show up in the world. This will take practice and time.

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